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Monday, November 28, 2011

Hey, It's Okay

Hey, It's Okay....

To wish for a giant bottle of wine when you are stuck in traffic in the pouring down rain, your fuel light comes on, and a child pukes.

To read a book while your husband drives because watching him drive gives you a panic attack.

To get annoyed when you inform your mother of your plans and she says "That's okay," like you need her permission to do anything.

To wish your family could be a little more subtle about which of your children is their favorite or better yet, for them not to actually have a favorite.

To think the sweet potato casserole you made for Thanksgiving dinner was the best thing on the table.

To think your sister needs to chill the F out when it comes to her son.

To be jealous of your sil's amazing weight loss.

To feel a little left out when your siblings talk about all the things that they do together when you aren't there.

To miss your friends and wish you could spend more time with them than your family when you are visiting back home.

To be relieved to be back in your own bed after a long trip.

To know that you probably won't ever catch up with all you missed when you were out of town for a long trip and decide not to even try. It's okay if the delete button is your friend and you just start over fresh.

Joining in with Amber at Airing My Dirty Laundry for Hey, It's Okay: "I got this idea from Glamour magazine. They have a section called Hey, It’s Okay and will list a bunch of things to be okay about. You're welcome to join in and do something like this on your blog. Doesn't have to be on a Tuesday either. Just make sure you link up!"



Anonymous Anonymous said...

I LOVE Glamour. I have a subscription, and Hey, It's Okay is one of the things I make sure I read every week!

I really liked your list, Shell.

The delete button is often my friend, too! And, I smiled REALLY BIG when I read the second one. My husband's driving gives me a panic attack, too!

November 28, 2011 at 7:04 AM  
Blogger Alison@Mama Wants This said...

I love the Hey It's Okay section in Glamour!

Your list is awesome - especially the one about sleeping in your own bed.

November 28, 2011 at 7:17 AM  
Anonymous Galit Breen said...

Oh, love this girl. We all need a few more moments of reassurances to not buy our worries, right? xo

November 28, 2011 at 7:29 AM  
Blogger Ali - My Suitcase Full of Tricks said...

Glad you're back home Shell! Psst - I bet your sweet potatoes were the best.

November 28, 2011 at 7:34 AM  
Blogger Jessica said...

Oh, sounds like you need a vacation to recover from this one. Hope things are getting better and of course your food was the best.

November 28, 2011 at 7:49 AM  
Anonymous Stephanie said...

Like Jessica said, why do we always seem to need a vacation from the vacation. Although I am not at all sure that visiting family qualifies as a vacation :P

Hope you are able to relax and have that glass of wine. Sounds like you could use it !

November 28, 2011 at 7:56 AM  
Blogger Kmama said...

Great list. I saw one of your posts or a tweet or something and I just KNEW you home with family over the holidays. And Hey, it's okay to be so grateful to be back home! ;-)

November 28, 2011 at 8:11 AM  
Blogger JDaniel4's Mom said...

I loved going to see family, but getting to sleep in my own bed and be at our house again is wonderful.

November 28, 2011 at 8:14 AM  
Anonymous Tracy @ stoopmama said...

Oh, I LOVE this meme! Great idea. I hope you get a vacation to recover from your vacation. (I hate it when that happens.)

I'm making your sweet potato casserole today, if it makes you feel any better. :)

November 28, 2011 at 8:40 AM  
Blogger Evonne said...

Family can be so much fun. I know mine is. Or not.

Those sweet potatoes sound delish! It's ok for me to think my broccoli casserole was to die for, right?

November 28, 2011 at 8:48 AM  
Blogger WhisperingWriter said...

Mmm, yum, I LOVE sweet potato casserole. That's one of my favorite dishes ever.

November 28, 2011 at 9:08 AM  
Blogger Kir said...

I used to love that column, before I got old and started reading BLOGS instead LOL

My family is just as FUN or dysfunctional, take your pick!!!!

I think you are MORE THAN OK, my sweet potato casserole friend. xo

November 28, 2011 at 9:21 AM  
Blogger vinobaby said...

Love it. It's okay to be relieved when the mandated family time is over. (And in my case this year, it's okay to be thrilled the In-Laws were absent from all festivities!) Hope you got your wine--and a chance to relax at home (vomit-free) at least for a little while. Cheers.

November 28, 2011 at 9:21 AM  
Anonymous Cindi said...

And hey, it's ok to say we're glad you're back. (LoL)

November 28, 2011 at 9:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I love this idea. I could think of a few for me!

November 28, 2011 at 9:41 AM  
Blogger From Tracie said...

This is a great idea!

