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Friday, August 13, 2010

BFF: They Really Do Hear All (Especially When You Don't Want Them To)

If you are here looking for the Back-to-School Celebration Giveaways, they are listed in my sidebar.

I have a problem with this week's BFF. You see, I'm always reading her posts at night and waking up my husband because I laugh so hard. Okay, so maybe the problem is that I need to wait until the morning to read her posts. So, it's my fault, not hers.

Jen, from Buried with Children has four children- with three of them being triplets. She writes with honesty about motherhood. She seems to find the funny or sensible in all situations. And occasionally is even sentimental. I love her take on motherhood- because she seems like such a practical, realistic, and funny mom.  Enjoy her post!  


My triplets are now three years old and sometimes when I look at them, I can't believe that we have survived. There were times during those first few months that I thought it would be a miracle if they made it to the 6 month mark and Hayden made it to his third birthday.

Those first few months were ruled by the every three hour feeding schedule. And me being the stubborn person that I am, I had to figure out away to do care for all four of my four kids two and under by myself.

Let's just say that when I was feeding babies, Hayden at the ripe old age of 2 figured out very quickly, that I was unable to get up or do anything about his behavior. There was the time that he took apart all the vents in the house and the time that he painted our bathroom with chocolate pudding.

I tried do things to deter the mischief like reading to him while I was feeding babies but during the hour and half total it took me to feed each baby, there are only so many books a two year old can handle. So eventually, I just let him watch TV.

Whatever works, right.

During these early months, I must admit that I really looked forward to the weekends and weeknights when Jeff got home from work. Because then instead of taking one and half hours to feed that babies by myself, it would take 30 or 40 minutes. It was awesome and gave me more time to spend with Hayden.

But even though, Jeff was home and helping me feed babies, I still had to be in control. Blame it on the hour upon hour that I spent alone with the kids and oh yeah, the fact that I am their mothers.

We would sit across the room from each other and he would be feeding Quinn and I, Jake and I would say things like, “make sure you burp him, we don't want him to spit up” or “watch it, I think he is sucking air” or “I think you are holding him wrong, he looks uncomfortable.”

Jeff usually would just shoot me a look that would say, “Look lady, I can do this just as well as you can so shut it” but sometimes, he would open his mouth and say as nicely as he could through gritted teeth, “You feed your baby and I will feed mine.”

I would quickly realize my mistake and not say another word. Jeff's way was not my way but it was a good way.

Well one afternoon, this conversation came back to haunt me and teach me that when kids are watching TV their ears are still open.

I had set up Hayden with a snack and I sat down to do a feeding with Jake, Quinn and Claire, Hayden and I were talking back and forth when I asked him if he would share one of this fruit snacks with me?

Hayden let out an exasperated sigh, looked me right in the eyes and said, “Momma, just feed your baby.”

Now if only I could get him and his siblings to hear the things I want them to hear, I would be all set.

Please leave some comment love here for Jen and then go follow her blog if you don't already!


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Blogger Brittany Ciara said...

See, this is why I love you! You always seem to introduce us to great bloggers which are new to us! :)

Triplets... yikes! But amazing all at the same time! I love checking out your BFFs!

Have a great day! xoxo!

August 13, 2010 at 7:21 AM  
Blogger Melinda said...

I had the same realization when my son was about 4 or 5. We were in the car and the stoplight changed to green. The car ahead of us wasn't going (probably talking on her cellphone) and Micah says, "Geez! Gimme a break!! What's taking so long, lady?"

Hmmm... wonder where he heard that?? Oops.

Off to see this amazing lady with triplets now ... I'm in awe. ;0)

August 13, 2010 at 7:34 AM  
Blogger Jen said...

I am so honored to be the BFF today. I can't wait to go and say hello to all these awesome new people I am going to meet.

Thanks, Shell.

August 13, 2010 at 7:37 AM  
Blogger Ian said...

That's the greatest blog title ever. Off to read her stuff.

August 13, 2010 at 8:25 AM  
Blogger Eclipsed said...

Omg I love her! She cracks me up.

