FYL: Mommy's Still Fabulous
Erica from Mommy's Still Fabulous - don't you just love the name of her blog?
I admit it. Sometimes? I’m not a good friend.
I forget birthdays and anniversaries. I don’t call as much as I should, and I certainly don’t give as much as other people do.
And I pay for it. Because while I might be a social butterfly, and love to have a bevy of friends around me, I don’t have many good, close friends.
Oh, I have lots of girlfriends to call and chat with, or to share a cocktail with on a Friday night. But I don’t have many friend friends…
I don’t know if it’s because I didn’t have many girlfriends in high school, or I pushed people away when I was dealing with depression in college, but I don’t feel like I have a core group of girlfriends who would drop everything they were doing to save my ass in a pinch.
Sisters.
Don’t get me wrong; people like me are blessed.
I’m blessed to have friends that send me Hallmark hellos in the mail… just because.
I’m blessed to have a circle of girlfriends who are always up for sushi.
I’m blessed to have girls I can call for advice about things I wouldn’t necessarily put out there in the Internet.
I’m blessed to have girlfriends with whom I can laugh over a bottle of wine.
I’m blessed to have girlfriends who tell me not to stress… and they mean it.
I’m blessed to have a husband who supports me and really is my one, true Bestie.
But sometimes, you need a girlfriend.
You need someone you know you can call at 2 am in tears, and not feel guilty about it.
You need someone you can have over for coffee, even if you’re not wearing a bra.
You need someone you can share your deepest darkest secrets with – even if you would never tell your husband the same thing.
You need someone to talk you out of chopping off all your hair.
You need someone to help you fix it when you do.
You need someone who won’t judge, even if you’re shouting in hysterics just to be heard.
You need someone who thinks like you and knows where you’re coming from.
You need someone who can hear you say, “I feel fat” and know you’re not really talking about your thighs.
And I don’t really have that.
So I keep a lot inside.
I run.
I write.
I laugh.
I clean.
I work.
I am my own voice of reason.
I am my own best friend.
And I’ve spent a lot of time building me and making me stronger.
I hope that you will visit her blog, along with others that are linked up. The blog you land on might be new to you or their guest will be new to you or both! It's all about making new friends!
I have a guest post up in the hop, too: HERE
Please note that this is not a follow you/follow me blog hop. While you are welcome and encouraged to follow the blogs participating and their guest posters as this is about making new friends, you need to have participated in this by either hosting a guest poster or being a guest poster. Please do not link up if you have not participated.
Labels: Friends You Love, guest post
posted by Shell at
1:01 AM
25 Comments:
oooh I love her name, going to go check her out now!
It would be nice to have a friend to call anytime. Glad I have made some URL friends that take me as I am :D
Such a true post! I went through that when I lived in Denver after having my son since I didn't know anyone...I definitely felt like my own best friend. There is nothing better than a good girlfriend though!
I can so relate to this. Many times I feel closer to all my blog friends then those IRL. :(
I relate a lot to her =)
I only have a few very close friends, but I think that's all on me. I don't trust people enough to let them in.
It is so difficult finding that one person you can really tell anything to and they understand - like when you say you are getting fat and they don't look at you like your head just popped off.
I am headed over to her blog now. She does sound fabulous! I hope someday she can find that someone.
I love how honest this post was.... I'm the same way- lots of great casual friends, no true BFF. It's ok though, I think one will come along someday (LOL, I say that like I'm waiting to get married...)
Following her now!!
I love this blog hop. What a great way to make new friends and honor current ones!
Erica, I loved this post. So much of it could have been words right out of my own mouth. The thing I loved the most about it was what you said at the end about being your own best friend. That is something I struggle with as I tend to be my own worst enemy. The way you put it had me thinking about how I am with myself and some changes I need to make. Thanks for the inspiration. I'm off to find your blog so I can read more from you!!
Fyi, I'd have loved to see you stand on a chair in a conference. Dare ya at the next one.
Ok, Erin-I'm A LOT like you in the friend depatrment! I have a small number of friends that are the go-to. For anything and everything. I like quality vs quantity :)
I want to reply to each and every one of these comments!
Thank you all for the support...I'm so glad to know I am not alone in the way I fit into the friend department.
And thank you to Shell for letting me guest post! When I first got the topic, I thought... oh no, how am I going to write about this, but I like the way it came out.
What a great idea. I've been thinking of doing some guest post!
Thanks for stopping by my blog like Friday..I'm so behind in returning the favors! Still love the flip flops!
Colleen
www.shibleysmiles.com
I truly believe that friendships are one of the most important parts of our lives. Someone once asked me why friendships are so important to me and to this day, that question still puzzles me. I love my girlfriends, don't know what I'd do without them. This is a great guest post Shell!
I LOVE Erica from Mommy's Still Fabulous!!! What a great post!
What a fabulous blog name! I can definitely relate to this post.
Oh, I can relate so much. It's so hard, when you're the one who "has it all together". Unfortunately, that leaves me so alone when things are falling apart..
I already read & love this blog!
I'm still looking for my someone too. I've had close friends but nothing that has stood the test of time or distance, or drama.
I was lucky enough to meet Erica in Philly a few weeks ago. I had been in love with her blog for months, and recently learned we went to the same college. When she saw me, she instantly came up and gave me the biggest hug - I was simply star-struck lol! She really is an awesome woman!
I really liked this post. I love that she can count on her husband to be her best friend. I love her honesty. And I'm jealous that she has a voice of reason who runs with her!
I love this post ... I'm definitely in the same boat. Nice to know I'm not alone!
I love this post ... I'm definitely in the same boat. Nice to know I'm not alone!
I totally nominated you for a blog award! Come on over to my blog!
It is really hard to find that one friend that you can really tell it all.
I already follow and love her and I especially love this post! It was like I was reading someone talk about me!
What a great idea! I want to participate next time.
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