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Monday, July 19, 2010


Updated: I'm one of the 10 finalists for the Not Mom of the Year Contest. Could you pretty please vote for me? Go here to vote.

Last Monday, I joined in with The Mommyologist and Life Without Pink for their Not Mom of the Year Contest.  In doing so, I wasn't saying Oh, look at me, I'm the worst mom in the world and I'm proud of it!  My point, that soooo many of you agreed with I totally love you, was that we all probably have this ideal in our heads of what "Mom of the Year" looks like. And none of us can really live up to that. And so, we are Not Moms of the Year.  We're REAL moms.

NOT Mom of the Year Award

Thank you for making this my most-commented on ever post here(you know, with the exception of some giveaway posts and the day that I was featured on SITS...but the most commented on "regular" post). I'm going to join in with Kerri's Klutter for her Comment Love Letters this week(even though her linky doesn't go up until Tuesday) so that I can share bits and pieces of some of the comments that the post received- because I think they can make us all feel better about not being able to live up to some impossible standard of Mom of the Year.

If you missed my Not Mom of the year post, you can check it out HERE.

Dear Shell, sweetheart, you come sit right over here by me. I'm quite possibly the other bookend to your not mom of the year! This makes me feel like I'm really more in the "normal" category than I thought. I love when bloggers write about the real side of motherhood.

Don't tell anyone, but my kids had ice cream for dinner last night, I was too tired. Shell, we sound so much alike! Can you imagine if we lived near each other? Our naked kids could play in the mud together and popsicles for snacks (and maybe a meal or two). I think we could be very good friends. And our kids could run around the house near naked together... Love the very thought! You know what? The two of us are obviously identical souls separated at birth. I kept wondering how you'd been spying on me while describing your own "Not Mom of the Year" antics.

And your description of Mom of the Year? Total motherbitch. I wouldn't be able to put up with her for one second!! You know the Mother of the Year doesn't exist right? She's just a better liar. eff mom of the year! Mom of the Year? Isn't that a little statue made out of some non-recycleable material and only shows up in the stores around April just in time for Mother's Day? If your description of Mom of the Year exists, I guarantee I wouldn't like her!

Mom of the year also has an extra 30 minutes a day because she doesn't pee, poop or sweat. Mom of the Year does not take into account the fact that kids are a major challenge. Mom of the year only exists where Kid of the Year does... in our imagination! LOL Lol, those kids of the "Mom of the Year?...... yeah, they grow up to be serial killers....

I think most mom's of the year are Stepford Wives incognito! that mom of the year sounds boring and needs a romp in thesack. I think mom of the year has about 2 weeks left before she goes crazy. It would be hard being so perfect all the time. Mommy of the year sounds like one hellatiously exhausted lady. If she does exist, she deserves a nap. That mom of the year? I'd like to punch her in the face.

It would such a drag to be perfect everyday. And then what would you blog about and who would want to be your friend?? Ive never met a mom of the year...I think its a myth...like bigfoot If there is anyone person that does all of those things, well she is probably lying. Or needs to be shot so the rest of us don't look bad. Cause that other person isn't real and if she is I'm gonna kick her a$$!!!

If Mom of the Year really exists, she's probably got her own secrets anyway. A closet alcoholic or something. No Mom is that perfect. i'm a little frightened of your mom of the year. she sounds.. repressed. like one day, she's going to be in the middle of making brownies and there's going to be this little snapping sound and her eyes are going to get all cold and soulless. and before you know it, she's stolen some jacked-up truck and drives it through the front wall of the department store.

I think we all do the best we can and at the end of the day, if the kids are fed, mostly clean and clothed and know that they are loved, then we all get to be "mom of the year"! I'm a good mom but far from perfect. The kids are happy though and that is what really matters. The cool thing about Mom of the year, I think the kids get to nominate and it sounds like you are doing a fabulous job!!

I say as long as people do good by their children, love them, teach them good things, take care of them ect, they are wonderful. Keep up the great work. Your kids are learning that they are wonderful the way they are. They are loved and valued more than activities. They are learning to be together as a family unit.

You are the perfect mom for your boys and that's all that matters! REAL moms are the best moms! :) In my view we are ALL Moms of the year, because we are real, we love our children and they love us just the way we are. And, then like you said, - you just love them - and that's when you really become mom of the year - when you love them when they are so stinkin' unlovable! And still encourage them!

The most fabulous readers in the blogosphere

P.S. Thank God for an admitted occasional spanker! No one ever talks about it, but sometimes, you just gotta whack!

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Blogger Kmama said...

Love this! The comments made such a great letter!!

July 19, 2010 at 8:27 AM  
Blogger Kim said...

You do have some fabulous readers (me included, lol). Seriously, I am so glad for the success of your blog. You deserve it.

July 19, 2010 at 8:34 AM  
Blogger Oka said...

Thant turned out great, pulling all those comments.

"P.S. Thank God for an admitted occasional spanker! No one ever talks about it, but sometimes, you just gotta whack!" Amen, and sux we have to be scared to talk about it.

