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Friday, June 11, 2010

Blog Friend Feature: NOT a Follow Hop

Blog Friend Feature: BFF on Fridays.

It's summer and I'd love to introduce you to some of my favorite bloggers.

So, every Friday during the summer, I'm going to feature a blogger that I adore. Just a short intro and then a guest post from them because it's an easy way for me to take Fridays off during the summer I know you'll love them as much as I do.

Their button will be displayed in my sidebar for the week, too.

Want to be a BFF? I have some ideas of blogs that I'd love to feature, but I have to admit that I'll probably choose most from people who actually comment on these posts. ;)

And because I can't help myself, I made a button for my BFFs, if they want to grab it.


I hope that you enjoy this new summer feature!

*Shell reserves the right to continue BFF longer than just the summer, depending on how it goes, especially since there are way more bloggers she'd love to feature than there are weeks in the summer*

The very first Blog Friend Feature(BFF) is Tammy from Tammy's Two Cents whom I usually say is my big sis, because it feels that way. Um, even though we've never met IRL. She's such a sweetheart and I knew that I could ask her to step out and do this for me as the first BFF without her being worried about my trying something new over here. I just love this post from her. Especially because I would describe her as being such a happy person- it goes to show that we never know what sort of stresses someone is under and how all of us can go through rough times.

When Shell asked me to guest post today, I thought "sure, I can do that".  Then I started thinking, "what should I post about"?  What are her followers going to want to read about?  Shell is fun, entertaining and sweet...I guess I am fun, entertaining and sweet (in my own kind of way).   But this is Shell's blog!  The very successful Shell...then I started feeling guilty.  Yes, guilty...guilty that I am comparing myself to Shell.  She likes me for me!  No guilt needed.

Raise your hand if you have ever felt "Mommy Guilt"?  How many of you experience it every day?  I don't know if I experience it every day but I do feel it often and have felt it so many times in the past.  I don't want to feel guilty but I do.

I have been a mom for almost 10 years now.  My daughter is turning 10 at the end of this month and my son is 7-1/2.  I think the first time I felt the "guilt" was when Emily cried for 5 hours straight!  I had called our doctor and he decided he needed to see her at the ER after listening to her cries.  We got her into her car seat and were getting ready to head out about 10 p.m. and she fell asleep, worn out!  We carefully put her in her crib and she slept for several hours.  Once I figured out the reason for this crying, I felt terrible!  We had been at a family reunion earlier in the day and I had drank several pops (with caffeine) and I was nursing her!  Such a bad combination and I felt guilty for making her so uncomfortable.

Guilt can come in many forms...guilt from doing something silly like drinking caffeine or guilt that goes deeper than that.

Last year I was slapped in the face with what I would call a big dose of "Mommy Guilt".  In November of 2008 I had the flu.  I had been summoned for jury duty and felt really sick.  I also felt stressed trying to arrange childcare for our youngest.  My group ended up being excused for the entire week which was such a blessing.

Thanksgiving came and went and I was hit with the flu again.  My husband and kids were feeling under the weather on and off through the month too.  I was having such a hard time just making it through the day.  Finally in January, my husband came home and I had fixed soup for the umpteenth time for dinner.  I was an emotional basket case.  He finally said, "why don't you go and see the doctor".  I was so sick of feeling bad  that I called that night for an appointment.  I could hardly schedule the appointment in between sobs.  They were able to get me into the doctor the very next day.

As I am sitting in the waiting room I am trying to keep myself together.  The nurse called me back and as soon as I walked through the doors I started crying.  She took me back to a room and gave me a hug.  She told me things would be okay.  I shared with the doctor all of my symptoms.  I did go in for a few tests but she explained that I was actually suffering from Depression and Anxiety. 

I don't know what I expected to hear from her but those two words were not it!  Normally I am the happy girl.  You know, the one with the smile and laughing coming from her all the time.  The one who would have to go to the principals office because she was disrupting the class giggling!  How could I be depressed?
It has been over a year now that all this happened.  Depression still creeps into my life every once in awhile but I have overcome most of it with a loving and supportive husband and family.  The guilt I felt during this time was overwhelming.  My husband went to work and then came home to all the extra chores and all I could do was lay on the couch and watch him having to do everything.

