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Tuesday, August 30, 2011

School Dress Codes... for Parents

Have you had to deal with a dresscode for your children's schools?

With boys, it seems easy, since mine tend to live in cargo shorts with a polo or t-shirt. There's no concern about appropriate length of shorts like there is sometimes with girls.

But, there is a concern about the Parent Dress Code.

My kindergartener's school, which requires the kids to wear uniforms, also has a dress code for parents.

I'll admit that I sort of cringed at this at first.

Really? They are going to tell ME what to wear?

I do have to actually go into the school for drop-off and pick-up, so I can't get away with occasionally wearing what I had worn to bed the night before like I sometimes did last year, when I didn't need to get out of the minivan for this.

So, I already knew I'd need to make a little more effort in the mornings. But, there is an actual rule about this:

PARENTS: Please respect the school's dress codes when on campus or attending school functions. Clothing must be modest and appropriate in theme according to school standard. Shorts must come down to the top of the knee and sleeveless shirts may not be worn in the school buildings or at school functions.

I started keeping a jacket in the van so that I could toss it over my usual tank top. No shorts for me since I own exactly one pair that comes all the way down to my knees.

I noticed other parents who were wearing sleeveless tops and shorter shorts, so I thought maybe it was a rule in the handbook that wasn't really enforced, the same way that the handbook states that shoes should only be a neutral color, when the Principal actually doesn't care as long as the kids are wearing an enclosed shoe without wheels on it.

But, in the newsletter that was sent home at the end of last week, there was a reminder to parents that shorts should be an appropriate length, shirts must have a sleeve and not be extremely low cut.

Basically, your butt and boobs should be covered.

Looking at it that way, I have no problem with it.  It's a conservative school. People who send their kids there know this from the start.

And after seeing a few moms with waaaay too much booty hanging out the bottom of their shorts and boobs bursting out of their tops as they picked up their kids from my older son's school, I get the reasoning behind it.

The dress code is something that is more common sense when you are a parent visiting your child's school. Or at least, that is how I see it.

Though, when I mentioned this in passing on twitter last week, many thought it was completely bizarre.

What are your thoughts on a parent dress code?

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102 Comments:

Anonymous Heidi Smith Luedtke said...

I think this sounds like a good idea, but it amazes me that we have to tell people to cover their boobs and butts at school. The underlying message, that parents should model respect for school policies and should reinforce the formality of the school environment, is a good one, I think.

August 30, 2011 at 7:16 AM  
Anonymous tracy@sellabitmum said...

I do think it is interesting..but I do agree with it and I don't think parents should have the bits hanging out anywhere. eewwww.

Now I do wear nice looking sleeveless tank dresses almost everyday and would have no issue throwing a cardi over it to go into the school.

August 30, 2011 at 7:20 AM  
Blogger Colleen said...

To be honest, I like the idea. Although I think sleeveless tees should be more relaxed...maybe not spaghetti straps but there are a lot of classy, modest and elegant sleeveless dresses and tees out there. :)

August 30, 2011 at 7:24 AM  
Blogger vinobaby said...

Wow...I'd be in major trouble. Considering I only wear pants (besides yoga pants to the gym) maybe months a year and am just waiting for the day when it cools off enough to wear sleeves, I would be breaking the rules every day. I completely agree that no "bits" should be showing, but here in Fla we cannot live without shorts and tanks. And I really hate it when someone tries to tell me what to wear.

I'm still waiting for our schools to crack down on the kids dress code. Somehow the boys clothes get longer while the girls get shorter & tighter. The things I see 6-yr-olds wearing at the bus stop make me blush!

Cheers.

August 30, 2011 at 7:30 AM  
Blogger Kris said...

I think it's a good idea. I've seen many parents sporting the hooker look (yeah, I've called it that) at school functions and it grosses me out. My rule of thumb "would it have embarrassed me if my mom wore this" if the answer is yes, then I don't. So far I think it's been working well!

August 30, 2011 at 7:42 AM  
Blogger Barbara said...

I think it's a great idea but think it's sad that some people (parents) have to be told to cover up the boobs and butts to go to their children's school. You think they would know better.

August 30, 2011 at 7:53 AM  
Blogger Oka said...

I don't think it unreasonable to ask parents to follow the schools dress code, even in a public school. Parents should be setting an example, what kind of example are we setting if we are breaking school rules.

August 30, 2011 at 8:00 AM  
Anonymous Mommy's Mingle said...

Do pajamas count???? I'm LUCKY enough to remember to get dressed with the morning rush @ my place! Much less think about what to wear! My typical morning consists of me throwing on work clothes and primping in the car at red lights and the toll line. I secretly wish the ez pass line is long so i can get my hair done as well!