August 13, 2010 at 8:26 AM  
Blogger Sorta Southern Single Mom said...

OMGracious I love her! I'm heading over to check her out now.

Her story reminds me of when I was nursing The Girl as an infant and The Boy, who was 18 months was running around ON the couch across from me. Their dad came out and was like, "Um are you not going to say anything?" I responded, "Well, I can tell him now a gagillion times when I can't do anything to stop him, or I can wait until I'm finished here and can actually get him down to say No. In the meantime, I'm praying he doesn't fall and crack his head open!" The ex says, "good point" and went and got The Boy down. Score one for Mama! :)

August 13, 2010 at 8:36 AM  
Blogger Kmama said...

I just can't even imagine life with four kids 2 and under. She has got to have some great stories!!

August 13, 2010 at 8:40 AM  
Blogger Oka said...

I can't imagine triplets. It seems, you'd have to be a bit controlling, or totally care free (and let many strangers do it).

Hayden reminds me of my little one. Always has a comeback related to something he has hears in one of my conversation with his dad.

August 13, 2010 at 8:43 AM  
Blogger Heather's In The Land Of Crazy said...

That was a great post! Off to follow Jen now.

August 13, 2010 at 9:14 AM  
Blogger Natalie said...

My 4 yr old daughter was playing Little Big Planet on the playstation with my hubby the other day when she said, "That pisses me off." It took a minute for the comment to register with me what she said. She just kept saying it too! I asked where she heard it & she told me. She heard ME say that daddy pisses me off.
Out of the mouths of babes!
They're always listening.

August 13, 2010 at 9:16 AM  
Blogger MommyLovesStilettos said...

I love her blog!

August 13, 2010 at 9:25 AM  
Blogger Ma What's 4 dinner said...

Love love love Jen! I can't imagine having triplets! How crazy. She's one heck of an amazing lady!

Lots of yummy love,
Alex aka Ma What's For Dinner

August 13, 2010 at 9:43 AM  
Blogger Evonne said...

How is it that kids ALWAYS hear (and repeat) the things you don't want them to?!

I'm on my way over to check out her blog!

August 13, 2010 at 9:48 AM  
Blogger Stepping On Cheerios said...

Can't wait to get to know you better!

August 13, 2010 at 10:14 AM  
Blogger Megan said...

Ooh, I love Jen - good choice!

August 13, 2010 at 10:54 AM  
Blogger We live in a Zoo! said...

Lol! Just gotta love kids :D

August 13, 2010 at 11:38 AM  
Blogger DaisyGal said...

and I thought twins were going to kill me LOL...

loved reading this and being introduced to a new blogger. SOOOO funny. :)

August 13, 2010 at 11:43 AM  
Blogger Emmy said...

Lol! So true they do hear everything. And Jen is the best.

August 13, 2010 at 1:48 PM  
Blogger Adrienne said...

Haha! This is cute post! My kids never hear what I want them to and too often hear what I wish they didn't! :)

August 13, 2010 at 1:56 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

HIlarious! I'm definitely going to hop over and follow her! Thanks for sharing!

August 13, 2010 at 2:47 PM  
Blogger Ash said...

LOL Hayden. Oh that beautiful selective hearing - bites you in the fanny every single time.

Good for Jeff for sticking to it. I harped on Hubs so much he gave up - and I found myself trapped under a baby for over a year.

That'll learn me ;-)

I can feel you getting ready to exhale - just wait until they're four!

August 13, 2010 at 3:36 PM  
Blogger Saucy B said...

Tripets and another little boy on your hands - my goodness! You have my utmost respect. I know what you mean about wanting things done a certain way. I know in the beginning I used to have to remind myself to let go a little too.

August 13, 2010 at 4:23 PM  
Blogger Daisygirl said...

OH my gosh triplets!!! Kids crack me up!!! I bet things are insanely crazy at your place but it sounds like you sure do have a lot of laughs!

August 13, 2010 at 4:57 PM  
Blogger Brandi said...

