Valentine's Day, Our Way
Hubs and I have never really celebrated Valentine's Day.
Our first one together, we were trying to keep our relationship quiet. We worked at the same school(his only year in the school system, it was enough for him) and the last thing I wanted was rumors flying. It's hard enough to command respect when you are a 24 year-old who looks about 16. I didn't want everyone to know any details of my personal life.
To his credit, he did make a reservation at a fabulous restaurant and told me to get all dressed up.
But, then, I freaked out when he told me where we were going, since I thought that showing up there would mean that news would spread like wildfire in our little town and everyone would know.
So, we ended up not really doing anything.
Poor Hubs. I told him that he looked like someone strangled his puppy.
We still say that to each other, if the other is looking really bummed out: Who strangled your puppy?
Anyway, our second Valentines' Day together, it was less than a month until our wedding, so we didn't want to spend a ton of money. We went out to eat, but sat in the bar area, since no one else wants to do that on Valentine's Day.
That's pretty much been it. We'll go out, maybe, but no big deal. I always tell him that he better not get me flowers since they are all over-priced for the holiday. And I actually mean it.
We always say it's because our anniversary is coming and we'd rather celebrate that.
THAT is our day.
One year, when Monkey was 14months old and I was gigantically pregnant with Cub, I had just moved to PA while Hubs was still in NC. I moved earlier so that I could get settled in with our new place and find an ob and Hubs came about 6 weeks later, after he finished up work.
That year, he sent me gorgeous flowers(which was okay since we didn't get to see each other) AND TWO POUNDS OF CHOCOLATE-COVERED STRAWBERRIES.
Is it bad that that is probably my favorite Valentine's Day memory?
Those strawberries were awesome! (Anderson's, for anyone from the 'burgh who happens to be reading- they are the BEST)
Last year, we bought a Wii Fit as our present to each other. Though, really, it was just that we were actually able to get our hands on one in January and needed a way to justify it.
This year, we're buying P90x.
Nothing says "Happy Valentine's Day, sweetie, I love you" like a workout program designed to get rid of your fat.
But, that's how we are.
We know we love each other.
We do celebrate and get all mushy...but we save that for our anniversary.
How do you celebrate?
Our first one together, we were trying to keep our relationship quiet. We worked at the same school(his only year in the school system, it was enough for him) and the last thing I wanted was rumors flying. It's hard enough to command respect when you are a 24 year-old who looks about 16. I didn't want everyone to know any details of my personal life.
To his credit, he did make a reservation at a fabulous restaurant and told me to get all dressed up.
But, then, I freaked out when he told me where we were going, since I thought that showing up there would mean that news would spread like wildfire in our little town and everyone would know.
So, we ended up not really doing anything.
Poor Hubs. I told him that he looked like someone strangled his puppy.
We still say that to each other, if the other is looking really bummed out: Who strangled your puppy?
Anyway, our second Valentines' Day together, it was less than a month until our wedding, so we didn't want to spend a ton of money. We went out to eat, but sat in the bar area, since no one else wants to do that on Valentine's Day.
That's pretty much been it. We'll go out, maybe, but no big deal. I always tell him that he better not get me flowers since they are all over-priced for the holiday. And I actually mean it.
We always say it's because our anniversary is coming and we'd rather celebrate that.
THAT is our day.
One year, when Monkey was 14months old and I was gigantically pregnant with Cub, I had just moved to PA while Hubs was still in NC. I moved earlier so that I could get settled in with our new place and find an ob and Hubs came about 6 weeks later, after he finished up work.
That year, he sent me gorgeous flowers(which was okay since we didn't get to see each other) AND TWO POUNDS OF CHOCOLATE-COVERED STRAWBERRIES.
Is it bad that that is probably my favorite Valentine's Day memory?
Those strawberries were awesome! (Anderson's, for anyone from the 'burgh who happens to be reading- they are the BEST)
Last year, we bought a Wii Fit as our present to each other. Though, really, it was just that we were actually able to get our hands on one in January and needed a way to justify it.