August 30, 2011 at 8:01 AM  
Blogger The Random Blogette said...

Considering that it is a conservative school, it makes sense. The sleeveless shirt thing is a little much, especially in the summer but I understand no tank tops or excessive cleavage. Now at our school, it is a mixed bag. Mostly 2 extremes though; they are either in their pajamas (even at pick up) or they are dressed casual. I haven't witnessed too many slutty looking moms but then again I rarely pick my kids up.

August 30, 2011 at 8:16 AM  
Anonymous Victoriia @ The First Day said...

Wow, I think that is kinda crazy, and sad all at the same time. I think you should set an example for your kids, and I agree with the school, NO T'n'A!!!

August 30, 2011 at 8:24 AM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

I am not in agreement with it if your just picking up or dropping off your child (and as long as butts, boobs, and other foreseen things are covered). Now if your there to have lunch with your child, attend a classroom party, to volunteer, etc etc., then yes, I think you should follow the dress code.

August 30, 2011 at 8:28 AM  
Blogger NJ @ A Pocket Full Of Dinosaurs said...

I agree with the other posters. I think that it is good practice to model behavior that you want your kids to follow. However, I try to dress pretty modestly myself. I prefer skirts to shorts and would have no problem stashing a cardi in my car to cover up my sleeveless arms.

August 30, 2011 at 8:31 AM  
Anonymous Kimberly said...

Hmmmm...I think that dropping your child off at school it shouldn't matter...although it would be swell if parents would cover up their junk...but at school functions I think that parents should dress appropriately.
Tough call.
I love my PJ's a lot.

August 30, 2011 at 8:32 AM  
Anonymous Galit Breen said...

I'll admit that I've never heard of such a thing and did cringe at first.

But.

But- if kids have a code and a reason behind it, it makes sense to me that parents would model that, too.

{Am ducking for cover now.}

August 30, 2011 at 8:41 AM  
Blogger Jackie said...

My first response, was What will they do if you do show up in hoochie shorts or a deep v-neck tank? Will they prohibit you from dropping off your kid? Will they issue a fine or a give you a "talking to"?
I do agree, that sometimes it needs to be explicitly written out for some re: acceptable dress. I think the no sleeveless shirt rule is funny though. Those sexually revealing biceps & triceps!

August 30, 2011 at 8:42 AM  
Blogger Ange said...

I would have been in violation of this rule so many times this year already. It is flippin' hot here, so I wear a lot of sun dresses, and most of them are halter top dresses.

Also, what do you do about moms like me that no matter what you put on you cannot contain your boobs? Even if I wear a tshirt that follows the "rules" my boobs are going to be very noticeable, thus turning the shirt into something that is far from modest.

August 30, 2011 at 8:42 AM  
Blogger Joshua said...

I'm not sure how to respond, not that I'd have any problem with anything that I wear, but on principle, it sounds rather psychotic. Private school tuition means I pay a portion of the school's operating and salary budgets, so I'll wear what I want, thank you very much. But even if I didn't, I'm an adult and can wear what I want. And if you don't like that and attempt to get back at me by using my child, that's illegal, even in a paid tuition situation. I'm paying for the imparting of knowledge—history, literature, mathematics, science; leave the parenting to me.

I think my comment went off the rails a bit. Apologies.

August 30, 2011 at 8:45 AM  
Blogger Wendy said...

It is sad that you have to remind parents to dress appropriately. I work full time so I'm always in work attire when I stop M off at school. However I work in a hospital and we recently started allowing office staff to wear open toed shoes / dress sandles and I'm surprised and saddened at the number of flip flops and Tevas that showed up

August 30, 2011 at 8:49 AM  
Blogger John said...

I'm honestly not sure about this. Part of "being a kid" is learning to adjust to behavior of others. And, if the parents aren't exactly operating under free will, well, that would affect kids. I'd rather have the kids see someone come in dressed too-immodestly, and have the kids see them dressed more conservatively next time. But, um, maybe I'm over-thinking other people's shame?

I remember, working as an adjunct instructor for night-time college kids, I had to deal with a dress-code violation. I had a very pretty student. As the semester went on, her grades were slipping (not just in my class), and she started showing more skin (the vast majority of students, and all of the instructors, were male).

I was observed about 3/4 of the way through the semester, and the girl was in clear violation of the dress code (no shorts, no hats, no cleavage).

After my class, I was going over things with my boss, and he asked me why I didn't send her home. I explained that, being a part-time instructor, and not having received all of the training typically given to full-time employees, I wasn't entirely sure what the rules were (this was, technically, true).

Then I asked him why he didn't send her home. He just blushed.