I still feel guilty for not liking the kids friends to sleepover or not contributing to our family financially.  Should I go back work, is the house clean enough?...the list goes on and on.  I wish I was one of those moms that could let the guilt roll right off my back but I am not.  I guess I need to learn to live with it and learn not to dwell on it!

Please show Tammy some comment love here and go follow her if you don't already. I know you'll love her as much as I do.

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Blogger Adrienne said...

Great post, Tammy! I too have had doctor's appts. expecting to get a z pack, only to be told I need to take a yoga class, and read a good book. Sometimes the demands on us as Moms(especially SAHM!) go far beyond what anyone can understand, and sometimes I feel like it can be isolating. Thanks for an honest post that made me smile. :) I can see why you are a BFF. God bless!

June 11, 2010 at 7:25 AM  
Blogger JDaniel4's Mom said...

I love Tammy's post. It is hard to do it all and feel you are doing it well.

June 11, 2010 at 7:27 AM  
Blogger Dumb Mom said...

Great idea. Again. I still have to see if I can bribe you to be an ifriend over at pBd. You'll probably decline, but what if I beg a little? How bout then? Would you do it then? I look really awesome on my knees. That sounds different then the way it did in my head, but you know what I mean:)

June 11, 2010 at 7:34 AM  
Blogger Jenny said...

Wonderful post...I have been here a couple of times and not really knew what was going on. It's nice to hear someone else share their true feelings too!

June 11, 2010 at 7:39 AM  
Blogger As Cape Cod Turns said...

Great idea Shell (see how I am buttering you up so I can be a BFF?)!

Super post Tammy. I would give you a hug too if you were in my living room. Being a mom is hard work and full of guilt, but you can't let the guilt rule you. You will be on more than an anitdepressant! I would like to say the guilt goes away, the older the kids get, but at 11 and 13, I haven't found that yet! I am off to hop on over to your blog :)

June 11, 2010 at 7:54 AM  
Blogger Life Without Pink said...

Great post and LOVE the idea...I wanna be a BFF, haha. Oh and I started a new feature on my blog, Friday Favorites, you will have to check out. Love your idea!

June 11, 2010 at 8:01 AM  
Blogger Menopausal New Mom said...

Hi Tammy, You know I'm already a huge fan of yours. I remember the mom guilt I felt during the first year after my daughter was born. I was desperate about the housework that was sliding, I felt so guilty about my husband working all day and coming home to a worn out wife because I just couldn't keep up with the house and the new baby.

Well, the best advice I received since my daughter was born was from one of my best friends. I was complaining to her about the state of the house one day and her words changed my life. They were

"When my children are grown adults and think back over their childhood, I want them to remember the things we did and the places we went, not how tidy I kept the house"

Do I need to say Lightbulb? Give yourself some credit, you have lovely children and being their primary caregiver, you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about Sweetie!


June 11, 2010 at 8:15 AM  
Blogger Oka said...

Great Guest Post...Queen Mother of Mother Guilt here, and this week hasn't helped me none.

We just poured $500 into van repairs (on Tuesday) and I couldn't afford to by my Bubby a gift for his 3rd Birthday on Wednesday.

June 11, 2010 at 8:16 AM  
Blogger Oka said...

Shell, this comments for you girl. Love the idea!!!!

June 11, 2010 at 8:16 AM  
Blogger Tiffany said...

Nice to meet you Tammy and this was a great post. I've been in the same boat on the guilt leading to more than just the surface sadness. I know I'm not the only momma feeling that way and thank you for sharing this. We do the best we can as moms and when we need help we just have to ask for help, from whom ever.

Great idea for BFF Shell. I like this!

June 11, 2010 at 8:21 AM  
Blogger Melanie said...

Hi Tammy!

