Blog Friend Feature: Peanut Butter in My Hair

I've been reading today's Blog Friend Feature for a long time now: most of my bloggy-life.  She's always insightful.  Open and honest, even about the tough stuff like PPD. I always know that I will get a good read whenever I visit her blog.

She's been a little busier than usual lately, getting adjusted to life with three kids. But, I still really wanted to introduce you to her because I know you will love her. Meet Melissa of Peanut Butter in My Hair.

I know everyone says this, but I am really excited to be Shell’s BFF today! Shell is such a supportive blogger and she picked me even though I am a horrible commenter (but a really loyal reader!). I hope you’ll stop by and visit me too. I promise I’ll come by to read, maybe comment. See I have a newborn (just about 10 weeks old) and I read on my phone, so if there are any hoops, word verifications, or crazy logons I can’t do it. Fat tired hands, tiny phone, it’s a DYAC Post waiting to happen.
Supermom is a Myth

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There is one thing I hate being called just about more than anything in the world, Supermom. It’s thrown around so much these days, in the media, on the playground, everywhere I turn there she is.
Be a Supermom, in 10 easy steps!


How to look like the Supermom at your preschool!


Meet Supermom blogger Shell!


“You are such a Supermom”
Hearing that in reference to myself makes me cringe for two reasons. One, supermom is a myth, she is this unattainable fictional character we have created. Two, I think 9 times out of 10 it’s a jab, a backhanded compliment, said with a knowing smile a side eye and a nod. It comes out almost derogatory, like clearly you are neglecting your children, husband, everything to create the illusion of Supermom because you? You can't possibly have it more together than me.

Back to the myth.
It’s a myth because there is no way to do it all, something always has to give. You can’t have a Pottery Barn styled home, have a successful career, be the best room mom there is, have home cooked meals from fresh organic produce 7 days a week, all while being a doting wife and engaging in wonderful hobbies and crafts that are always beautiful, and maintaining a rockin' bod. I mean maybe you can if you don’t sleep or are a robot.

The truth is it’s a give and take. I can bring in a beautiful hand sewn gift for the teachers for Christmas along with fun homemade snacks for the class party and look “super”. What your not seeing is that PBS has parented my kids for the last three days while I sewed, I don’t remember the last time I showered, we have had cereal and mac and cheese for every meal and my husband well I’m sure he’s under one of these piles of laundry somewhere.

There is no super cape given out to a select few moms, we are all super at different things. I am super at making crafty gifts, snacks and parties but seriously don’t look at my house because I am as undomestic as they come. My friend keeps an amazingly beautiful house and cooks awesome meals every night, she gives your standard gift cards as gifts, if she remembers to bring one. I'm not super, she’s not super we’re both just moms. We have different interests, different talents. We put our time and energy into different things but at the end of the day, we're just moms, and that's Super.

I’m not super and I don’t wear a cape, I do occasionally done some super heels! Do you rock the school meeting in heels and a great skirt or do you hang out in the back in your yoga pants and hoodie? Is it hard to distinguish your laundry or side of the closet from your husbands? Than I hope you will come visit me on Monday as Erin and I launch a new monthly challenge and link up “Dress Like a Girl” it’s going to be fun, easy, inspirational and hopefully rewarding! See you then!




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