Ya know, I follow Jen on the Twitter, but I don't know if I follow her blog?! Need to check on that, but she is hilarious! :)

Jen, don't ever feel bad for being controlling... I own my husband and he likes it. BAHAHAHA! ;)

August 13, 2010 at 8:53 PM  
Blogger Joey @ Big Teeth and Clouds said...

Triplets? I can't even imagine.

August 13, 2010 at 8:57 PM  
Blogger Lourie said...

Jen is an amazing and super funny woman. I do not know how she does it.

August 13, 2010 at 8:59 PM  
Blogger Babes Mami said...

I have been following her on twitter but just realized I haven't been reading her blog.

Hey Jen! I will fix it! ;]

August 13, 2010 at 9:32 PM  
Blogger Sara @ Domestically Challenged said...

Oh! I love her too! her stories are hilarious and always full of heart!

August 13, 2010 at 10:29 PM  
Blogger MommaKiss said...

oh my garage, 4 under Two years...i must meet this woman!!

August 13, 2010 at 10:46 PM  
Blogger purseblogger said...

Where have I been? I haven't heard of her before but I'm so going to go follow her now! Thanks for sharing her with us Shell. :)

August 14, 2010 at 12:16 AM  
Blogger WhisperingWriter said...

Oh, Jen rocks!

I can't imagine having triplets but she does a fantastic job.

August 14, 2010 at 1:10 AM  
Blogger Casey said...

Oooh I love her blog

August 14, 2010 at 8:42 AM  
Blogger Miel Abeille said...

That's a cute post. Love the candid comments from kids!

Visiting from LBS Social Tea!

August 14, 2010 at 8:47 AM  
Blogger Debbie said...

She seems like a blogger I would really enjoy!
Just came over from SITS to say hi.

August 14, 2010 at 9:53 AM  
Blogger Nicole said...

What an adorable concept! Blog BFF.
Stopping by from LBS

August 14, 2010 at 9:53 AM  
Blogger Sally said...

How funny and sweet. God bless her!! :)

August 14, 2010 at 10:25 AM  
Blogger Mellisa Rock said...

Oh and I thought that I had it bad with 4 babies in 7 years. :) Very cute post!

August 14, 2010 at 11:09 AM  
Blogger Amy said...

Visiting from Lady Bloggers. I loved reading this BFF post...and I'm definitely going to go check out her blog! I also went around and looked at some of your other posts, and I'm enjoying your blog! I'm a new follower!

August 14, 2010 at 4:01 PM  
Blogger The Empress said...

Wonderful choice. I love Jen, I dont' know how she survived. I barely made it out alive with just one colicy newborn.

I love how you do this shout out, Shell.

August 14, 2010 at 8:00 PM  
Blogger Mrs. Smith said...

Dear God, triplets, how do you get anything done? I'm contemplating having ONE...ONE and ONE alone...I don't care if only children are weird. I'm lazy and I like my sleep. Fight the good fight for all of us...

August 14, 2010 at 10:20 PM  
Blogger Mrs4444 said...

Oh, that is funny!! Poor little stinker! :) Any friend of Shell's is a friend of mine! It's nice to meet you :)

August 15, 2010 at 1:36 AM  
Blogger itsybitsyknitsy said...

Stopping by from Lady Blogger - Triplets! Yikes! Good for you! Such hard work I can imagine!

August 15, 2010 at 1:39 PM  
Blogger Elizabeth said...

Here from the lady blogger tea party...

I love that I just found 2 new bloggers to follow!

Triplets, wow:)

-Elizabeth @ Permanently At Lunch

August 15, 2010 at 10:56 PM  
Blogger Natalie said...

Oh, I can sooo relate! I have 3 under 3 - a toddler and twins that will be a year old tomorrow. When I first brought them home, it was just crazy trying to take care of them and keep my 3 year occupied - I couldn't even imagine another one in the mix!

August 16, 2010 at 5:59 PM  
OpenID thesavingmomparents said...

I was just thinking this weekend that I was grateful God didn't grant my desire for twins. Life with triplets seems simply scary...Yikes!

August 16, 2010 at 11:27 PM  

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