This year, we're buying P90x.
Nothing says "Happy Valentine's Day, sweetie, I love you" like a workout program designed to get rid of your fat.
But, that's how we are.
We know we love each other.
We do celebrate and get all mushy...but we save that for our anniversary.
How do you celebrate?
Labels: marriage, Valentine's Day
posted by Shell at
7:04 AM
55 Comments:
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I could eat 2 pounds of chocolate strawberries now without being preggers.
Well....if Hubs wanted to bring home those chocolate covered strawberries, I wouldn't refuse!! But I'd also probably think...why did he spend the $$$...and oh Lordie...I need to get to the gym! LOL!!! Thanks for stopping by my blog today!! Don't you just love SITS and the chance to get to visit other bloggers?!?!
I cannot wait to hear how the P90X is!! We don't really celebrate either. We usually just make a nice dinner and get each other cards and that is about it. Our babysitter is engaged now so that pretty much kills any hope we had of actually going out to eat on Valentine's day! Oh well.
Those strawberries sound amazing!
I hear ya about celebrating your anniversary rather than V Day. That's how DH and I are! We go out to dinner sometimes to celebrate Feb. 14th but just spending time together is enough. TWO POUNDS OF STRAWBERRIES? Yum.
I like that you buy one present together and it is for both of you.
That's way less pressure than trying to buy something awesome RIGHT after Christmas.
This way, you buy something super-awesome and you both love it.
You have much knowledge.
We're not v-day people either, and I totally hear you on the flowers. I just don't see the point. I wouldn't turn my head at chocolate, though!
I like the P90X idea. We're actually in the middle of Power90 and planning to jump to P90X on March 1. Can't wait to hear how it goes for you!
Me & Hubbs are the same way! We don't normally do much for each other on v-day.....he usually goes fishing and I normally spend the day with a few of my favorite single girls! lol shoppin and going out to dinner!
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I love this, because that's how we are too. Like I told you before, it's usually a card and maybe going out to dinner. This year, hubs said that I probably won't get a card. LOL
we usually go out, but not on valentine's day. he buys flowers even though i tell him not to and i don't really get him anything b/c he's not into sentimental crap like that. maybe i'll get him a reese's peanut butter cup, he likes those!
Those chocolate covered strawberries sound so yummy! Me and hubbs usually go see a movie for Valentines.
Not much here. Luckily, my hubs is the kind of guy who brings home flowers on random Tuesday nights, so we pretty much boycott V-D.
It has taken a more special meaning now that the boys make valentines cards for their "sweetheart" (me!) at school. That's the best.
Though chocolate covered strawberries sound pretty awesome too. Well done hubs.
I'd prefer those strawberries over exercise crap anyday!!!
this will be my first valentine with BF. we have only been together "officially" since November...(but just for the record.. he IS the one!)
He will be out of town this weekend. He will get back ON Valentines night... booooo
So - I plan to cook dinner and have it and lots of candles waiting when he gets back in town.
If hubby is home (and not deployed or some other crazy army thing), we just hang out at home. Flowers, chocolate, babysitters--all are overpriced on VDay. He does let me pick a chick flick to watch though...his little attempt at romance :)
We are hit and miss. Sometimes we do something grand. Sometimes we go low key. But we always love each other....which is the important part. :)
We usually just go to dinner. We don't make a huge deal out of it. We don't make reservations at a fancy restaurant or anything like that. Usually just Olive Garden and we rent movies :) And he gets me chocolate covered strawberries cause he knows I'll bitch if I don't get them. LOL
We usually go out for dinner, but with a one month old that is not in the cards this year!
Shane
www.calgarydaddy.com
I would much rather get flowers for no good reason than on Valentine's Day, honestly. It's such an overcommercialized bunch of bunk if you ask me. We sometimes go out to eat, but we don't do candy, flowers, expensive stuff.
that didn't sound right--I mean I would much rather be surprised by flowers on an ordinary day--just because---than to get them on V Day. Does that m ake more sense?!?!!? hope so!
yummm - i love chocolate covered strawberries. We don't really do anything exciting, sometimes we will go out to dinner but no where too fancy. I also tell him no flowers - i would rather have $100 to buy that new bag I have been wanting than on some roses that are going to die. What is the P90x?? -- i need to make myself not fat too...
we usually go out to dinner but it doesn't have to be that day cause I hate crowds!!
