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Wednesday, February 3, 2010

WIMTS: Motherbitch Edition

Soooo, here's what happened:

Despite my bad experiences with mommy groups, I decided to go ahead and offer to host an event for the group.

There are often game nights and I love games, so I thought that would be fun.

And, if I'm hosting, then I'm forced to talk to people, instead of silently mocking them while I sip a cocktail in the corner and be one of the only people who actually eats. Why do some women feel like it's a competition as to who can eat the least amount of food before they proclaim that they are stuffed? I not only lose, I don't even try to play. Not fun.

Okay, back to the story.

So, I offer to have a game night, with some fun games, including Just Dance, since you know that I love that. You have to loosen up and be silly when you play, plus it's something different from what they usually do, so I thought why not.

Games, drinks, food, fun.

But, the very first person to respond to my post about it asks if I could make this a family night because her husband would want to come, too.

And then four more moms reply after that, agreeing that it would be so much fun for this to be a family event.

Um, excuse me?

What I said: While dh would probably love to host a poker game here some night for the guys, I can't see doing all of that on the same night with all the kids here, too.

What I Meant to Say: What the hex? This event is in my home and you are wanting me to add your spouses and all of your kids to the mix? How is that going to be a fun night? All the dhs sitting around, eating my food, while all the moms run around chasing their kids all around my house. And I did mention that this was at night so MY kids will be in bed, asleep. This does not sound like fun to me, at all. It will leave me with a big freaking mess to clean up from all your kids running around and will defeat the purpose of my suggesting this night in the first place. No freaking thank you.

I haven't mentioned it again. I'm done.

Dance Party is moved to my blog and you're all invited!

See post below for details and join in!

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Blogger Unknown said...

Good for you for not going along with it! That would have been a disaster...the ONLY thing that would have made it a success would be copious amounts of alcohol!

February 3, 2010 at 7:16 AM  
Blogger Sassy Salsa girl said...

Glad you said no, why should you change YOUR party! The point of having it is to be free from the cares of mommyness/wifeyness ;)

February 3, 2010 at 7:19 AM  
Blogger danita said...

oh no! that is just wrong!

February 3, 2010 at 7:26 AM  
Blogger The Mommyologist said...

You know how I feel about these (ahem) ladies!

Seriously, what women don't want a night away from the husband and kids??? Totally weird.

February 3, 2010 at 8:01 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Man really, who does that?! So not cool. Love you new background btw. ;0)

February 3, 2010 at 8:11 AM  
Blogger Oka said...

Wow, I would of never thought of adding that as a suggestion. Do they host family nights or is it game night for the mommies. Sheesh

February 3, 2010 at 8:18 AM  
Blogger Tracie said...

I'm glad you stood your ground.

I had a friend who wanted her husband with her all the time. Like she was a toddler and he was her blankie. She pulled that kind of crap on me too. Very annoying.

February 3, 2010 at 8:21 AM  
Blogger Secret Mom Thoughts said...

So annoying.

February 3, 2010 at 8:22 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

UGH I am perfectly capable of having a night away from my hubby, like he would notice anyway lol... that was rude and total crap.. heck invite us the bloggie world and we will show up with martini glasses plenty of liqour and our own wiimotes lol

February 3, 2010 at 8:25 AM  
Blogger Evonne said...

I've never been in a moms group so maybe I'm wrong, but I thought these events were for moms to do something without kids or spouses? Good job for saying no!

Love your new background!

February 3, 2010 at 8:36 AM  
Blogger Karin Katherine said...

I am proud of you for not caving in. I would have caved and then resented it.

February 3, 2010 at 8:38 AM  
Blogger Jene said...

I randomly came across your blog yesterday, and I'm so glad I found you. Thank you for this post, I'm glad I'm not the only megabitch.

February 3, 2010 at 8:44 AM  
Blogger T.J. said...

You just can't win, huh? You go out of your way to swallow it down and extend a hand and then they ask for more. Way to stay strong, Shell! And as a winner of my family's gluttony bowl, I can proudly say that I would totally blow those gals out of the water with all the food I'd wolf down in front of 'em!!!

February 3, 2010 at 8:54 AM  
Blogger Foursons said...

That is ridculous that they tried to dictated how you should have your party. Seriously- who
ARE these women?

February 3, 2010 at 9:03 AM  
Blogger Ducky said...

Hmmmm....Sandbox syndrom...really...dontcha know cats shit in sandboxes?

I'm amazed at the audacity of others. I shouldn't be. I've lived long enough to see a helluva lot (but NOT long enough to see it all. I'm not THAT old). If someone wanted a Family Fun night - let them host.

I don't blame you. I'd be done too!

Just Dance....I'm working on hubs...we don't have a Wii but my sister does....I REALLY want to participate!

February 3, 2010 at 9:14 AM  
Blogger Kmama said...

WTH? Seriously, people have absolutely no common sense and no couth. I think you handled that "fabulously".

February 3, 2010 at 9:16 AM  
Blogger Ash said...

Loved this - "All the dhs sitting around, eating my food, while all the moms run around chasing their kids all around my house."


