Just conversation?

I understand that there are time when my family might seem like somewhat of a spectacle. Three adorable boys, all obviously pretty young. And sometimes we're a little on the loud side.

So, we might draw some comments or questions. A question that I hear over and over again is "Did you want your kids to be so close together?" though sometimes the question is phrased a little more rudely than that.

How do these people want me to respond? To tell them which of my kids is an accident or that we really didn't want so-and-so?

What difference does it make to them? These people who usually don't even know me or my family. And why would I share that with them? What would they think if I gave them some outrageous answer, like that all of our kids are accidents and that they are such a burden.

I was complaining about this one day to a friend of mine who only has one child and her reasoning for these questions is that people see my three and feel like they want to say something, just to make conversation, and they don't know what else to say.

Hrumph. I don't buy it. And I hate answering stupid questions.

For the record, in case you are now curious and wondering if the real answer is something shocking, it's this: Monkey- pulled the goalie and thought we'd just see what happened; Bear- used a fertility calculator to start trying when Monkey was 8 months old, just didn't think that it would work on our first try; and Cub- not really trying, but also not preventing.