Great post! I can't wait to check out your blog (I'm a newbie blogger). I definitely experience 'mommy guilt'. I'm a mom of two small boys and have to leave them during the day because I work full-time.... so, yeah, the guilt monster comes to visit me on a very, regular basis. This post was so wonderful because it helped me realize that there are SO many moms out there going through the same thing.

Have a great weekend!

~ melscoffeebreak.blogspot.com ~

June 11, 2010 at 8:30 AM  
Blogger Jen said...

What a cool feature and a really great person to start with. :)

June 11, 2010 at 8:44 AM  
Blogger MommyLovesStilettos said...

What a great idea!! Love it! :)

June 11, 2010 at 8:49 AM  
Blogger Evonne said...

I love this BFF feature idea! And cute buttons, too!

I've experienced mommy guilt more times than I care to admit. I'm so glad it's not just me.

I already follow Tammy!

June 11, 2010 at 8:50 AM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

Mommy guilt is hard. It doesn't matter what you do, stay at home or work, breast feed or not, cosleep or not, you are ALWAYS going to have some type of guilt. Depression is harder. I think it is great that you got the help you needed. I wrote a post about depression a while back (called Climbing Out) because it is something that I've battled since I was a teenager. I think half the battle is realizing you are in an episode and the other half is waiting for it to end.

June 11, 2010 at 8:50 AM  
Blogger Ian said...

What? How dare I not be selected first. That's ok, there's always next week.

June 11, 2010 at 8:50 AM  
Blogger Ma What's 4 dinner said...

Love the new BFF. Love the idea. Left her some love too. Any BFF of yours is one of mine. Have a great weekend, girl.

Lots of yummy love,
Alex aka Ma, What's For Dinner?

June 11, 2010 at 8:58 AM  
Blogger chele said...

I wish I knew why we have to feel this kind of guilt. My kids are older now but when they were small I felt guilty because I had to work outside the home. Not all the time, because I love my job, but sometimes it would creep in.

Great post.

June 11, 2010 at 9:03 AM  
Blogger Kmama said...

Love the BFF idea and would love to be featured!

Tammy seems like a great blogger. I think we all deal with mommy guilt...probably more than we even realize.

June 11, 2010 at 9:13 AM  
Blogger Secret Mom Thoughts said...

Mommy guilt is so tough. There is always something to feel guilty about.

June 11, 2010 at 9:28 AM  
Blogger Kelly said...

Great post! I'm a new follower of Shell's and I'm definitely going to go check Tammy out :)
Mommy guilt definitely sucks! It happens to all of us.


June 11, 2010 at 9:37 AM  
Blogger Jenn said...

Shell, I love your BFF idea! If you have time to squeeze me in, I'll DO IT!

I have mom guilt from time to time, but I do also suffer from Anxiety and Depression.

At first it was mostly anxiety, but now the Sads seem to be taking over more than they used to.

I need to go back to the doctor!

Thank you for sharing your story with everyone and way to go...being the first ever BFF is way cool!

June 11, 2010 at 10:04 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hooray for Tammy!!!

Great post!

Mommy guilt hits us all!

June 11, 2010 at 10:04 AM  
Blogger Adoption of Jane said...

Tammy you rock!

June 11, 2010 at 10:07 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

OH I love this idea Shelle.. and HI Tammy nice to meet you. I have depression too. Only I don't sleep I snap at people, all the time.. and it can be so sad to know I don't want to feel like that but I do..
I wanna be a BFF Shelle..

June 11, 2010 at 10:07 AM  
Blogger Everly said...

what a GREAT idea, i love this, i also already follow Tammy, good pick.

(what would jen do)

June 11, 2010 at 10:09 AM  
Blogger JennRawks said...

:raises hand:
I hate playgrounds. tell me thats not a guilt ridden life!

great guest post! and congrats on being featured!

June 11, 2010 at 10:11 AM  
Blogger Jenn said...

LOVE the BFF idea! Tammy, I'm coming over to follow ASAP. Great post. It's kind of funny to me ... you've been a mom for 10 years. I've been a mom for 6 months. The timing doesn't seem to matter one bit ... I can totally relate to the mom guilt. It's constant.

