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Friday, May 21, 2010

I'll Never Understand

Do you know how I deal with the possibility of bad things happening?

I try to pretend like they won't happen to me. Or my family. Or anyone close to me. Or even anyone that I know at all.

But, the reality is that we never really know what is going to happen. I'm sending prayers of comfort and strength and asking you to do the same for my friend Daffy, whose family is going through something really tough right now. I'm speechless. And heartbroken and angry and I can't say or do anything that will make it better. Her 35 year-old sister... Daffy has to say goodbye to her. Her sister, who will leave a 5 year-old behind. I just don't get it. Please go over and tell her that you are sending prayers.


I will never understand why these things happen. And when they do, I want to hide. I want to grab my kids and my husband and hide out somewhere, where nothing bad can get to us. I feel completely helpless.

And so, today, when I'm feeling heartbroken over a senseless loss, I want to feel like I'm doing something. So, we are talking about Monkey right now.

As you probably know, today is being dedicated as Worldwide Mission Monkey day.

Our blog friend  Pixie Momma, Michelle, has a little girl we know as Monkey who has been diagnosed with Neuroblastoma.  To learn more about it, click here. Monkey is a sweet little 16 month old girl.  She doesn't deserve this.  Nobody deserves this.

There is good news: Monkey only has Stage 1 (low risk).  The bad news is the medical bills are mounting and the Physical Therapy isn't covered by insurance.  Michelle is using the donated money to offset medical bills.  She will donate any unused portion to another family dealing with the same issue. Because that is what we do: we help each other.

This is why the blogging universe is banning together like never before to rally around Michelle and Monkey to provide support.  I hope that you will donate, even if it isn't much, anything that you can do will add up- there are SO many of us- so every little bit will add up!

In addition, if you do donate, you are eligible to win one of the over 50 items that have been donated.  Many bloggers are hosting these fabulous giveaways and all you need to win one of these items is just one raffle ticket.

You can check out the items at these links:
Donation pages:
Princess of Sarcasm - http://bit.ly/9nUmBp%20
The One and Only Oka - http://bit.ly/9KZSOG
SupahMommy - http://bit.ly/bSMrGw
Jenn B Says #1 - http://bit.ly/bYzHAH
Jenn B Says #2 - http://bit.ly/bej01D
Amber - http://bit.ly/cTGq29
Two Little Monkeys - http://bit.ly/cZKjzK
Mommy's Nest - http://bit.ly/9tLjoy
Chief's Hiding From the Kids - http://bit.ly/cfKIiO
Jenny - http://bit.ly/dftIS2
Jana (link forthcoming)

You may donate any amount of money via PayPal as it's linked directly to Michelle's bank account.  However, in order to be a part of the raffle, this is how that's going to go.  If you donate the following, you get the subsequent number of entries:
  • $10 - 2 entries
  • $20 - 5 entries
  • $30 - 10 entries
  • $40 - 15 entries
  • $50 - 20 entries
  • $75 - 35 entries
  • $100 - 50 entries
  • $200 - 125 entries

 The raffles for each item will start on or around July 1st.

Click on monkey to donate!

When you donate, please click the plus sign that you will see to add a note. Leave your name and blog address/email so that you can be found and given your entries.

Here's the thing: this could be any of our kids. 

There are also a few other things going on to celebrate Mission Monkey please visit them all!

Supah Mommy's Swag Bag

Twitter party!
More info can be found here - CASH PRIZES!!!!!! A note about the twitter party: it is now free to attend! Donations are appreciated, of course.

Kerri over at Kerri's Klutter is donating $1 for each and every linkup she receives for her weekly meme, Comment Love Letters.  In addition, Adrienne is matching Kerri's donation dollar for dollar!  Go and link up and support Mission Monkey!

ZGirl and Travis are participating in a weight loss challenge and they are asking for your sponsorship.  Please visit them and lend your support!