I have to have love on that day,I am insecure like that, but this isn't my first marriage and I want to keep things hot(okay warm) and not neglect too much!!:)
no flowers though waaay overpriced but surprise mw with them??I'm ok with that!!!
Yum chocolate strawberries. I'm all for chocolate on Valentines day!...
also... Apparently Pink does the p90x workout too, and if you saw her body at the Emmy's,,, it apparently works!:)
We get take out and rent a movie. We'll try to get a sitter sometime soon.
Hi! Found your blog via a short trail from The Kitchen Witch to Momalom to Drama for Mama (how's that for a fun journey over coffee?). Am enjoying myself hugely at your place!
How do we celebrate Valentine's Day? Well, the one coming up will be the first in years that we'll have had together. We were in a long-distance relationship for 8 out of the last 11 years (not consecutively, but that didn't make it much better). We got engaged five years ago last Friday. That's "our" day now. I also tell my husband not to buy flowers because of the ridiculous markup :). We splurge on nice ingredients and cook up something we wouldn't ordinarily get to make.
Ahh that was really sweet actually! I love doing stuff for my kids on Valentines but the hubby and I just do the cards and maybe something little. I don't eat a lot of sweets but on Valentines I get my favorite Sees candy dark chocolates and he gets his Reese's Peanut butter heart and some funny boxers!
I'm lucky to get a card.
Am I correct, having used my expert sleuth skills, in deducing your anniversary is in March? If so, March what?
Wait, we have a Valentines Day here?!!
I'm still waiting for the wedding ring 18 years later.
... he's still waiting for the lingerie.
The difference? I'll still be able to enjoy a ring in 20 years.
Muahahahahah!
I do something cute for the kids. They won't admit it, but they like it.
i have P90X- you will like it. I sometimes think he has too many breaks (like in the leg/arm one) but otherwise it is great!
Shell - P90X is a lot of fun. It's great to do it as a couple. You can make out during rest breaks and stuff and still keep it romantic. (j/k - it's very sweaty). You know how people ask for "push presents" when they have babies? I asked for an elliptical. We are nothing if not practical.
and chocolate covered strawberries ROCK!
Kiran
P90X is a great couple gift so that you can work out together and motive each other. Those work outs are HARD.
I'm hoping to get taken out to dinner this Valentines day.....:)
We don't get all mushy on V day either...to me it is another holiday that has gone all commercialized.
Ugh. In our case I am the man - my hubby gets all sentimental and romantic, cards anyway.
Looove it! We don't do anything much for V-day either. And the choc covered strawberries? YUM girl! Those are the best.
xo
Well, lets see, we will reach our 44th wedding anniversary this year. After that long, we sometimes do a little something for V-day and sometimes we don't. It depends if we're speaking to each other!
That was a joke, I swear!! It occured to me and I couldn't resist! Have I mentioned I have a quirky sense of humor?? Sorry! :)
HAHAHA... that is totally us too! : ) Hubs really would love a really nice Dyson someday. He'd be thrilled if I ever bought him one of those for Vday. Not so romantic I guess (and he bought me a blender for my bday.. Hmm... Things are so lively after you're with someone awhile : ) But it works.
Too funny.
Oh man! Chocolate covered strawberries, I love em! We don't really do anything either. Granted we have a million kids under 5, but we can always find something else to spend our money on. Usually we just buy a small amount of chocolate for each other. I lover flowers, but I find that getting them unexpectedly is so much more fun than on a holiday.
Wait, are you saying that Valentine's day is this week? Yeah, that's about where Champ and I are with this holiday, but the feeling is totally mutual. When we were dating we did the whole kit and caboodle, but now there is no way we can rationalize spending all that $. We just celebrate our love on other random days throughout the year.