Sounds like a blast. What a social ma-roon who suggested embracing the entire clan.

You need to move to Texas. Girls Night Out is a state passtime around here.

February 3, 2010 at 9:25 AM  
Blogger Kearsie said...

I found the cure to this. You move into a tiny 800 square foot apartment and only have room for a tiny loveseat. This way, you never have to have company over. Works like a charm.

February 3, 2010 at 9:34 AM  
Blogger Lothiriel said...

uugghh! That's great that you stood your ground!! I can imagine having all those children running around at bedtime. HOw annoying! I belong to a SAH Moms group. The competition is always about whose husband makes the most money! urrgghhh!

February 3, 2010 at 10:26 AM  
Blogger Anna said...

My husband would kill me if I invited him to a supposed-to-be ladies night. Talk about feeling uncomfortable!
And why the H are women afraid to eat? I stuff my face at those parties and am not afraid to admit it! That is what food is for, right? Motherbitches.
I don't have wii but I will be cheering on your dance contest from the sidelines!

February 3, 2010 at 10:50 AM  
Blogger mintifresh said...

That's just weird. Why on earth would they want their husbands and kids there for something like that? You're right, the husbands will eat all the food while the kids destroy the house! Not fun at all!

February 3, 2010 at 11:10 AM  
Blogger gina said...

I had people bring their kids to our wedding - without asking even though the invitation clearly stated Mr & Mrs. - we had a small space. RUDE!

February 3, 2010 at 11:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Whats the point of a mom's night with all the kids and hubby.

February 3, 2010 at 11:54 AM  
Blogger Mellodee said...

The gall of some people is beyond belief! I don't have many friends where I live, but even I wouldn't want these social psychos anywhere near me, my house, my grandchild, or my hubby! Being alone is better than suffering these fools!

February 3, 2010 at 12:26 PM  
Blogger adrienzgirl said...

You have got to find yourself a new group. This whole bunch sound like motherbitches!

OMG! Seriously, have you ever been so imposing in your life? I cannot even imagine.

February 3, 2010 at 1:08 PM  
Blogger Jenn said...

Wow. I mean, really ... it takes a lot of nerve to pull something like that when you've been invited to an event. Do what you want when you're hosting. But when you're invited, the appropriate response is only, 'sure, what can I bring?' ...

February 3, 2010 at 1:15 PM  
Blogger Daisygirl said...

You are a super strong women...I woulda caved probably...I woulda regretted though I'm sure!

February 3, 2010 at 1:15 PM  
Blogger Amber Filkins said...

How rude!! Do you ever have family night's at any of the other houses? Sounds to me like they all don't want to have family nights at their houses, for all of the reasons that you mentioned. So hey, let's take advantage of you & fulfill all of our dreams, without having to deal with the mess!! I wouldn't go to any more mommy things if I had to be with pretentious people like that. NO THANKS!!!

February 3, 2010 at 1:24 PM  
Blogger Amber Filkins said...

<------I ♥ that thing about the word verification over there. I HATE them!!

February 3, 2010 at 1:25 PM  
Blogger MommyLovesStilettos said...

Good for you for putting your foot down!!

February 3, 2010 at 1:45 PM  
Blogger Samantha said...

Don't you hate when people try to change something that YOU planned for YOUR house? Aggravating people.

February 3, 2010 at 1:46 PM  
Blogger Cole said...

Okay, those are some weird moms! Turning a night away from the kiddos and hubby into a family night?! Good job holding your ground and not allowing the madness on your turf!

February 3, 2010 at 2:02 PM  
Blogger Crazed Mama said...

Umm these must be the same mommy's who have to ask their Hubbies if they can "babysit" their own friggin kids!

February 3, 2010 at 2:16 PM  
Blogger Andrea said...

How rude! I've always had bad luck with those mom groups too. Hate 'em. So I wish I had that Wii game, I'd so be in. My kids crack up when I bust some moves in front of them. My 6 year old usually tells me to stop it.

February 3, 2010 at 2:28 PM  
Blogger Danielle said...

a)I love your use of the word motherbitches. I am not a mother yet, and I hope to not be a motherbitch,, although I doubt it will happen cuz I'm way to 'whatever' about most things.While I might have turned into a mother'friendly' based on my hs self,, I'll probably be closer to a mother'hippie'... when and if I get there.

b) What is wrong with people where they feel its okay to invite more people than were invited. The invite was for you,, not your husband or bf or child or stepchild for crissake.. I wanted to spend time with you and your rude actions make me wonder why I like you at all.

hate it..

February 3, 2010 at 2:55 PM  
Blogger Grilled Cheese said...


If someone else is kind enough to host/plan/organize/pay for an event, then I'm going to say, "Thank you so much for doing this! Can I help or bring anything?"

I will not say, "Can we do this instead? I know you've already gone to all the trouble of something else, but I'd really rather do this."

Motherbitches indeed!

February 3, 2010 at 2:55 PM  
Blogger Yankee Girl said...

