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Monday, November 15, 2010

The Waiting Game

She thought that she could have fun waiting for him to come back.


After all, she had been gone away from home for a year. And hadn't seen family and friends much. Now, she was there and she could spend time with them.


It would help pass the time while she waited for him to get back from Greece. He did send a few letters. But, there were no calls. She had known that there wouldn't be.


Friends would be a good distraction.


Except that they all thought she was crazy.


She had only known him for seven months. And for two of those, he had been gone. How much could they really know each other?


This seemed like a drastic step.


To quit her job and pack up and move for him. To a place where she'd never been. And not one that she'd ever thought she would move to.


It was a lot.


Her friends and family questioned. Poking and prodding and trying to get her to admit that this was crazy.


But, they didn't get it. They didn't know just how much she was in love. How much he loved her.


Their love was the one thing in her life she was sure of. It made her feel confident. Strong. Beautiful. Important.


Like nothing else mattered, as long as they would be together.


It might have been "only" seven months since that first night, but she'd never been more sure of anything in her life.


The doubters...they just didn't get it. Maybe they had never been this in love. Even those who were in relationships and claimed to know...there was no way that they were in love like this or they would understand her choices.


They were the crazy ones, to be in relationships where their love wasn't so all-consuming. They were settling.


She was the one who was smart. Who had held out for true love and found it.


And was doing everything she could to make their relationship work.


So, when she heard all their doubts, none of them caused her to doubt him.


They didn't know him, didn't know how much he loved her.


But, she did doubt them. Friends and family who didn't get it. Who were trying to bring her down. Who looked down on her for changing her life to be with the one she loved.


When you love that much, there is no way that you will let anything stand in your way.


He was scheduled to return the following week.



If you missed any of the story of my past, where yes, I talk about myself in the third person, you can check out these links to get caught up:
10 Days After the Hurricane
Was It a Big Mistake?
A Romance Grows
And Then He Left Her
She Moves for Him

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49 Comments:

Blogger Brie said...

Oh love, how beautiful and bittersweet this story is turning out to be. I've loved reading these. :)

One of my childhood friends packed up and moved from Ohio to Arizona about three weeks ago for a boy (also a Marine) that we haven't seen since he moved away in middle school. They've only been "dating" (online) about 6 weeks. They were married last week. She is completely happy. Maybe just for now. But she's happy.

Sometimes, you've just gotta take chances. Even if they're incredibly big spontaneous chances.

November 15, 2010 at 7:05 AM  
Blogger Oka said...

Doubters are annoying, but I do many do love us and only want the best.

November 15, 2010 at 7:30 AM  
Blogger Rebecca said...

Ahhhh...the doubters. How many times have I tried to convince them of something in my life? Keep it up!

November 15, 2010 at 7:53 AM  
Blogger Heather said...

Hey. Where have I been? I missed some installments. I have to go back. I must get caught up.
Be right back.

November 15, 2010 at 8:10 AM  
Blogger Liz said...

How apropos that this is titled, "A Waiting Game!" You keep leaving us in suspense of what the next twist and turn of the story will be!

There is definitely something to be said about how other people think you are crazy if it's *only* been so long. But so often, a person knows right away that it's right.

November 15, 2010 at 8:31 AM  
Blogger Steph said...

Ugh don't make me wait another week!!!

It's funny the grief we get from others in our lives.

I got it --especially from one brother 2 months before I moved to Pittsburgh.

Can't wait for the next part!

November 15, 2010 at 8:33 AM  
Anonymous SharleneT said...

I've had friends who married on the first date; still together. Friends who married after six years living together; divorced. Friends kept in the family, after marriage; friends thrown out of family, after marriage... everyone has to choose their own path because there are no guarantees... post the next installment -- NOW! Come visit when you can...

November 15, 2010 at 8:43 AM  
Blogger Evonne said...

You're right in saying that others don't know exactly how you or him feel. I can understand the doubt by them, but at the same time, you needed to go with what you felt was the right thing to do.

November 15, 2010 at 8:52 AM  
Blogger Joann Mannix said...

I do love this story.

I love where you're going with this, how you're spinning it. These doubters just don't get it. Or do they?

I can't wait to hear the next part and the next...

November 15, 2010 at 8:59 AM  
Blogger Kristin @ Ellie-Town said...

I love reading these and can't wait for the next one!

November 15, 2010 at 9:00 AM  
Blogger KLZ said...

Due to extenuating circumstances, my husband moved in with me 6 weeks after we met. And we didn't tell anyone for another two months because we didn't want to hear it. It was risky and dumb but...it was what worked for us.

You've got to trust your gut.

November 15, 2010 at 9:20 AM  
Blogger MommyLovesStilettos said...

I can't wait to hear the rest!

November 15, 2010 at 9:22 AM  
Blogger Kmama said...

I'm on pins and needles!!

November 15, 2010 at 9:31 AM  
Blogger natalee said...

More.. more... You know this post reminds me of that shania twain song.. "looks like we made it.."

November 15, 2010 at 10:36 AM  
Blogger Daisygirl said...

love love....that kind of love is fabulous!

November 15, 2010 at 10:57 AM  
Blogger shortmama said...

Taking the risks are so worth it sometimes! My hubs and I moved in together after just a month of meeting/dating...not to another state though. We were engaged after 4 months of dating and married after one year of dating. Ten years later we are still going strong

November 15, 2010 at 12:05 PM  
Blogger Momma0f3~1662~ said...

Love this story more and more!

November 15, 2010 at 12:21 PM  
Blogger Stasha said...