But, depression/anxiety is not something to feel guilty over! Let's reserve our guilt for more serious things ... like sipping a margarita at Happy Hour while the husband is taking the kids to the park. No? :)

June 11, 2010 at 10:11 AM  
Blogger adrienzgirl said...

I love the new feature Shell! I am not into the Friday Follow Thing. I like to find new bloggers that are fun and exciting, but not just for the sake of following/followers. This is a great way to highlight great writers!


June 11, 2010 at 10:17 AM  
Blogger Sara said...

Shell- I LOVE this!! What a great idea... you're always so sweet about sharing "bloggy love".

Tammy- This was a great post. No kids, but I'm familar with the guilt that accompanies the Big D. And it sucks...

June 11, 2010 at 10:24 AM  
Blogger Daisygirl said...

I am going by to show her some love!

Mommy guilt sucks but I have learned us mommies really need to take time for ourselves!

I Love your button you made...super cute!

Happy Friday!

June 11, 2010 at 10:33 AM  
Blogger Michelle said...

Hey Tammy!

I totally get where you're coming from! I'm a mom of 5 1/2 years and I discovered that I had horrible anxiety when I was pregnant with my first child. Mine also manifested as guilt, worry, sometimes sorrow. I just couldn't let things go. Once I figured out what the problem was I was able to work through it, but I never would have imagined that I would experience these emotions so vividly. It's comforting to know that you're not alone -- at least, I feel comforted knowing that other women experience these things and come out on top! Great post!!

June 11, 2010 at 10:37 AM  
Blogger Cheryl said...

AH..the mom guilt. It's a powerful thing, isn't it? Sometimes we have to remember to be kind to ourselves..

Great post and great idea, Shell! I've been having some guest posters but I love how yours is an organized thing. You smart blogger, you! ;)

June 11, 2010 at 10:44 AM  
Blogger Dazee Dreamer said...

I was already following Tammy. She is awesome. And now, I have yet another blog to follow.

June 11, 2010 at 10:47 AM  
Blogger Bibi @ Bibi's Culinary Journey said...

Great ideas and great post. I don't follow Tammy yet, but i will be going over and fixing that little issue.

June 11, 2010 at 11:08 AM  
Blogger Sara @ Domestically Challenged said...

what a great idea! She sounds awesome!

June 11, 2010 at 11:13 AM  
Blogger Alexis AKA MOM said...

What a fun idea to do my dear love to meet new bloggy buddies and she sounds like a real treasure.

LOVE the post it's always nice to see other ppl being real and not all life is roses :)

June 11, 2010 at 11:37 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

What a great idea Shell!! I love it, and it seems only fitting that your first BFF be Tammy! She is the greatest, and I know she's a huge supporter of her bloggy friends, and loves you dearly!

Tammy, as I've gotten to know you, and like Shell - wish it was IRL. You are such a sweetheart, so giving and caring. Hilarious and make me laugh all the time, and I can totally get that being sent to the principal's office for uncontrollable giggling (not that I've been there ;) ) My long-winded point, as you know already - you are human, you have real emotions, and you genuinely care about people, esp. those closest to you. It's totally natural that those emotions would lead you to being depressed or having anxiety. I'm sorry that you had to go through that, and still do at times... but it does mean you are a very passionate person - and that my friend, is never a bad thing! Hugs!

June 11, 2010 at 11:40 AM  
Blogger Rebecca Dot Com said...

What an awesome idea! :) maybe we can swap off one day! You need to teach me how to make cool buttons! LOL :)

June 11, 2010 at 11:40 AM  
Blogger Steph said...

Great post and great idea!

June 11, 2010 at 11:51 AM  
Blogger Cielo Azul Jewelry said...

Hi T!!!
It's so nice to meet cha=0) I'm so happy that you are doing better. There is so much fine print when you become a parent, LOL! I always tell me husband that when I'm overwhelmed!!!! There is just so much work to do and not enough time to sit down. I use to think I was so busy before I had kids, LOL!!!