I'm glad to hear these things are okay, because several of them apply to my. Especially that second one. And the sil's weight loss (except it is my cousin). And the delete button....sometimes I think of it as the "sanity restorer" because it is necessary.

Glad to have you back!

November 28, 2011 at 9:41 AM  
Blogger Robbie K said...

I ALWAYS read when DH is driving and we are on long car trips! Course if I hadn't been I might have seen the car that hit us Christmas Eve 2 years ago. The one where we ended up stuck om the side of the highway for 6 hours and then spending Christmas eve in a hotel.

November 28, 2011 at 9:44 AM  
Anonymous Denise said...

All those things are most definitely okay. And it is okay to not give a crap whether anyone in the comment section thinks your list is okay :)

November 28, 2011 at 9:53 AM  
Blogger KLZ said...

I always read in the car because....that's my only time to read. But hey, it's ok if I steal your rationale right? Because people would take more kindly to it?

November 28, 2011 at 9:56 AM  
Blogger Mommy Shorts said...

Is it okay that I didn't cook a thing for Thanksgiving?

November 28, 2011 at 10:23 AM  
Blogger The Preppy Girl in Pink said...

This was a great post! I am happy to be home again too! I'm starting to think that families at the holidays are what ruin it for me. It only takes one person to make it uncomfortable for the whole group. I think from now on we are just going to say we are snowed in! Yes, even if there is no snow ;-)

November 28, 2011 at 11:05 AM  
Blogger RoryBore said...

well of course your sweet potatoes were the best!

love reading this section every week, and not just because it gives me permission to procrastinate, coffee in hand, while I ponder all the stuff to do on this dreary Monday!

November 28, 2011 at 11:11 AM  
Blogger Stasha said...

I love this idea! I might have to do one of my own this week!

And it IS OK to use that delete button sometimes. Or the 'mark all as read' button.

I hate telling someone my plans and they say "It's OK" like I was asking. Hello? I am 30 something years old! I am not asking, I am TELLING you what I am going to do.


November 28, 2011 at 11:13 AM  
Blogger DysFUNctional Mom said...

Holidays with family are never quite what we hope they'll be, are they?

November 28, 2011 at 11:14 AM  
Blogger Hutch said...

I might be more jealous of my new mom friends and their weight loss and joke about how I need to have a kid so I can be skinny again.

November 28, 2011 at 11:22 AM  
Blogger Missy said...

I just emailed you saying I hope you had a decent weekend. I think I got my answer in this post. Right - on the favorites thing. OMG. And SO right on the sister needing a chill pill about her child. #nottheonlychildintheuniverse

November 28, 2011 at 11:27 AM  
Blogger Kristina P. said...

I love sweets and I love potatoes, but I'm not a huge fan of sweet potatoes. I KNOW!!

November 28, 2011 at 11:38 AM  
Blogger Helene said...

Love this!! I also bring something to read when we go for long drives in the car with my husband driving. I can't watch the road or I'll have nightmares. Why, for the love of God, do men continue to press the gas pedal forcefully when everyone else in front of them is braking??!!

And I'll bet your sweet potato casserole was the BEST!!!

November 28, 2011 at 11:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is such a lovely idea!

November 28, 2011 at 12:06 PM  
Blogger TheUnSoccerMom said...

LOVE the list! And I can SO identify with some of those. :o)

But I would be wishing for some dark, imported beer. :o)

November 28, 2011 at 12:24 PM  
Blogger Oka said...

It is all okay, isn't it?

November 28, 2011 at 12:26 PM  
Blogger Elaine A. said...

Hey, it's also okay to have gained 3 pounds, right? Or not. Geez.

Sweet potato casserole is SO good!!! ;)

November 28, 2011 at 12:38 PM  
Blogger Natalie said...

Oh the holidays...and the quality family time. I think I'm going to copy the blogger that goes on vacay for Thanksgiving every year...I think that's a fantastic idea! :)

November 28, 2011 at 12:38 PM  
Blogger The Anecdotal Baby said...

Ah, thank you for that last one. I so needed to hear it. It's been super busy the past two weeks and I've been feeling guilty about not catching up on the blogs. Spending all my time catching up with house cleaning. Wish there was a delete button for laundry, vacuuming, cleaning toilets! Where's my magic wand for that?!

November 28, 2011 at 12:50 PM  
Blogger Lourie said...

I need this list for those times when I need a moment.

It's okay to want to lock yourself in room when the kids are pulling you in three directions and/or fighting for the 30th time in an hour.

And yes, your own bed is always the best one.

November 28, 2011 at 12:58 PM  
Blogger Grumpy Grateful Mom said...

Great list! I sometimes have to put my head down or close my eyes when my husband drives--but I still like him to drive. :)

Family always makes life...interesting. Glad you made it back.