I cannot believe the nerve some people have! That really does blow my mind. What the hell are they thinking?

And can't women have fun together without the kids and husband?

February 3, 2010 at 3:07 PM  
Blogger Yankee Girl said...

Oh and I turned off my word ver! I didn't even know it was on.

February 3, 2010 at 3:07 PM  
Blogger MrsBlogAlot said...

How impossibly rude. What are people thinking????

February 3, 2010 at 4:22 PM  
Blogger Kimberly@PrettyPinkMomma said...

Good for you sticking to your guns! I am such a pushover I would have said yes and dealt with the chaos. I read your Dance Off post and I would totally do it if I had that game. I think I need to get it though cause it sounds like it would work up a sweat. I tried Cardioke yesterday as my workout, by Billy Blanks JR and his wife, it was hilarious! I looked like a retard on crack dancing around trying to keep up with the Cardioke Slide. If you have Comcast on Demand you should watch it just for the laugh! The whole time I kept thinking to myself that this would make some great video, lol!

February 3, 2010 at 4:23 PM  
Blogger Shannon K. said...

Can't say you didn't give it a shot! What a bunch of whakos though. Seriously. Not imposing in the least.

February 3, 2010 at 4:24 PM  
Blogger MommyLisa said...

I have a friend who is recently divorced - and her hubby is too mentally ill/depressed to deal with their son.

EVERY TIME we invite her somewhere she asks if it is adults only or can ____ come along. While I love and adore ____ NO! No he cannot come to the adult party where we are all drinking.

NO! No he cannot come to the BAR!

It has been about 9 months since the divorce and she gets summers off as a school teacher...you would think she would WANT a break to go out and socialize with girlies who have known her since she was 18 and now she is 41...we GET her.

I wonder how I say that to her??? ;)

February 3, 2010 at 4:36 PM  
Blogger Tonya said...

Wow! Sounds like they tried to monopolize your party. I agree with you. I would have said no too!

Thanks for visiting me on my SITS day!

February 3, 2010 at 4:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Unbelievable! But I know it's true. Sad.

February 3, 2010 at 5:43 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

WOW Some people have all the nerve. How they gonna tell yo how to have a party. Psshhhh!

February 3, 2010 at 6:08 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

lol That's you not yo..... I'm so not gangsta to talk like that.

February 3, 2010 at 6:08 PM  
Blogger BNM said...

dont it suck when people try to take over! Ugh Im glad you said no!

February 3, 2010 at 6:53 PM  
Blogger Tammy said...

That's one of the reasons I can be perceived as anti-social. I hate having huge amounts of people in my small home. You have to work so hard cleaning before hand and then clean up the mess after every one leaves!

Hey, I like your new look! :)

February 3, 2010 at 7:04 PM  
Blogger Liz Mays said...

Oh no way....no tag along husbands!

February 3, 2010 at 7:24 PM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

" instead of silently mocking them while I sip a cocktail in the corner and be one of the only people who actually eats"
Ha ha Oh girl. I need to find some real life friends like you! No men, pass the chips.

February 3, 2010 at 7:33 PM  
Blogger Sarah at The Stroller Ballet said...

That's ridiculous. I hate how some women are like that. It's ok to de-tach from the hubs once in a while. About to go check out your below post. Sounds like fun!

February 3, 2010 at 8:03 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

I can't believe people would be so rude & presumptuous. I would never dream of doing that! Besides, doesn't everyone like leaving hubs at home w/ the kids sometimes?!?!?

February 3, 2010 at 8:04 PM  
Blogger Alexis AKA MOM said...

Oh no they didn't! Hello when my girl says moms night it's a moms night. It's fun everyonce in a while to have just that! Oh man girls you don't know what kind of fun you missed out on. That's all cool!

February 3, 2010 at 9:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What is WRONG with people? Seriously! I think some women have forgotten what it's like to have fun. And have forgotten that they need time away from their families too. Good for your for your response! I'm not sure what I would have said!

February 3, 2010 at 9:46 PM  
Blogger Chief said...

they totally miss the point of a mom group.

thats all we need, to take care of the kids AND the husbands


February 3, 2010 at 10:16 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Um, who would even ask that?!

Wait! I know!

A motherbitch!



February 3, 2010 at 10:37 PM  
Blogger Shandal said...

I'm with you here, dumb idea!

February 3, 2010 at 10:44 PM  
Blogger tattytiara said...

Internet parties are better anyway. Just click on the little red x and voila! Clean up's done!

February 3, 2010 at 11:13 PM  
Blogger Twincerely,Olga said...

wow!how rude!!!what kind of peeps are these??I need some game ideas

your blog looks great

February 3, 2010 at 11:23 PM  
Blogger Bibi @ Bibi's Culinary Journey said...

I can't believe the nerve of asking you this. What part of Mommy Group they don't understand?

February 4, 2010 at 1:07 AM  
Blogger Corrie Howe said...

I can't believe people. Who wants to be around the hubs and kids for a mom's function. That's the purpose, right? Or am I out of touch?

February 5, 2010 at 8:57 PM  

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