It's really, really hard to tell an adult that he or she is dressed inappropriately.

August 30, 2011 at 8:53 AM  
Blogger Krista @ Not Mommy of the Year said...

I don't have a problem with the be respectable and keep your stuff covered up part. The sleeveless thing bugs me a little. Right now I'm sitting in my office wearing a sleeveless dress. (Please pay not attention the fact that perhaps I should be working.) It's professional and respectable enough for a meeting with our CEO but I'd have to put a sweater on to pick up my kid? That seems weird.

August 30, 2011 at 8:54 AM  
Anonymous Denise said...

I would be in trouble because I don't have a single pair of shorts or a skort that comes all the way to the top of my knee. But they are definitely long enough that they cover my butt. I don't really have a problem with asking the parents to be a bit more conservative than they normally would but I would actually have to buy clothes to meet this code.

August 30, 2011 at 9:01 AM  
Blogger John and Allie Fields said...

Like you, I first cringed at the thought but the more I think about it the more I realize what they are getting at. At the church preschool SH attends there are moms everywhere with short short dresses and cleavage. So yeah....I get it!

August 30, 2011 at 9:13 AM  
Blogger Samantha said...

I've never really heard of Parent's having a dress code too, but I totally understand it! Actually wish all school's did this.

August 30, 2011 at 9:20 AM  
Anonymous Miranda said...

Let me start by saying I would not have a problem with this because I wear paints to pick up my daughter regardless of the weather. My shorts are not to my knee and I would never wear them to her school. That being said I feel this is going overboard. I should say that I'm currently fighting my daughters school over hair and how it should be colored. (long story for another time) It really gets to me that the schools are trying harder and harder to control everything about my child when like someone stated earlier they are responsible for teaching not parenting. Touchy subject I'm sure not a lot of people will agree with me but I dont think they have top he right to tell me what I wear when I drop off and pick up my child.

August 30, 2011 at 9:23 AM  
Blogger Kim said...

I think it makes complete sense. It is sad that we have to tell parents not to dress that way, though. I wear short shorts, but trust me, my butt does not come close to coming out (neither do my front pockets).

August 30, 2011 at 9:24 AM  
Anonymous Stephanie said...

It does seen odd to me but I think because, especially as an adult, I would not want to be told what I can or can't wear.

That being said, I do see the reasoning behind it and since I have been working in malls for the last 13 yrs I have to say there are a TON of adults who do not know the meaning of appropriate dress.

The no sleeveless thing would bother me. I could understand no tank straps (either thick or spaghetti) but what is wrong with a dressier, right to the shoulders sleeveless shirt?

August 30, 2011 at 9:30 AM  
Blogger Alison@Mama Wants This said...

I think it's perfectly well and good for parents to dress appropriately as they will be in the presence of other children and adults.

I just think it's sad they need to be told.

August 30, 2011 at 9:30 AM  
Anonymous Teresa (Embracing the Spectrum) said...

As a teacher myself, I'd have to say...

That would be totally awesome.

Sometimes I get to know my parents a little tooooo much...

August 30, 2011 at 9:44 AM  
Blogger Darlene said...

It is sad that parents have to be told to dress modestly, especially if it is required of the children. Sadly, when you see how some parents dress, it's no wonder the kids dress the way they do.

August 30, 2011 at 9:48 AM  
Anonymous Megan (Best of Fates) said...

Um... how am I suppose to pick up hot elementary school teachers now?

HUH?

August 30, 2011 at 9:51 AM  
Blogger Lady Jennie said...

Wow! I've never heard of such a thing! I don't suppose I would mind so very much since I tend to dress conservatively, but come on!

August 30, 2011 at 9:56 AM  
Blogger Donna said...

It's a shame it's come to that, but yes, some parents still need a dress code. I agree with you. You should dress appropriate when going to your child's school - actually, I think you should all the time - but, that's me. I take pride in my appearance. Great post. Donna

Posting it to My Life.'s face book page for other opinions.

August 30, 2011 at 9:56 AM  
Blogger Lisa said...

I think for pickup/drop off it's a bit much, but I get it for school functions. Although like many of said, it's sad if you have to be told your boobs shouldn't be hanging out of your shirt when you are picking your 5 year old up from school.

August 30, 2011 at 9:57 AM  
Blogger My New Normal said...

I can see why the school would like to have one, but I'm not sure how they could ever really enforce it. But good on them for trying it.

August 30, 2011 at 9:57 AM  
Blogger Sherri said...

I know we tweeted a bit about this the other day, when I was amazed at the fact that they would have a parent's dress code! But I do respect the fact that some of these moms/sitters/older sisters have way too much booty and booby hanging out.