November 28, 2011 at 12:58 PM  
Blogger Hines-Sight said...

I love what you come up with in your writing. Such good thoughts.

Thanks for entering my photo shoot giveaway. I've got you down.


November 28, 2011 at 1:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

One of my favorite parts of Glamour.

I love your list. Any wish for wine is good with me.

November 28, 2011 at 1:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

One of my favorite parts of Glamour.

I love your list. Any wish for wine is good with me.

November 28, 2011 at 1:27 PM  
Blogger Mom of 12 said...

My parents always had their favorites. I was not one of them...I try really hard not to do that to my kids or grandkids.

November 28, 2011 at 1:34 PM  
Blogger Nicole said...

Happy Thanksgiving! Glad your sweet potato casserole worked out :)

November 28, 2011 at 1:35 PM  
Blogger Kelli MW said...

Words can't express how much I love this!! I'm in a constant "good enough" mode these days -- I believe "It's Okay" and "Good Enough" are similar siblings of thought.

PS -- nice job on the sweet-potato casserole! I thought my cranberry chutney was the best thing on the table too... no one else gave a shit... excuse me, gave it a shot. But it's okay. At least *I* knew it was awesome, right?!

November 28, 2011 at 1:58 PM  
Blogger Dumb Mom said...

How about if your family has a least favorite? Because that sucks a little too!

November 28, 2011 at 2:19 PM  
Blogger Just Cherish Today said...

ohh im totally doing this! great idea!!

November 28, 2011 at 2:25 PM  
Blogger Courtney K. said...

I can't help but hit delete either when I am away for a while. There is no way that I can catch up on everything, so I just sift through what matters. And I know what you mean about your sister. Mine doesn't have a son (or a child at all, for that matter), but she's waaaay too high strung for my patience. Hope you guys had a great Thanksgiving!

November 28, 2011 at 2:34 PM  
Anonymous molly said...

hey, it's okay that I was glad to come into work today after four crazy days with my boys

hey, it's okay that I've done nothing but write at night for the past month and the house has gone in the crapper during that time ;)

November 28, 2011 at 3:03 PM  
Blogger Secret Mom Thoughts said...

Family really shouldn't have favorites but they do. Drives me crazy.

November 28, 2011 at 3:03 PM  
Blogger Barbara said...

Your list is great! I always wish I could spend more time with my friends when I'm visiting family!

November 28, 2011 at 3:07 PM  
Blogger Angie said...

It IS okay!!

November 28, 2011 at 3:10 PM  
Blogger Renee said...

Your list rocks! It's nice to know that I'm not the only one that freaks out about my husband's driving.

Glad you're happy to be home! :)

November 28, 2011 at 3:12 PM  
Blogger Rach (DonutsMama) said...

I think it'd be ok to have 2 bottles of wine, lol!

November 28, 2011 at 3:20 PM  
Blogger Jen said...

Hey, this is all totally ok! :)

November 28, 2011 at 3:27 PM  
Blogger Brittney said...

i soo love this idea!!! your family sounds sort of like mine haha!

November 28, 2011 at 4:07 PM  
Blogger Emmy said...

Yep last night I marked all blogs as read- starting fresh today. I wish I could read in the car- it makes me feel sick. Sounds like you had an interesting Thanksgiving- hope the good out weighed the bad

November 28, 2011 at 4:17 PM  
Blogger Liz said...

The "Hey It's OKs" are so fun, aren't they? So, I'm guessing you went out of town for Turkey break and it wasn't exactly the greatest time. That's too bad! And I hope the pukies leave very soon.

November 28, 2011 at 4:42 PM  
Blogger blueviolet said...

I hope your kids didn't notice them playing favorites like you did. :(

November 28, 2011 at 5:07 PM  
Anonymous Lane said...

It's good to know that some of the stuff I think is okay to think. :) I sometimes wish I could say it out loud too...

November 28, 2011 at 5:14 PM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

Oh my gosh, why'd you list my life in this post? LOL! As far as my DH's driving though, I just squeeze my eyes shut instead of read a book. I figure, God forbid I die from his driving, I don't want to witness it.

November 28, 2011 at 5:25 PM  
Blogger Jackie said...

I use the delete button a lot more often than I should. I'm bad with keeping up with my reader & everything else... and it's okay.

I hope your son is feeling better.

November 28, 2011 at 5:29 PM  
Anonymous Carrie - Cannibalistic Nerd said...

Ditto on the "getting permission" from your mom thing. I didn't ask!

November 28, 2011 at 6:14 PM  
Anonymous Kimberly said...

Thanksgiving just brings out the best in us doesn't it.

