Things They Can't Say About Parenting
With the holiday this week, we're trying something different for the Things They Can't Say feature. Last week, over on my facebook page, I asked you to tell me a hard truth, something you don't always like to admit, about parenting(in just 1-3 sentences). Below are some of the responses.
Having a newborn and three year old has been very overwhelming. So much so that twice this week I have forgotten to buckle my three year old in his car seat! Not proud of this...ugh!
Sometimes I wonder if I would be a more effective parent if my kids were afraid of me. If they had more fear of what might happen if they misbehaved.
I prayed for the summer to be over and for school to arrive so I could send my youngest away for 2 hours a day. His constant whining at me and crying over nothing exhaust me, and I desperately needed a break from him!
I can't talk about my parenting disagreements with my husband. We are in a different camp on everything and it's breaking us apart into tiny pieces.
Some days, I just want a whole day to myself and on those days, being with my son all day is hard. I feel guilty just thinking it.
From working with kids for years I thought I knew it all and parenting would be easy, but I have been proven wrong. There have been many days, especially with my son, when I don't know why he's acting a certain way or why something hurts. I am terrified something is wrong with him.
I'm terrified of leaving my girl- emotionally and/or physically- the way so many other "parents" in my immediate family have left their kids (at one point or another). I pray i'm the exception, but am terrified of history repeating itself.
I struggle with guilt over my postpartum. Im hoping and praying Im not screwing my kids up, because I have issues.
I wish there was a way to have it all, be a good mom, wife and woman without giving up little parts of myself. I worry I'm too selfish to be a mom sometimes.
Your kids won't remember that the house was perfect. They will remember the time you spent with them. Priorities!
I find myself showing less and less affection to my older child, I don't know if it's a mix of because she's getting older and how I don't really show affection to people in general (not a touchy/feely person). I hug, kiss, and snuggle up to the baby like crazy, but as much to the big kid and I feel SO guilty & often hate myself for it.
I have always worried that I will turn into my Mom as I get older with the way that I interact with my child and my husband. Now I am scared that I really AM turning into her. . . It's not the person I want to be.
I don't always like my job as mom or my kids! Horrible? I know BUt being the single parent right now (for a year!) is tough in a lot of ways.
parenting is hard enough without having to navigate MY parents' unsolicited "advice" or "concerns" about my children. You had your turn. Keep it to yourself now.
I have an 11 y/o girl & 5 3/4 y/o boy and I still struggle daily with how much I need to do FOR them vs. how much I should encourage them to do for themselves. I want to raise capable people without putting too much on them as children.
I know my son acts out sometimes because I don't give him enough attention, but I still find it hard to pay full attention for as long as I should.
Out I lied about being a more patient mom after already raising a pack of kids. My daughter who is being raised as an only, gets the short end of the stick a lot because, well because my stick is worn down to a nub.
somedays i dont like my son. like really,dont like him. maybe he is too much like me?
Having a newborn and three year old has been very overwhelming. So much so that twice this week I have forgotten to buckle my three year old in his car seat! Not proud of this...ugh!
-Jenny, Happenings of a Little Bubsy
-Denise, According to Denise
I prayed for the summer to be over and for school to arrive so I could send my youngest away for 2 hours a day. His constant whining at me and crying over nothing exhaust me, and I desperately needed a break from him!
I can't talk about my parenting disagreements with my husband. We are in a different camp on everything and it's breaking us apart into tiny pieces.
-Tracy, Sellabitmum
-Alison, Mama Wants This
From working with kids for years I thought I knew it all and parenting would be easy, but I have been proven wrong. There have been many days, especially with my son, when I don't know why he's acting a certain way or why something hurts. I am terrified something is wrong with him.
-Evonne, Jules Outloud
I'm terrified of leaving my girl- emotionally and/or physically- the way so many other "parents" in my immediate family have left their kids (at one point or another). I pray i'm the exception, but am terrified of history repeating itself.
-Christina, Finally Mom
I struggle with guilt over my postpartum. Im hoping and praying Im not screwing my kids up, because I have issues.
-Jessica, The Spit Up Chronicles
I wish there was a way to have it all, be a good mom, wife and woman without giving up little parts of myself. I worry I'm too selfish to be a mom sometimes.
-Kir, The Kir Corner
Your kids won't remember that the house was perfect. They will remember the time you spent with them. Priorities!
-Krista, Douple Dipped Life
I find myself showing less and less affection to my older child, I don't know if it's a mix of because she's getting older and how I don't really show affection to people in general (not a touchy/feely person). I hug, kiss, and snuggle up to the baby like crazy, but as much to the big kid and I feel SO guilty & often hate myself for it.
I have always worried that I will turn into my Mom as I get older with the way that I interact with my child and my husband. Now I am scared that I really AM turning into her. . . It's not the person I want to be.
-Stasha, Ponderings of a Middle Age Mom
I don't always like my job as mom or my kids! Horrible? I know BUt being the single parent right now (for a year!) is tough in a lot of ways.
-Crystal, Surviving and Thriving in Mom-dom
parenting is hard enough without having to navigate MY parents' unsolicited "advice" or "concerns" about my children. You had your turn. Keep it to yourself now.
-Christine, Quasi Agitato
I have an 11 y/o girl & 5 3/4 y/o boy and I still struggle daily with how much I need to do FOR them vs. how much I should encourage them to do for themselves. I want to raise capable people without putting too much on them as children.
-Jennifer, Just Jennifer
I know my son acts out sometimes because I don't give him enough attention, but I still find it hard to pay full attention for as long as I should.
-Robin, Farewell Stranger
Out I lied about being a more patient mom after already raising a pack of kids. My daughter who is being raised as an only, gets the short end of the stick a lot because, well because my stick is worn down to a nub.
somedays i dont like my son. like really,dont like him. maybe he is too much like me?
-Annemarie, You Leave Me Breadless
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