But the sleeveless thing has got me confused. Because I am practically always sleeveless this time of year. I would have a hard time with remembering to cover up!

August 30, 2011 at 10:03 AM  
Blogger RoryBore said...

in theory, I think it would be great if we all saw less T&A in ALL situations. Really, it's almost getting to the point of why bother with any clothing? However, realistically - would you always have time to go home and change when going from one location to pick up your kids? I can see us all pulling over, jumping into telephone booths to change into "I am appropriate mom" attire! LOL
So yeah, I think the school is reaching a little far to try and control parent's attire.

August 30, 2011 at 10:03 AM  
Blogger angela said...

I don't have a problem with it, but I also think the most I would have to do is pull on a cardigan over a tank. I rarely wear shorts, and even if I do, short-wearing weather in Michigan is going to be finished soon! You mentioned that the school, in general, is a conservative one, so I think this is fitting with the overall culture they are trying to present to the students.

I DO find it disheartening that it's necessary to have a dress code in place, because I feel like adults shouldn't have to be guided to dress appropriately, but such is life.

(Although today I am still wearing my running clothes, so I guess it's a good thing my husband is supposed to do drop-off duty when school starts in a few weeks!)

August 30, 2011 at 10:23 AM  
Blogger Aunt Crazy said...

I think it's pathetic that the school NEEDS to do this, and while it aggravates me, I can see how it's necessary.

The shorts to the knees thing really gets me riled up.

I haven't had an issue yet, but my girl just started high school and she's 5'9" with a 34" inseam, LONG LEGS! Finding shorts to meet the "fingertip" rule was hard enough but shorts that go to her freakin knees is impossible! So far, she hasn't been accosted by any school staff about her shorts, but my friend's daughter was given a detention on the 2nd day of school because her "fingertip" shorts did not meet the "to the knee" rule that is in place for high school. In lower grades, the policy says in one sentence that shorts/skirts/skorts must go to the knee but the very next sentence says that the "fingertip" rule will be used as a general rule of thumb.

Mixed message much??? And why the different rules for high school???

August 30, 2011 at 10:24 AM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

Completely bizarre, but I get it. I dress pretty conservatively anyway, but the way I see some of the other moms dress... I get it if you are going out, but taking your kids to school? Running errands? I really don't see the need for that much cleavage in those instances. But I still think it is kind of weird for them to define what the parents should be wearing.

August 30, 2011 at 10:26 AM  
Blogger Evonne said...

I think it's a good idea to have a parent dress code, especially in a conservative school. Parents need to be role models for their children.

I will never forget the first PTA meeting last year. A new to the school mom walked in with her boobs, booty, AND muffin top hanging out all over the place. I really think she was wearing her kindergartners clothes!

August 30, 2011 at 10:27 AM  
Blogger An Imperfect Momma said...

At first it sounds crazy - but I do kinda agree with it, especially if it is a conservative school. Actually, it should be with every other school. I dont need my 7yr old child looking at a womans booty hanging out & thinking thats okay. It is a kids school after all...not a place to pick up a date.

August 30, 2011 at 10:31 AM  
Blogger Heather H said...

I've never heard of a parents' dress code, but I also understand why they have it. I know a lot of moms who don't bother to change out of their pajamas before taking their kids to school (I admit...I did it once when I was very, very ill, but otherwise, no). That's fine if you don't have to get out of the car, but if you do have to get out, I think that's inappropriate and a little lazy if I'm being honest.

But I think it's sad that we have to tell adults to cover up their T&A. Their rules seem a little strict IMO, but as you said, Shell, you still saw parents breaking them. If the rules had called for shorts that were at least mid-thigh, maybe parents would have been coming in with booty shorts. Instead, now they are at least coming to mid-thigh.

I think we should model modest clothing for our children. But that's just my opinion.

August 30, 2011 at 10:35 AM  
Blogger Jen said...

If someone could only impose a universal dress code. I consider myself pretty liberal, but I don't need to be seeing someone's muffin top at the gas station or someone picking their short shorts out of their ass at Target. I don't understand why people wouldn't want to dress appropriately all the time, especially around children.

August 30, 2011 at 10:40 AM  
Blogger traceyhansenwrites said...

I like this rule. I mean is it too much to ask that the parents cover the T&A? What happened to setting an example? When you are at school with your children do as they are expected to do. When you are home let them swing in the breeze as you see fit. Love this post. Thanks for the link and the "LIKE". www.traceyhansenwrites.com

August 30, 2011 at 10:49 AM  
Blogger Stephanie said...