July 19, 2010 at 8:37 AM  
Blogger Evonne said...

I love how you put your comments together!

"Sometimes you just gotta whack" - I shouldn't laugh at that, but I am. It's true

July 19, 2010 at 8:46 AM  
Blogger MommyLovesStilettos said...

Love it!! Thanks for sharing!

July 19, 2010 at 8:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Those are some great comments, love them all!

July 19, 2010 at 9:03 AM  
Blogger Ma What's 4 dinner said...

Seriously, everyone needs a little smack now and then. My kids don't listen, do yours???

Lots of yummy love,
Alex aka Ma What's For Dinner

July 19, 2010 at 9:14 AM  
Blogger Joey Lynn Resciniti said...

Anyone who's watched Desperate Housewives knows that the "perfect mom" is bound to crack at some point.

July 19, 2010 at 9:14 AM  
Blogger Kat said...

Amen, Shell! Those comments hit the nail on the head! My kids are grown. I wasn't mom of the year either. But you know what? The fact that they return home says a WHOLE BUNCH about my NOT mom of the year capabilities!

July 19, 2010 at 9:16 AM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

Cheers to the real Moms!

July 19, 2010 at 10:00 AM  
Blogger JennRawks said...

i was lmao at closet alcholohic moms!! haha.

well said and i know im not a perfect mom. i admit it. nothing to be ashamed of at all.

i spend way too much time on my computer =)

July 19, 2010 at 10:05 AM  
Blogger MommaKiss said...

I love your letters made from comments. Awesome way to blog and show the love at the same time.
REAL moms are probably the only way I've learned to cope. Like when I was feeling bad about not making baby food or using formula once in a while. Or when I cried and cried and didn't LIKE my baby. Loved him, but like was far-fetched feeling. Misery loves company, right? I have many REAL moms to confide in.
Not to mention, my kids are loved. That's pretty much what makes me happy.

July 19, 2010 at 10:35 AM  
Blogger Life Without Pink said...

This is exactly the reason we ran this contest...to get moms talking about the real struggles and joys of motherhood!

I am watching my girlfriend's son {so I have 3 boys right now}...girl I dont know how you do it!

And we think alike because my post for Wednesday's Pour Your Heart Out is a spin off from our contest!

July 19, 2010 at 10:35 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

lol What a great letter out of comments. I love the brownie part. lol Thanks for coming by my blog. My daughter was thinking about taking a few friends skiing but she wasn't serious. A bowling party and dinner afterwards might be it.

July 19, 2010 at 10:50 AM  
Blogger Together We Save said...

Great job!! You make me feel so much better about being me!

July 19, 2010 at 10:54 AM  
Blogger Jenn said...

What a great idea. And, great comments! It's great to hear from REAL moms. I love when people are just honest and don't try to put on a show. And your original post was fantastic!

July 19, 2010 at 11:08 AM  
Blogger Megan said...

You readers are clearly just as sweet and clever as you!

July 19, 2010 at 11:15 AM  
Blogger Dalia (Generation X Mom) said...

I love how you put these all together! Very funny!

July 19, 2010 at 11:24 AM  
Blogger Babes Mami said...

Awww comment loves! So sweet!

Who wants perfect? I know I don't!

July 19, 2010 at 11:25 AM  
Blogger Ian said...

So who won the contest?

July 19, 2010 at 11:41 AM  
Blogger The Random Blogette said...

I love this! Such a great idea. I admit I have whacked my daughter's butt a couple of times. Sometimes you just have to! Real moms rawk!

July 19, 2010 at 11:55 AM  
Blogger adrienzgirl said...

You have some GREAT commenters. You really do! ;)

It was definitely a special post!

July 19, 2010 at 12:21 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

What a really great post! I would not be Mom of the Year for many reasons as well including the fact that I put my son to bed early last night so I could eat pizza, drink wine and watch Glee. Yikes! I feel bad even admitting to that!

July 19, 2010 at 12:29 PM  
Blogger Tabatha said...


thanks for sharing.. and see how loved you are.

July 19, 2010 at 12:34 PM  
Blogger Sassy Salsa girl said...

Lol! I'm totally anti spank, but I still find myself swatting my boys butts when they're really naughty, lol!

July 19, 2010 at 12:44 PM  
Blogger Secret Mom Thoughts said...

Those comments made for a great letter. The commenters and your post made me feel more normal.

July 19, 2010 at 12:45 PM  
Blogger Nancy C said...

This was a therapeutic prompt for sure. I think it's a sign of how much we want to do a good job that we constantly worry that we could do better.

July 19, 2010 at 1:28 PM  
Blogger Tammy said...

You did great putting that together! Loved it girl!

July 19, 2010 at 1:29 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Haha! This is cute(the letter meme) and of course your post! and yes, I agree, no one ever talks about spanking. I'm not one to go crazy with it, but a good pop on the buns every now and then is healthy! :)

July 19, 2010 at 1:36 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Love this! I personally don't think there is one mom in the world who is worthy of mom of the year. We all have our moments whether we admit it or not

July 19, 2010 at 1:48 PM  
Blogger Frugal Vicki said...