June 11, 2010 at 11:52 AM  
Blogger Jen said...

Hi Tammy! This is a very personal post, thank you for sharing! I hope it helps other mothers who may be feeling overwhelmed. I am so glad you finally went to the see doctor! So many people live with depression and anxiety and don't even know it; they just quietly suffer.

June 11, 2010 at 12:03 PM  
Blogger Ally said...

i will def check them out! enjoy your weekend!

June 11, 2010 at 12:25 PM  
Blogger Christy said...

love your idea and love your first guest poster ... or something like that.

Very touching story Tammy, thank you for sharing!

June 11, 2010 at 12:48 PM  
Blogger Natalie said...

Thank you for sharing such a personal story, Tammy :) I've blogged several times about mommy guilt...I hate it...but it seems we all feel it no matter how together we think we have it.

Shell...love this idea!! And I just noticed that on your bookshelf this summer you have the Hunger Games series - you will LOVE THEM. I have pre-ordered the 3rd one (due out in August), so if you finish the first two I can send you the third one when I'm done with it :)

June 11, 2010 at 1:15 PM  
Blogger Natalie said...

Thank you for sharing such a personal story, Tammy :) I've blogged several times about mommy guilt...I hate it...but it seems we all feel it no matter how together we think we have it.

Shell...love this idea!! And I just noticed that on your bookshelf this summer you have the Hunger Games series - you will LOVE THEM. I have pre-ordered the 3rd one (due out in August), so if you finish the first two I can send you the third one when I'm done with it :)

June 11, 2010 at 1:15 PM  
Blogger  said...

I really enjoyed your post, Tammy. I do have mommy guilt every day; I never think I do things right or well enough. Thanks for such an open and honest post. I will go follow you!

Thanks, Shell, for the great Friday guest blog idea. This will be fun! I can't wait to see who else you feature. Nice job!

June 11, 2010 at 1:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just love Tammy, she is a sweet, wonderful person! Great post Tammy.

June 11, 2010 at 1:25 PM  
Blogger cheri said...

you nailed it right on the head, tammy. this is exactly what i'm feeling almost all the time. i just try to bury it and wish it away...but it wont.

great post :)

June 11, 2010 at 1:38 PM  
Blogger Cheryl said...

Depression and anxiety aren't just for moms. Never have been; never will be. It's gotta be worse when you're a mom and Tammy I applaud you for getting help.

June 11, 2010 at 2:08 PM  
Blogger Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said...

Great post and she is one of my favorite bloggers too....I will put your button on my blog...Great idea

June 11, 2010 at 2:12 PM  
Blogger AiringMyLaundry said...

Great post, Tammy!!

I like reading her too.

June 11, 2010 at 2:30 PM  
Blogger One Photo said...

Hi Tammy - we've not met before but thanks to Shell I am hoping now to get to know you. I think quite honestly pretty much all Moms go through some form and level of unhappiness or depression at some point and I think often a large contributing factor is this sense of not being up to the job of Mom. I have been working through my own unhappiness for some time now and as I do so I meet so many fellow Moms who are doing the same.

So thank you for this honest post about your own struggles.

June 11, 2010 at 2:38 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

I love Tammy soooo much! She is one of my favorite bloggers. She is so sweet and kind and I love being bloggy friends with her! Love you Tammy

June 11, 2010 at 2:41 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Shell- I'd love to be a BFF.

Tammy- I really enjoyed your post. Mommy Guilt comes in so many forms. And since I'm a slacker, I get it a lot! I think someone should invent a pill just for my mommy guilt! :)

June 11, 2010 at 2:47 PM  
Blogger SurferWife said...

Yay for Tammy being first!! Love her!

And yes, Tammy, I empathize with the mommy guilt.

June 11, 2010 at 3:04 PM  
Blogger Tammy said...

Shell...omg, I feel so blessed by all these wondeful comments! Thank you ladies. I want to come and say hi to each and everyone of you. I will be there to thank you!

You have some wonderful blogging friend girl! I am on cloud 9 right about now!

June 11, 2010 at 3:52 PM  
Blogger Debby@Just Breathe said...