"Hey it's ok...to think that my mother in laws turkey could be used as weapons of mass destruction"

November 28, 2011 at 6:26 PM  
Blogger Singedwingangel said...

OH I can't read while riding I get sick and I can't sleep well either. The slightest curve and I am ready to leap from the car like we just wrecked.. I think I would have rather gone to town or somewhere else then be here with my sisters. Seriously.

November 28, 2011 at 6:30 PM  
Blogger FamilyFoodFitnessandFun said...

Great list..made me laugh! And I agree with the "favorite" child. Like, seriously?!

November 28, 2011 at 6:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

LOL. I think everyone should chill the f out at one time or another. great idea--

November 28, 2011 at 7:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I love your list!

Hey, sometimes it's absolutely okay...

November 28, 2011 at 8:33 PM  
Blogger Not a Perfect Mom said...

I love this idea!
But I could prob go on and on...haha

November 28, 2011 at 8:34 PM  
Anonymous Kate F. (@katefineske) said...

Welcome back.. and yes... your list is A-OK ;)

November 28, 2011 at 8:36 PM  
Blogger Honey B. said...

How about wishing that your sister would look at her kids and wake the F up? I think she's forgotten about them. :-(

November 28, 2011 at 8:40 PM  
Blogger championm2000 said...

Hey, at least you didn't crack open the bottle of wine in the car! So, yes, totally okay :-)

thanks for the laughs.

November 28, 2011 at 9:33 PM  
Blogger Jen said...

I love this, Shell!
Glad you're back home now. And sometimes, I hit the "mark all as read" button...it feels so good to just start fresh :)

November 28, 2011 at 10:06 PM  
Blogger Corinne said...

I can't watch my husband drive either...he's a lunatic

November 28, 2011 at 10:39 PM  
Blogger Julie said...

Ummmm....except for the fact that my SIL made the awesome sweet potato casserole this year, this could have been my list.

Down to every last Chill the F Out!

So thanks for the smile. And the permission to hit the delete button.

(Especially since I already did.)

November 28, 2011 at 10:48 PM  
Anonymous Rachel @ Totally Ovar It said...

I love your list. So entertaining, yet so honest.

November 29, 2011 at 12:08 AM  
Blogger Jessica said...

I tend to tweet a lot when my husband is driving so I don't have to see how close the cars are in front of us.

November 29, 2011 at 2:23 AM  
Anonymous tracy@sellabitmum said...

Oh I love this - and your list is awesome.

November 29, 2011 at 6:47 AM  
Blogger Lisa @ Two Bears Farm said...

Whew, sounds like you had some stresses this holiday. Me too, me too :-( Hooray for moving on, right?!?

November 29, 2011 at 7:28 AM  
Blogger Kim said...

Hilarious and so true that you will never know how close to my reality it is, too.

November 29, 2011 at 8:24 AM  
Blogger Lisa said...

It's also okay to wish they had people you could pay to potty train your kids.

Great post Shell. As usual.

November 29, 2011 at 10:09 AM  
Anonymous Jocelyn @ ScooterMarie said...

Love it! And now I feel better because a lot of those would be on my list, too.

November 29, 2011 at 11:48 AM  
Blogger The Blonde Duck said...

Thanks for keeping it real!

November 29, 2011 at 12:23 PM  
Anonymous Cam | Bibs and Baubles said...

great idea and great list. i think the best place for me is the back seat when the hubs is driving. just seems safer back there!

November 29, 2011 at 3:06 PM  
Anonymous Emily said...

Amen to everything I just read here.

November 29, 2011 at 4:05 PM  
Blogger Jill said...

Just back from Argentina and I am SO happy to be back in my own bed :)

November 29, 2011 at 7:48 PM  
Blogger Sorta Southern Single Mom said...

Oh Girl, I feel you on so many levels, especially the mom thing! I know we have different issues, but we've both got mom issues. There was, though, a little part of me that was sad I didn't get to go home, because right now, I'm the one who's had the big weight loss! :)

November 29, 2011 at 7:52 PM  
Blogger Heather said...

I love this Hey, It's Okay idea! I find that for the most part spending time with friends is so much less stressful than spending time with family!

November 29, 2011 at 11:05 PM  
Blogger Kimberly said...

It sounds like you need a vacation to recover! I have also learned to hit the delete button when I've been away too. There's not way to catch up on it all.

November 30, 2011 at 1:02 AM  
Blogger Kakunaa said...

OMG, I love this. Seriously. But I am meme'd out. But you touched on so many things that I feel. And I am always amazed by your ability to be in my brain.

November 30, 2011 at 7:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Love it. Absolutely love it. :)

November 30, 2011 at 11:05 PM  

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