I'm bummed I missed the post, but glad you posted about it again so I could read it! I love the sometimes you gotta whack comment, cracked me up.
I stole the bts button, yeah yeah, I know it isn't the first two weeks anymore, but still gotta show you the love!

July 19, 2010 at 2:11 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

I have not gotten through all of the posts yet (in fact, I only half completed my own. It's been one of those days. Weeks. Whatever.) I am going to go click over to read yours, because I am so far behind in my usual blog reading, but through each of your posts, you can always see the love for your children shining through. And in my experience, those moms who think they're perfect-- end up with their kids hating them. Ahem.

July 19, 2010 at 2:12 PM  
Blogger One Photo said...

Great comments! I think comment love and those times when you get such fabulous comments are one of the very best things about blogging.

July 19, 2010 at 2:20 PM  
Blogger Sugar Bear said...

Awesome comment love Shell. Thanks for playing along with me to highlight such an important subject.

I've been having a lot of mommmy guilt the last few days...think I'm cured of that after reading your words and your comments.

July 19, 2010 at 2:22 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Were the real mmoms.lol!

July 19, 2010 at 2:37 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

These are such fun!

July 19, 2010 at 3:07 PM  
Blogger TornadoTwos said...

These are perfect! It's so refreshing to hear this. If everyone is just doing the best they can, where on earth did we get this perfect-mom ideal? I'll admit, I go to bed at night and think of all the things I did wrong that day and feel guilty for it. That's why I loved your "not mom of the year post", it was honest and sounds a LOT like me.

July 19, 2010 at 3:11 PM  
Blogger liz said...

Go Shell! And thanks for putting those snippets of comments together. It was fun to read.

July 19, 2010 at 3:22 PM  
Blogger Joann Mannix said...

I whacked one last night,as a matter of fact. Sometimes the sass is out of control and so a quick reminder is in order.

Great letter. What fabulous commenters you have.

I hope your birthday was joyous.

Now off to vote.

July 19, 2010 at 3:35 PM  
Blogger Lourie said...

The thing about "perfect" moms is they haven't learned to embrace all the imperfections that come with parenting. Cheers to all of us who let the kids watch too much TV and let them run with scissors. Wait, you don't do that? *ahem* Love you!

July 19, 2010 at 4:28 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

I had some great comments on mine too. How 'bout you vote for me & I'll vote for you! :)

July 19, 2010 at 5:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congrats on your NOT Mom of the Year Nomination! I already voted for you! I am so glad that I have found other moms that are REAL like me!

July 19, 2010 at 6:40 PM  
Blogger Gigi said...

Congrats, SHell! Your post was definitely one of my favorites!

July 19, 2010 at 7:10 PM  
Blogger Liz Mays said...

Those came together so smoothly!

July 19, 2010 at 7:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one being a "bad" mother. (Confession: I let my youngest sleep in her clothes all the time.)

July 19, 2010 at 7:57 PM  
Blogger Ali said...

That was great!
FYI: I am sittin in a sea of toys in our family room with a path from the kitchen to couch that hubs cleared with a ride on toy so we didn't step on hot wheels!

July 19, 2010 at 8:42 PM  
Blogger Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said...

Loved the post and the comments...I have a new giveaway on my holiday blog, A Baby Changes Everything, with more copies of IN A HEARTBEAT to give away on TUESDAY. Stop by and enter....Have a great week..


July 19, 2010 at 9:52 PM  
Blogger Cheeseboy said...

Holy COW! Is everyone I follow a finalist for this contest? I also follow #1 and 7.

For you I will clear my cookies and go back and vote one more time, although my votes are becoming more meaningless.

I really did enjoy your post though.

July 19, 2010 at 10:00 PM  
Blogger shortmama said...

Arent REAL moms awesome?! Perfection is overrated

July 19, 2010 at 10:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so not surprised girl. Your post was amazing! You totally deserve this. Congrats!

July 19, 2010 at 10:28 PM  
Blogger Simoney said...

I'll be over to vote for you quick march! You are a way cool NOT MOM OF THE YEAR, Shell!

July 20, 2010 at 12:33 AM  
Blogger Katina said...

Girrrrl sometimes you gotta whack mulitple times! You so totally deserve it! On da way to vote now!

July 20, 2010 at 6:52 AM  
Blogger  said...

I just voted for you; looks like you're in second place.

I'm pretty sure I beat you on being Not Mom of the Year, though. I just didn't get entered into the contest. But after how yesterday went - the second most horrible day of my parenting life, which I will not be blogging about in detail for fear of losing my children forever - I win. Not a contest I want to win though. I so desperately want to be like the mom you described in your Mom of the Year post. She sounds so awesome. Why isn't it possible???


July 20, 2010 at 4:24 PM  
Blogger MommyLisa said...

I love this award - hope you win! :)

July 20, 2010 at 4:47 PM  
Blogger Tiffany said...

That was awesome! You did a great job taking those comments and making a great post! Fabulous girl.

July 21, 2010 at 12:01 AM  

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