How sweet of you to do this :)

June 11, 2010 at 4:18 PM  
Blogger Joann Mannix said...

Brave and beautiful post.

It is so wonderful you were diagnosed and treated. Far too many folks spend their lives on that couch never getting the help they need.

And stop feeling such guilt. Life is a journey and every step is a lesson learned. You have come out of the darkness of depression. I'm sure your family is so grateful to have you back.

Great idea Shell. You truly are one of the most generous bloggers I know.

June 11, 2010 at 4:22 PM  
Blogger Libby said...

AND she was just on the Friday Potluck over at SITS.
With all the people I fin through SITS, I'm still amazed when I recognize someone over and over again and how the blog community is so interconnected.
Cute idea! Look forward to meeting people!

June 11, 2010 at 4:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Love this Friday feature and also love Tammy! I am a new follower!

June 11, 2010 at 6:29 PM  
Blogger Busted Kate said...

What a great idea!!! Count me in :-)

June 11, 2010 at 6:38 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

You know, I was thinking about it and I welcome all Team Jacobs now just because it does mean less competition! So I freaking love you! hahaha

If you ever figure out anything that helps you lose weight, let me know would ya?

Thanks for stopping by on my featured day!

June 11, 2010 at 7:13 PM  
Blogger Sugar Bear said...

I love me some Tammy Two Cents....she checked in on me when I was going through my medical/dental issues...she's a keeper!!
I love her weekend recaps....always inspiring me.

Great idea Shell! You're an awesome BFF!

June 11, 2010 at 7:25 PM  
Blogger Stasha said...

What an awesome guest post!

I think every Mom goes through 'mommy guilt', some just deal with it different than others. I have episodes of anxiety and depression. I link it to things that happen in life almost always during the most stressful of times...

Shell, this is an awesome idea! Can't wait to see who's next!

June 11, 2010 at 7:28 PM  
Blogger TheFitHousewife said...

Great post! We all feel mommy guilt once in a while...even those that don't admit it! I feel it all the time. And I'm sure depression is more common, but many of us don't seek help, we blame it on being tired and stressed and believe we should be strong enough to get through it ourselves.

Thanks for sharing.

June 11, 2010 at 7:40 PM  
Blogger Kimberly@PrettyPinkMomma said...

Oh the dreaded mommy guilt! I live in it but it becomes so the norm way of thinking for me sometimes that I don't realize that I am feeling guilty. Everyday I wish that there was more time in the day to get things done so that I can have the time to veg out and do what I have to do. I have been way to into my needs lately and felt really guilty about neglecting the kids, house and hubs. I even feel a little bit guilty about our breakfast and pedi today. More time for me and not for the kids or Oscar.

This was a great post Tammy!

Shell this was a great idea!

June 11, 2010 at 7:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is such a great idea Shell! Love that you're doing it. And Tammy is FabUlous!

June 11, 2010 at 8:02 PM  
Blogger Simoney said...

Hi Tammy... oh wow, I just knew what you were going to say after you said you walked into the doctor's room and burst into tears. I could FEEL it because I have been there too.
Thanks for sharing this; depression is still such a stigma, but so many people (women) suffer silently with it and the guilt heaps up because they thing they are the only one.
I made it my business to share my journey openly on my blog as well; I mean, I don't FOCUS on it, it's not ABOUT depression, but when it comes up I talk about it. And I have all the posts I've written on it grouped together so others can find them easily; and I still get blown away how many women email me and thank me for sharing. So good on you, Tammy. I am off now to come visit you "at home" and I'll be sure to follow you too :)
Luv from Simone

June 11, 2010 at 9:20 PM  
Blogger Helene said...

Tammy, I applaud you for writing such an honest post...I feel mommy guilt all the time, seriously 24/7.

I also suffered from depression (PPD) and I still feel horrible about it, like I missed out on some truly wonderful bonding moments because I was in my own little world for so long.

Thank you for sharing such a personal experience with Shell's readers!!!

June 11, 2010 at 9:59 PM  
Blogger Tracie Nall said...