Ok. First, Im not one to walk around with my booty out. My shorts hall around my finger tips, and I think thats fair. I keep my chest cover as much as possible short of wearing turtle necks. As for tank tops, really? Its not the 1950s.... my shoulders aren't hurting anyone.

Seems like adults should be able just to apply best judgement, however if they had to send this out Im guessing some parents weren't.

PErsonally I know that Ive seen some things at my kids school that I had to cover my kids eyes.

I guess Im on the fence, I don't think they should tell you what to wear, but, If you walk around with your butt out.....

August 30, 2011 at 10:49 AM  
Blogger Dana said...

That seems odd. I would always forget and would have to start putting extra clothes in my car next to my 2 year olds second set.

August 30, 2011 at 10:50 AM  
Blogger Jill said...

Wow. That's pretty surprising. Clearly, there's an issue of they wouldn't have instituted it.

I wore a uniform to school throughout my elementary and high school education and think there's a tremendous benefit to it. I do not feel the same about telling adults what to wear.

August 30, 2011 at 11:18 AM  
Blogger tessica said...

At first I was like...uh...but you know...it doesn't sound so bad...
And I can think of quite a few parents of my students who should have an all-the-time dress code!

August 30, 2011 at 11:23 AM  
Blogger Kristina P. said...

Well, since it doesn't really spell it out that you can't show nipple, I'm good with it. :)

I think it's fine. Maybe a little too much, but sadly, people have to be told these things.

Is this a private school?

August 30, 2011 at 11:29 AM  
Blogger The Frugal Navy Wife said...

You know what I agree with a dress code other wise some parents take advantage of it. Going to my brothers school and dropping him off a few years ago I remember thinking no wonder teens dress they way they do look at their parents (yes it was in FL and hot but no reason who parents to dress in tub tops?!) So i agree no butts or boobs hanging out but i do wear some tank tops and some sleeve less dresses. but my shorts don't come near the top of my knee and they still cover my butt (and stretch marks ) just fine. When my kids start school I think jeans and shirts are it but i will be wearing my flip flops cause they are just easier.

August 30, 2011 at 11:35 AM  
Blogger Pam said...

I admit I was a little shocked at first. Didn't think something like this would be necessary! But, I guess in these times, it is!

August 30, 2011 at 12:02 PM  
Blogger Tiffany said...

I couldn't agree more! Our county school district just revised the dress code for all grades and have been enforcing it. I wish they would have a dress code for parents too! I have seen some mother's without bras and they're butts hanging out of their shorts. It is gross!! They need to have a little class and dress themselves accordingly.
Thanks for the idea Shell. I am on my daughter's school's SAC committee and I am going to bring this up. :)

August 30, 2011 at 12:07 PM  
Blogger Natalie said...

I understand the reasoning for it...I mean how can you tell your kid to wear something if you are doing the direct opposite? I guess I don't understand why moms would go to school with their boobs and behind hanging out? A little ridiculous...so hence the rule I suppose.

August 30, 2011 at 12:18 PM  
Blogger Courtney K. said...

I agree with you. It seems pretty much common sense, in my opinion. Like Natalie up above me said, how can you tell your kids that they can't wear this and this, if YOU'RE wearing it? I don't buy that whole "do as I say" mantra. Plus, I don't particularly enjoy seeing boobs and butt hanging out all over the place. Let's have a little bit of pride mama's.

August 30, 2011 at 12:25 PM  
Blogger Peeper said...

I can only imagine some of the outrageous outfits that led to this rule! Goodness. Kids do want to do as we do - some of the stuff available even for little kids is disturbing. I suppose that if they don't see parents wearing this stuff maybe the inclination to move toward exposure too early might be slowed down. I hope, I hope.

August 30, 2011 at 12:28 PM  
Blogger Jen said...

On one hand, I think its good b/c kids don't need to see all that butt and boob but on the other hand, no one can tell me how to dress.

I am torn.

August 30, 2011 at 12:33 PM  
Blogger livingsj77 said...

I do get their reasoning, and I think I even agree with it.

Although as a Triple D, I will say, it is very hard to keep the girls completely under wraps without living in turtle necks...so I do hope that it's not that strict for my large breasted sisters out there ;)

August 30, 2011 at 12:39 PM  
Anonymous sherry said...

I understand what they are saying. I get booties hanging out. But as far as the sleeveless tops. Is an issue because until our school has no air conditioning I don't think it is fair until we have our new schools with air. Our school is not uniformed school and I don't think it ever will be. So glad I do not have to deal with this issue.

August 30, 2011 at 12:40 PM  
Blogger MiMi said...

Um...I dunno. I guess I don't really have any thoughts...? LOL
I mean, if it was ME, I'd be irritated, I think.