Jenn over at BabyStepsInHighHeels has a challenge where she's going to donate $1 for every comment/new follower from now until the end of May.  Please visit her!

While I will never understand why things like this happen, I do know that we should do our best to help out when we can. Whether it's a prayer, a donation, or helping to spread the word.



Blogger Casey @ If The Crown Fits said...

I can't even begin to imagine what these two families are going through. I am praying for both families

May 21, 2010 at 12:47 AM  
Blogger Tammy said...

My heart is breaking right now...I had no idea that she had to say goodbye to her sister...I have tears in my eyes! Thank goodness for Stage 1...it is still cancer but hopefully it will be something that can be attacked with vengenace! Hugs to you because I need to hug my lil sis!

May 21, 2010 at 1:06 AM  
Blogger purseblogger said...

Beautiful post Shell. Sending prayers to Daffy...

May 21, 2010 at 1:08 AM  
Blogger adrienzgirl said...

I just don't know how much my poor little heart can take. I am beside myself with grief, and helpless. Sorrow is such a bitter pain to bear.

May 21, 2010 at 1:22 AM  
Blogger carissajaded said...

Whaaa!?!? Oh my gosh! THe last i heard she was doing better. (Daffy's sister) I am beside myself!

My prayers are with everyone and I am so sad right now.

May 21, 2010 at 1:46 AM  
Blogger Mrsblogalot said...

My heart aches for Daffy and for Michelle on a daily basis. My thoughts will be with all of them.

This blog world is a big and beautiful place.
In good times and in bad.

May 21, 2010 at 7:02 AM  
Blogger Momsy Katsy said...

Just headed over to tell Daffy and her family that they will be in our prayers.

Wishing you and your family a great weekend!

~~ Kat (Momsy Katsy) ~~
My Tots Exactly!
My Tummy Calls
My Game of Chance

May 21, 2010 at 7:09 AM  
Blogger The Mommyologist said...

I think it is wonderful how the blogging community is rallying around Monkey and supporting her family. I will be making my donation soon as well. This is the worst thing that can happen to a family, and especially to a small baby like that. You are so right...it could be ANY one of us!

May 21, 2010 at 7:27 AM  
Blogger Amethyst Moon said...

I feel the same way. I just like to pretend that things are not bad, and hide away from it all.

May 21, 2010 at 7:40 AM  
Blogger The Princess of Sarcasm said...

I was so out of the loop all day yesterday. Thanks for the email this morning. Can my family come with you to that place where bad stuff can't reach you? I am heartbroken for Daffy and her family.

May 21, 2010 at 8:11 AM  
Blogger Tamara aka Cheapskate Mom said...

You said it perfectly. I am terrified of something like this happening to me or my family. I wish we could all just grow very old and none of the sickness and stupid cancer and all the crazy stuff out there could touch us. I am glad to hear Monkey's cancer prognosis is good and totally devastated for our Daffy. **Hugs**

May 21, 2010 at 10:26 AM  
Blogger Andrea (ace1028) said...

Both of these situations are so sad. :( They hurt my heart.

May 21, 2010 at 10:27 AM  
Blogger Aging Mommy said...

These things when they happen to anyone just wreck your head because there is no explanation, no rhyme or reason. I am so very sorry to hear about your friend's sister. I am glad to hear Monkey's cancer has been diagnosed as Stage 1, at last some "good" news if you can call it that for her family.

It is times like this when people need their friends and Shelley having friends like you who care and act to support them must mean a great deal.

May 21, 2010 at 10:55 AM  
Blogger Jen said...

Unfortunately, I can't donate right now, but I can offer lots and lots of prayers... and HOPE. One of my dear coworkers' sons was diagnosed with STAGE 4 neuroblastoma just over a year ago. As of last week, he's reached NED (no evidence of disease)! He is winning this battle! If that isn't hope and faith, I don't know what is!

May 21, 2010 at 11:54 AM  
Blogger Ma What's 4 dinner said...