Great guest post! It is nice to meet you! =)

Anxiety and Depression are real things...and they touch the lives of real people. Thank you for bringing light to this. Getting help and doing the hard work to change your life is a huge thing! You rock!

June 11, 2010 at 11:06 PM  
Blogger Claremont First Ward said...

This is so fun. What a great idea!

June 12, 2010 at 10:26 AM  
Blogger Dawn said...

I love the idea of BFF! Genius!

Tammy, this was a great post!
I, too, am a very outgoing person, but after the birth of my first child I got PPD. I had no clue what was wrong with me. It sucked. I cried all the time.

I'm headed over to your blog now. =)

Nice meeting you!

June 12, 2010 at 12:03 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Oh, I forgot to say that I'm here from the Lady Bloggers Tea Party. =) Great blog!

June 12, 2010 at 12:04 PM  
Blogger prashant said...

This was a great post.
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June 12, 2010 at 1:30 PM  
Blogger Seizing My Day said...

Tammy, You know I have been there girl!! =) Hi Shell ~ thanks for featuring Tammy ~ she has a beautiful heart!! You do Tammy!! =) Honest and real!!

June 12, 2010 at 3:02 PM  
Blogger Batya said...

What a wonderful post. I think your blog will allow me to open up on a few things connected to mother guilt. One of the comments above is 100% on. Damned if you do & damned if you don't. Guilt and children are synonymous. My three kids are adults and there are some pieces of the guilt puzzle that will always be cellular for me. We can only do our best in any given moment. The intention in a mother's heart counts for more than we think. When I look back I see how many times I got in my own way. My kids are good honest loving people in spite of how I believe I messed up. Be easy on yourself.
I wrote on my blog's earlier posting about my lifelong struggles with depression. Maybe have a look.
Blessings from one imperfect human who is also a mom,

June 12, 2010 at 6:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Shell, I love this idea; think it's fabulous! And I must tell you, again, I adore your new look.

Tammy, thank you so much for being so brave and open and honest. I've known you to be a sweetheart, but always with a smile. I'm sorry I never realized that you suffer(ed) too...I think we do that alot, look at people on the surface. So many women are dealing with depression and anxiety issues. Alot go undiagnosed. And it's common for us to blame ourselves, too. Tammy, you're human. Even though you do so many things so well! Congratulations on admitting it. As you know, I've got so much anxiety right now I can't even sit still. But I'd need a major, addictive dose of zanex. I don't think I'll go there.

June 12, 2010 at 6:39 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

I read this the other night on the bb and couldn't remember if I had commented...I didn't see my face so.....

Shell! Love this idea!! You go girl!

Tammy- I was diagnoised with depression some time back too. It's one of those things you think won't happen to you...like you I'm the happy one in the family. Never showing sadness and always trying to make others happy. Guess that crap catches up with us! Love the post and you!!

June 12, 2010 at 8:00 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Great post. Without help depression can just be a vicious cycle and its hard.

And I know mom guilt. Its like once you make yourself feel better about one thing. You start feeling bad about something else. Another vicious cycle. ;)

June 13, 2010 at 5:28 AM  
Blogger Crazed Mama said...

Tammy, I love how honest you were in this post. I think we are so hard on ourselves as moms.

Shell, this is a great idea. I love it. Sorry I have been a stranger. You know I would love to be your BFF ;-)

June 13, 2010 at 10:01 PM  
Blogger Lift Like A Mom said...

Guess I'm a little late on reading this, but I loved it. The whole depression thing I am totally relating too right now and it's tearing me up. I have no idea where/how/why it decided to smack me, but it did. Can't I just go through one day without being tired? Uggg!!
Going to check out her blog :)

June 15, 2010 at 3:32 PM  
Blogger MommaKiss said...

I'm WICKED late, but what an AWESOME idea! You're so smart and cool, natch.

Clicking over - and yes, tammy, I raised my hand over the mommy guilt. and the depression and anxiety. Yes. I. Did.

June 17, 2010 at 10:56 AM  

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