August 30, 2011 at 12:46 PM  
Blogger Emmy said...

I have never heard of a parental dress code but too think it is a great idea. It is really hard to tell our kids to not dress a certain way if the parents are doing it. Which sadly often explains why some grade schoolers I see look.. well very inappropriate for their age as they are just dressing like their parents.

August 30, 2011 at 12:48 PM  
Anonymous Robin | Farewell, Stranger said...

First thought: totally bizarre. I do get the point about covering up (and, unfortunately, some parents do need to be reminded of this). But no sleeveless tops? That's a bit much. And dictating the length of shorts seems over the top to me too. If they have an issue with how certain people dress, maybe they should address it with those people. Or, you know, accept that kids are going to be exposed to that and take the opportunity to talk about self-respect and appropriate dress for certain situations (without singling out any particular child's sleezy mother).

August 30, 2011 at 12:53 PM  
Blogger KSK said...

I never thought about it... I'm not there in my life yet. But I read some other blogs, and read how they sometimes drop their kids off... and maybe a dress code isn't a bad idea... :)

August 30, 2011 at 1:13 PM  
Anonymous molly said...

Hmmm, well, my first thought was that it was a bit constricting. But then I remembered that we do have a dress code at work that is enforced (no denim ever, no open toed shoes, etc).

I think they are probably looking at it from a child's perspective since kids are so encouragable.

August 30, 2011 at 1:22 PM  
Blogger The Mommyologist said...

Good GRIEF. Only in the South.

August 30, 2011 at 1:31 PM  
Blogger Nicole said...

I am mixed: a) I don't really think there should be a dress code for parents, but b) I don't really think parents should be showing up at school with Daisy Dukes/ bikinis on top. I mean, is this something that really needs to be said? Maybe it is. Of course, I live in a cold climate and so the number of times I would see parents in short shorts and tank tops is pretty limited but...

August 30, 2011 at 1:45 PM  
Blogger JDaniel4's Mom said...

I think it makes sense, but I don 't have shorts that long.

August 30, 2011 at 2:09 PM  
Blogger crazedmama said...

I think parental dress code policies sound great! I hate seeing moms come to school dressed as hoochies to pick up their kid! They have no respect for their own kids, let alone all of the other kids there that have to see it. Last year, my husband was picking up our kids and another mom was there wearing a super short mini skirt, and no underwear.. and she was sitting on the curb waiting for her kid. EVERYTHING was showing. My husband, ofcourse, being the smartass he is, says, "That's disgusting!!".. her only retort was, "my boyfriend doesn't think so!"... these people should not be raising children.

August 30, 2011 at 2:25 PM  
Blogger Jessica {Team Rasler} said...

I'm pretty sure one of the many previous comments has already said everything I will, but I'll say them anyway! I am pro-school-dress-codes, for everyone. It's sad that people have to be reminded about appropriate attire, but it's true (based on studies) that kids behave better when they're wearing appropriate clothing. Perhaps parents would, too! As a teacher, I definitely support that! I also think it's just setting an example for the kids. The ban on sleeveless tops, however, irks me because I own plenty of tasteful dresses and tops that are sleeveless for summer but in no way inappropriate.

August 30, 2011 at 3:31 PM  
Blogger Just Jennifer said...

Basically, if I want to send my child to that school then I should be willing to follow whatever rules they have laid out.

August 30, 2011 at 3:38 PM  
Blogger Rach (DonutsMama) said...

I think it's a good idea, but it's sad that people need to be reminded of common sense. I really think people need to dress appropriately based on the location. I once worked with someone whose choices of clothing left everyone feeling extremely uncomfortable, but everyone was too scared to say anything.

August 30, 2011 at 3:39 PM  
Blogger Hines-Sight said...

Wow, lots of comments. Your post was eye opening for me. I'm a 42 year old mom, and I just looked down, and I would violate your school's dress code today. I have on a skirt, but it's actually a skort, but no one would notice that unless they looked up the crotch. My behind and thighs are nicely covered, but it's five inches above my knee. I'm wearing an old Ann Taylor Loft tee that has sleeves.

I know shorts can be really shorts these days, but you would think that a parent can look tasteful, and not be told what to wear, but I know some schools can be conservative. Guess some Lilly Pulizter shorts won't make the list either. And I don't think they are too short.

At the museum today, a woman had two pockets on her jeans. One pocket said in big gold glitter, "Apple", and the other pocket read, "Bottom". Would that be against the dress code? Big writing on the booty? In a silly mood today.

Hope you're well.

August 30, 2011 at 3:53 PM  
Blogger Ms Bibi said...