This is so horrible. These are the things that keep me up at night....I'm going to go visit them all now.

Thanks for you for your kind thoughts for GG. She's doing better today!

Lots of yummy love,
Alex aka Ma, What's For Dinner

May 21, 2010 at 12:11 PM  
Blogger Annah said...

I prayed for them. I love your blog it's different.

May 21, 2010 at 12:19 PM  
Blogger Erin said...

Lovely post, SHell...I am going to share it.

I already donated $$ for Monkey via Paypal and also a Go Green package of goodies...I'm relieved it's Stage 1 and am hopeful for the best possible outcome.

Thank you for all that you are doing to support all of these people!

May 21, 2010 at 12:44 PM  
Blogger Jeannie, Jane, Angel, Mommy, etc.. said...

My heart goes out to Daffy! Her family will be added to our nightly prayers!

May 21, 2010 at 1:01 PM  
Blogger MommaKiss said...

Saying a prayer, for Daffy and her friends who are clearly helping her get through this.

May 21, 2010 at 1:27 PM  
Blogger The Blue Zoo said...

I feel the same as you. I just wanna take my family and run to the mountains and hide.

Im happy to see such support. But my heart hurts for Daffy and Michelle.

May 21, 2010 at 1:47 PM  
Blogger cheri said...

i'm relieved that monkey is only on stage 1, but still. no baby should ever experience these things..

i'm off to visit daffy and michelle :)

May 21, 2010 at 2:47 PM  
Blogger Crystal Escobar said...

Oh my heart goes out to this family. I made my donation last week.
It's nice to see so many people coming together and helping this poor family.

May 21, 2010 at 3:41 PM  
Blogger Together We Save said...

Praying for both families!!

May 21, 2010 at 4:30 PM  
Blogger Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said...

I am so like you....on some days I just cannot wrap my head around all the suffering....I have three friends that are in very similar situations. Headed to those sites to leave a word on encouragement.

May 21, 2010 at 6:30 PM  
Blogger Joann Mannix said...

God Bless both our blogging families. My heart aches for Daffy and her sister. Life is a fragile road we need to spend every second of it, truly loving the people who are there along the way of our journey.

Thanks Shell. Beautiful post.

May 21, 2010 at 6:59 PM  
Blogger Lourie said...

I wish I had the magic answer. I don't. Our part is praying for those in need. Letting them know we love and support them anyway we can.

May 21, 2010 at 9:51 PM  
Blogger The girl with the flour in her hair said...

So, so sad. And senseless. But seeing things like this- all these "strangers" banding together to help someone out is heartening. It's awesome.

May 21, 2010 at 11:35 PM  
Blogger Messy Mommy said...

I've always been a worry wart and I always think bad things will happen to my fam for some reason. But cancer is probably the one thing where I think, "Oh that will never happen to me." But it so could.

May 22, 2010 at 12:23 AM  
Blogger Michelle Pixie said...

And do something you have! Your love and support has given my family more then you will ever imagine. Thank you. XOXOXO

May 22, 2010 at 12:38 AM  
Blogger Dysfunctional Mom said...

Denial is pretty much my MO too. Then stuff like this smacks me upside the head and really throws me for a loop!

May 22, 2010 at 2:05 AM  
Blogger Laurel said...

I can relate to convincing yourself that the really bad things will never touch you or the people you love. I'm so good at it by now that I can do it in the face of medical diagnoses and jail sentences at once. I think sometimes, though, it makes it harder for me to accept the bad things when they come knockin' on my front door.

I love how much everyone has come together to support Monkey and her family. It's such a beautiful thing to see.

May 22, 2010 at 4:00 AM  
Blogger Kerri said...

I worry all the time and think to myself "It's getting to close to home"
It's never gets easier to hear these kind of stories.
I hope you find a million reasons to smile this weekend.

May 22, 2010 at 10:44 PM  

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