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Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Seeing the boy: Wordful Wednesdays


Because I don't know how to simply post a pic and not say something. I'll write more about Bear and his challenges at a different time. It's something that is still relatively new to us and hard to talk about, even on this blog that is supposed to be one where I can say anything...

But, I still needed to share this much, as the way that others(particularly family recently) see this little boy.

Bear is a beach person, just like his mama.


He's only 3.


He has the most beautiful smile.


He's quick to tell you that he loves you or to ask if you are okay.


He even brought me a tissue and tried to wipe my eyes when I was on the phone with his doctor, hearing his diagnosis.


Not having a clue that I was crying for him.


He has many challenges ahead of him.


But, I'll be there to help him.


I know that it is going to be a struggle.


People who don't know him don't understand.


I get that, I really do.


And thankfully, we've been blessed by people who are willing to try to understand him.


They don't just see his problems.


They just see a sweet little boy.

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27 Comments:

Blogger The Princess of Sarcasm said...

Sweet bear.....I'm here (on email) if you want to share. My best friend's son was giving a diagnosis that's hard for a parent to hear when he was 3. Through her, I can relate to what you are going through perhaps. I'm also a psychotherapist....shhhh....don't tell anyone. ;)

December 9, 2009 at 8:40 AM  
Blogger Kmama said...

What an awesome picture. Bear sounds like a real sweetheart!

December 9, 2009 at 8:44 AM  
Blogger blueviolet said...

I'm glad that you feel you can share a little bit with us. We'll all be here for support and encouragement during whatever lies ahead for Bear and your family! (((hugs)))

December 9, 2009 at 8:50 AM  
Blogger Lisa @ Boondock Ramblings said...

Hang in there. No matter what it is, you know you'll be there for him and love him. That's what he needs.

December 9, 2009 at 9:17 AM  
Blogger Foursons said...

Bear is the same boy he was before the diagnosis as he is after. Not one thing changed about him. You may have a new word, but he is the same precious gift that he always was.

December 9, 2009 at 9:30 AM  
Blogger Working Mommy said...

What a beautiful picture!! I am a beach person too...I think it is the Aquarius in me!

~WM

December 9, 2009 at 9:35 AM  
Blogger Heather said...

Bear sounds like a sweetheart. He is lucky to have such a loving mama to help him through whatever rough patch might be ahead.

((hugs)) Heather/ 3under3

December 9, 2009 at 9:52 AM  
Blogger pam said...

What a sweet boy! Love and hugs are sent your way today.

December 9, 2009 at 10:10 AM  
Blogger The Mommyologist said...

I love that photo! Thinking of you and your family!

December 9, 2009 at 10:16 AM  
Blogger Tami G said...

Love the photo and Bear sounds like a precious little boy with a big heart.
You will get through this together and I will add you to my bloggy prayer list =)
{{HUGS}}

Tami G

December 9, 2009 at 10:26 AM  
Blogger Heather @ Two Little Monkeys said...

Bear is such a sweetie. Big hugs.

December 9, 2009 at 11:03 AM  
Blogger Sherean said...

Just found you on WW. Read your post and am softly weeping. I don't know you but my heart is breaking for you just the same. You sound strong and I'm sure you will be the best "momma bear" to Bear there ever was. Peace -- Sherean (www.randomneuralfirings.net)

December 9, 2009 at 11:04 AM  
Blogger Whimsical Creations said...

hugs! What a sweet little boy.

December 9, 2009 at 11:37 AM  
Blogger Steven Anthony said...

what an amazing pic....I can speak from experience on this much, a mothers love can get you through allot, and I can see in your words just how much you love that little guy, knowing he has you and your support will help get him through the tuff stuff.....mothers are truly Gods love brought down to earth...

peace

December 9, 2009 at 12:46 PM  
Blogger The Wifey said...

Children at the beach always touch my heart. But dear children like your boy, melt it.

All I see when I look at that picture is a sweet little boy, too. :)

December 9, 2009 at 12:56 PM  
Blogger Brenda said...

He sounds like such a sweetheart, God bless you on the road you have ahead.

December 9, 2009 at 1:26 PM  
Blogger Shell said...

Thanks to everyone for your kind and supportive words. We've had a busy day of running around like crazy people and it was nice to come back to my computer and see all the bloggy love.

I'll write more about Bear when I can...though there is actually a law suit involved right now, so I'm not sure how much I can say and what will need to wait until after all of that is over.

But, thanks again for your support. It truly means the world to me.

December 9, 2009 at 4:30 PM  
Blogger Pam said...

Great pic. I love the beach also but don't get to visit it often

December 9, 2009 at 4:58 PM  
Blogger kys said...

That was a very loving post. I'm sure your boy will do wonderfully in life with the support of his awesome family!

December 9, 2009 at 9:36 PM  
Blogger 2 Toddlers and Me said...

It sounds like you are a very understanding person and have a heart full of love. I hope things head in a positive direction for you and your son. It's a beautiful picture and a touching post.

December 9, 2009 at 10:03 PM  
Blogger Twincerely,Olga said...

what a wonderful picture! I hope things will be ok! I am out here for you!

December 9, 2009 at 10:30 PM  
Blogger adrienzgirl said...

That picture is priceless Shell. Absolutely beautiful.

December 9, 2009 at 10:49 PM  
Blogger Stacy (the Random Cool Chick) said...

Awwww! I'll be keeping you and Bear in my thoughts and prayers! ((HUGZ!!))

December 9, 2009 at 11:17 PM  
Blogger SupahMommy said...

my heart is dropping for you.... you can do whatever is put in front of you... for him :) You've always been one of the most caring momma's I've seen... you'll get through this and find new ways to share with all of us... your experience so that WE can be better too.

December 10, 2009 at 12:33 AM  
Blogger Corrie Howe said...

He is a sweet little boy. And as long as you see him that way, others will eventually start seeing him through your eyes.

December 10, 2009 at 2:36 AM  
Blogger Poolside with the Girls said...

I'm so sorry...

You are an awesome mom. You will get through this with him and you will help him with whatever challenges he faces.

Have faith.

December 10, 2009 at 7:54 AM  
Blogger PaleMother said...

This post sort of rang a bell with me. My son's Young Five's teacher (we held him out of Kindy for a late birthday and maturity) decided he was too unusual. A year long drama ensued while we followed her instincts (how can you dismiss an experienced teacher's concerns?) It was very hard to talk about (that was pre-blog anyway). It was like falling down a rabbit hole. Two years later, he is doing fine without a formal diagnosis, but boy did I learn a lot. After reading your post about preschool a while back, I have a feeling I will have at least some empathy for what you are going through.

You are in my thoughts. Drop me a line any time.

Take care of yourself.

December 10, 2009 at 10:47 AM  

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