I absolutely agree with parents dressing respectfully when on school property....no matter what school it is.
It is about respect and leading by example.....however I do have an issue with school giving me a dress code like no sleeveless tops or dresses and no shorts or skirts above knees.
Simple rule should be....dress tastefully and obey 4B's...No breasts...No backs....No belly...No behind....

August 30, 2011 at 4:43 PM  
Blogger Adrienne said...

Honestly? I love the idea! I personally think some parents need some help in this area. Some people just simply do not have that radar for what's ok, and what isn't. Remember the old saying (or thought or whatever), if you look in the mirror and question it, you should change! I wonder if some people actually ever look in the mirror?? I often wonder if they thought, "yeah! this looks good!" When it doesn't! Like the people on American Idol that are convinced they have a rockin' voice, but can't sing one note. LOL

I agree. It's common sense people!

August 30, 2011 at 5:36 PM  
OpenID theanecdotalbaby said...

While I agree that a parent shouldn't have their derriere or the girls hanging out for the world to see in certain settings (like at your child's school!), I think it's really sad that they must impose a dress code. As if it's not obvious enough. I do, however, completely DISAGREE with the no sleeveless deal. I think if you are following the former, you can find an appropriate tank/sleeveless top. Again, it still shocks me that common sense just isn't very common and things like this need to be spelled out.

August 30, 2011 at 5:47 PM  
Blogger Sandra said...

I'd like to be agreeable and say that a dress code for parents is fine. But truth be told, I bomb around in yoga gear, sometimes all day. Although I would try to remember to cover up before entering the school, I can't be certain I would always remember, and then I'd be known as "that mother who goes around with her booty and boobs hanging out"...well, I should be so lucky as to have enough cleavage that people would notice if it hung out.
Great post Shell! Made me think...I can smell the rubber burning.

August 30, 2011 at 6:16 PM  
Blogger Hopes@Staying Afloat! said...

I totally understand the need for parents not to have ANYTHING, ANYWHERE hanging out that should be covered by a one piece swimsuit when attending your childs school for any reason.

But what makes me crazy is that parents need to be told this kind of thing. It's common sense people. Do you have to be told not to put your finger in an electrical socket?

August 30, 2011 at 6:17 PM  
Blogger Kim @ Mamas Monologues said...

Dressing appropriately is perfectly acceptable. But, I have owned and worn sleeveless tops and dresses that were professional looking. I don't see a problem with that.

But covering up the stuff hanging out? Common sense. ;)

August 30, 2011 at 6:36 PM  
Blogger Tara R. said...

There were plenty of moms at my son's old school who could have used a little fashion guidance.

August 30, 2011 at 7:33 PM  
Blogger Erica@PLRH said...

I agree that the butt and boobs should be covered. The parents -should- have enough common sense and maturity to dress appropriately at their child's school. But living in FL, I'd have a hard time with covering up a sleeveless top. In fact, the high school realized last year that the new dress code made the cheerleaders' uniforms outlaw.

August 30, 2011 at 7:38 PM  
Blogger Jen said...

Very interesting...you made me think a little! I'm all for covering all the "bits" that's for sure.
Great "thinking" post!

August 30, 2011 at 8:05 PM  
Blogger JamieAnne of A Dash of Domestic said...

I don't mind a guideline for parental dress. I think sometimes people need guidelines.
:)

August 30, 2011 at 8:14 PM  
Blogger Missy said...

If that's the culture they are working to support, then it's fine. It's kind of crappy they have to send reminders through newsletters. But, then again, I'm amazed at how many times you "touch" parents with information and they then say they had no idea they were supposed to know something. I'm sure you have experience with that as a former teacher!

August 30, 2011 at 8:31 PM  
Blogger The Mommy Therapy said...

This is hilarious. I love that you already have 82 comments on this.

I just came from a parent orientation at my son's school and there were a lot of boobs there, not as much butt. I think I understand the reasoning and would want to respect it if I were sending my child to a school with policies like this. I often wish my children had a dress code for ease of dressing and I think a lot of parents, unfortunately, do in fact need to be told what is ok and what just isn't cool around the kids.

People are nuts, there is no getting around that.

Good luck!

August 30, 2011 at 9:53 PM  
Blogger Cheryl said...

I live in The OC. Half the women can't help their boobs hanging out. They paid for 'em, they have to get their money's worth.

It's also a lot hotter out here so it'd be tougher to enforce. I have been known to drop off wearing running shorts and a tank. But I think parents should dress appropriately when attending school functions. I really do.

August 30, 2011 at 10:47 PM  
Blogger Angie said...

I think it's interesting, to say the least. I just finished working at a Catholic school where parents showed up wearing all sorts of things, and one mom in particular always had her bewbies hanging out. Did the Principal say anything about it? No. I don't think she thought it was her place.