Who strangled your puppy... that is hilarious!!!
We bought a tv for Vday this year. Like your wii fit, we're just trying to justify it... We'll probably get a sitter (to make & eat dinner in peace) & watch a movie on our purchase :)
Chocolate covered strawberries are my fave! 20 years off my life sentence (marital years LOL) and Valentine's Day has been pretty much on the down low for us. I'm with you.
The little one gets it all jazzed up because we always make a big deal for her...spoiled child...with love that is. She still gets the backpack shakedowns and police inspections on every other day...just kidding.
The hubby and I have our special time after she goes to bed with a glass of red wine and a movie...we are cheap...but love doesn't have to be expensive...but I do like flowers, diamonds, chocolates...OK, I'll settle for romantic quiet time!
Those chocolate covered strawberries have me drooling. I could definitely handle some of those.
We don't go all crazy on V-day here but like you, often buy a gift to share with each other. Funny enough it's often a fitness gift as well!
Those chocolate covered strawberries sound decadent...I definitely wouldn't turn those down!
Hubs and I don't typically do anything extravagant. We usually go out to dinner, but we're always looking for a good excuse to go out to a nice dinner.
I've never been one for a big Valentine's Day thing either. But I think it's sweet that you have a day that stands out for you in the past!
Oh yeah, with the strawberries! I think it's the little things with VD. I will never forget, when I was young, every year my dad would bring us each home a small heart shaped box with chocolates in it. Just from him. I think it was so sweet and special.
Seriously, 42 comments? LOL I guess people like to talk about Valentine's Day and I am no different!
We go all out. Away for the night, flowers, champagne and a nice dinner for sure. Valentine's is my FAVORTIE holiday so I want it all -- incluidng the expensive flowers.
Nothing else in my life gets to be so luxurious, so, I get one day to splurge.
Hartley
www.hartleysboys.com
We don't really do anything much on Valentine's Day either. Cards and a little bit of time together... seeing as how we just got through Christmas on 1Dec 25th, Our Anniversary is Jan 20th, my Birthday is Jan 23rd and I combine those 3 into one "bigger" gift of my choosing each year. We've spent enough by then and "TIME" is so precious, just spending it together is a lot. We do things for each other frequently all year anyway so that one day isn't 'the day' to show it. :)
On my husband's and my first Valentines's day, he sent me flowers at work. Only we weren't together yet. He was still working on winning my heart so his note simply said, "Every beautiful girl deserves flowers on Valentine's"
I think that Valentines's may have sucked without it.
These days we usually try to go out during the week or weekend of Valentine's and we keep it pretty laid back.
I always tell my hub we don't need to make a big deal out of Valentine's Day, but just once, I wish he would anyway.
I love it!! Good details! I have a love-hate relationship with Valentine's day. I usually seem to be single, or dating a guy who thinks it's overrated and doesn't care what I think. Once or twice I had a romantic time, and then it's spoiled by the expectation of uber-excitement. Ya just can't win.
I'm planning on grabbin a bottle of wine, hunkerin down in my apt., and paryin for daylight, as I shove those chocolate dipped potato chips, strawberry cheesecake, and chocolate covered strawberries into my face, while watching horror movies.
:-) I'll make a video to let you know how I feel about V-Day :-)
You need to link this one up tomorrow on the skew!
Sounds pretty much like us. Our first Valentine's as a married couple, we were on our honeymoon in NYC. He went across the street from the apartment we were staying in and bought me a red hairdryer.
We like each other and show it pretty often, so VD (what bad initials!) will probably be more about the kiddos this year.
That's pretty pissing brilliant.
I don't much celebrate as I do try to look super hot all day and then order Thai food for two and eat the whole thing while watching The Bachelor.
Wait, I guess that is celebrating!
We don't celebrate Valentine's Day. Ever. He doesn't do presents. Very romantic.
That's funny; we don't really do Valentines Day, either. Our 20th wedding anniversary is March 10th, though; I'm positive we'll do that up right :)
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