I think if it's a private school, they definitely can send something home. That said, it's a little ridiculous they even have to send anything home. Has common sense gone completely out the window?

August 31, 2011 at 12:19 AM  
Blogger Jessica said...

I'm not sure I can get on board with a parent's dress code. My shorts go down to my knees but I like my tank tops and it's too hot to put a sweatshirt or something on.

August 31, 2011 at 1:09 AM  
Blogger DysFUNctional Mom said...

I've never heard of that. To me it sounds like a classic case of a few people ruining it for others. Clearly most parents don't need to be told what to wear at their kids' school, but sadly, others do.

August 31, 2011 at 2:40 AM  
Blogger Sorta Southern Single Mom said...

As a teacher in a public school, I can see where it would be useful...some of the things parents come in to school wearing... well, sometimes you can see why their children aren't appropriately dressed!

August 31, 2011 at 6:20 AM  
Blogger The Blonde Duck said...

It's 105 here! Everyone lives in tank tops!

August 31, 2011 at 7:35 AM  
Blogger Suzanne said...

My son's school has one. It's a Catholic school so the dress code is way stricter than yours. They suggest gabardine if women MUST wear slacks. Suits and ankle length dresses are preferred.

I just make sure my shirts aren't too low cut and call it a day...

August 31, 2011 at 10:18 AM  
Blogger Melissa @ Filling Our Bucket said...

I think it makes sense to an extent. The school has a certain dress code for the children, and they probably just want the adults - parents and teachers alike - to set a good example. I wouldn't be bothered by it if it were me.

August 31, 2011 at 12:37 PM  
Anonymous Mya Maternity said...

I think it is a good thing because I wouldn't want mom's coming to pick up their kids and my boys seeing their "parts" hanging out. If I had girls I also wouldn't want the same thing because my girls would be influence by half naked women. I like the idea of having a dress code for parents. Children see everything the parents do.


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August 31, 2011 at 3:16 PM  
Blogger Kir said...

while I abhor being told what to do, I dont have an issue with this. Parents should dress appropriately when visiting their children's school, I mean I don't want the whhole school talking about me and my clothing to Gio and Jacob. EVER.

Plus, sometimes we all need some guidelines.

although I don't do so well with following them. :)

I really have no issue with this RULE at all.

August 31, 2011 at 3:55 PM  
Blogger Stephanie in Suburbia said...

I mean, this wouldn't be an issue for me personally, but I do have an overall issue with adults telling other adults how to dress outside of a workplace setting.

August 31, 2011 at 10:01 PM  
Blogger Charlotte said...

It's definitely an interesting argument, but it does seem a bit strange to tell the parents how to dress. Then again, I would hope they'd know better than to expose boobs and butt but what do I know? :)

August 31, 2011 at 11:25 PM  
Blogger Rebecca @ Unexplained X2 said...

I love the idea of this. Yes, they're adults and they *should* know better, but the ones who complain (the ones with their boobies and ass hanging out)? They're the ones for which the dress code is meant...and they don't even know it.

They're also the ones who would fight with the principal to have their daughter wear a mini-mini-skirt during class even if the boys are looking right at her hooha. Ugh...

September 1, 2011 at 7:41 AM  
Blogger Babes Mami said...

I have never heard of this before but I don't see much wrong with asking parents to keep the T & A covered while around kids. I would assume most parents do that anyway but that's evidentally wrong if they have to make a rule about it!

September 1, 2011 at 9:34 PM  
Blogger Lourie said...

I have seen too many half moons, heavily dimpled thighs some things can't ever be unseen. I know it gets wicked hot out here. But come on people it's a school not the beach. Our school is very laid back though. haha. But I think asking people to cover their rears and the girls is reasonable.

September 1, 2011 at 11:16 PM  
Blogger Anastasia said...

I think I should suggest this at my kids school. I can't understand why you would come pick up your five year old son in your "I was out clubbing last night and my kids is on the way during my walk of shame" Or "I am a stripper during the day and I didn't have time to change."
Seriously. I feel bad about my pajama pants!

September 2, 2011 at 6:12 AM  
Blogger Loukia said...

Yup! I totally, totally agree!

September 2, 2011 at 9:15 AM  
Blogger Jayme said...

It should be common sense, and it is to many of us. Unfortunately in this town, there are those who don't have any common sense :(

September 3, 2011 at 3:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think it's crazy, but then again, I live in a beach town, where people wear shorts year-round. And no, not shorts to the knee. Just because they don't hit the knee doesn't mean they are booty shorts.

September 8, 2011 at 11:09 PM  

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