I totally know what it's like to deal with doubters. It hurts when it comes from friends and family. You would think they would know you better. The best thing is proving them wrong and making it work! ;)

November 15, 2010 at 12:28 PM  
Blogger purseblogger said...

What happens next??

November 15, 2010 at 12:47 PM  
Blogger Secret Mom Thoughts said...

I love a good love story!

November 15, 2010 at 12:55 PM  
Blogger Aging Mommy said...

Doubters are one thing - I think it is natural to worry about those you love. Settlers, quite another thing. Nobody should ever settle but so many do.

November 15, 2010 at 1:11 PM  
Blogger DaisyGal said...

this story just gets better and better....
since we know it worked, we are getting the satisfaction with you...for sure. :)

love the story Shell.

November 15, 2010 at 1:30 PM  
Blogger Natalie said...

You know I love reading your story! I look forward to each new part, but I'm the worst at waiting!!

November 15, 2010 at 1:57 PM  
Blogger Heather said...

I've enjoyed reading...very captivating!

November 15, 2010 at 2:08 PM  
Blogger MiMi said...

Ack! Cliff hangers suck. :) lol

November 15, 2010 at 2:56 PM  
Blogger blueviolet said...

I understand! I really do! I just did the same thing after about the same amount of time!!!! Twinsies!

November 15, 2010 at 3:21 PM  
Blogger Helena said...

My sister got engaged 15 days after she met her future-husband. And I was horrified.

"If you love him this much now, maybe you will still love him in a year?"

She got defensive, and said I didn't understand. That Kurt and I must not really be in love, or I wouldn't doubt her.

But it wasn't her love I was questioning. I've seen too many friends who were just as passionately in love, end up marrying a man who turned out to be very different than they thought.

Now, I had also heard stories from people who rushed in just as fast, and were still happily married after 30+ years.

But the failed relationships are more common, and I didn't want to see my baby sister hurt like that.

2 months later, they got married. And they are happy. He was just as good as she said he was, although nowhere near as perfect as she originally thought (but then, that is how all marriages go).

I don't regret questioning it. If it had ended differently, if he had broken her heart, I would have regretted keeping my mouth shut.

November 15, 2010 at 3:34 PM  
Blogger bigguysmama said...

I did the same thing as you, but mine was a huge mistake. I did have 2 boys so they aren't mistakes, but never should've moved in the first place. I'm so glad your story has a different ending!

~Mimi

November 15, 2010 at 3:48 PM  
Blogger MommaKiss said...

Shell, you're making me sigh and go "oh" over here. And I want more. Hell woman! Give it up!

November 15, 2010 at 4:50 PM  
Blogger Just Another Mom of 2 said...

Oh girl, so mean with making us wait! Excellent, excellent story- I can't wait for more!

November 15, 2010 at 5:02 PM  
Blogger Emmy said...

Oh so excited to find out when he makes it back!!

November 15, 2010 at 6:07 PM  
Blogger mintifresh said...

Oh sure! Make ME wait! Don't you realize how impatient I am?! ;)

November 15, 2010 at 6:23 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

My Kelly has a lot of doubters right now...I'm one of them too but I try hard not to interfere.
Waiting for the next installment.

November 15, 2010 at 7:53 PM  
Blogger Helene said...

I love these posts...it's a little insight to your own personal love story! And even though it reads like a fiction story, it makes me smile knowing it's all true!!

November 15, 2010 at 9:51 PM  
Blogger Tiffany said...

Oh I can't wait!!! This story is getting good.

November 15, 2010 at 10:00 PM  
Blogger Jill said...

There's no greater feeling than that certainty...

November 15, 2010 at 10:36 PM  
Blogger Cheryl said...

As usual, love this latest installment and am looking forward to more!!!!

November 15, 2010 at 10:41 PM  
Blogger The Blue Zoo said...

I think I would have been one of those pesky doubters. Im such a pessimist. =)

Love your story!

November 16, 2010 at 2:39 AM  
Blogger Lady Jennie said...

I wonder if they doubted because they just couldn't bear to think of you moving away.

I would have rooted for you. I believe in love.

November 16, 2010 at 6:49 AM  
Blogger Kat said...

Always follow your heart, not the hearts of others. Do what feels right for YOU for only you have to live your life :) Much luck and much happiness to you!

November 16, 2010 at 7:32 AM  
Blogger TheBabyMammaChronicles said...

Oh, so exciting! A true life love story and now I'm in suspense for the next chapter!

November 16, 2010 at 11:22 AM  
Blogger (Florida) Girl said...

I saw the movie "Dear John" yesterday and it reminded me of your story here.

I look forward to hearing how this ends.

November 16, 2010 at 11:33 AM  
Blogger Joy said...

I love reading this. A love like that is rare. I'm glad you followed your heart.

November 16, 2010 at 4:32 PM  
Anonymous kris said...

A leap of faith like that?

That blind faith?

ACK!

I would be among the people raising doubts. Not because I don't believe in the power of love, but because I am a woman who likes control. And to see someone I love swept away by the power of love? Makes me nervous.

Doesn't mean it won't work out.

But it make me nervous.

November 16, 2010 at 7:38 PM  
Blogger Nancy C said...

One of my best friends married a guy after knowing him for two weeks. Ten years and three kids later, they are very happy.

Most couples, though, that have taken the big steps quickly have...struggled...to say the least.

Always interested in this story!

November 16, 2010 at 9:29 PM  
Blogger Babes Mami said...

Oooo keep going!

November 17, 2010 at 3:09 PM  
Blogger JDaniel4's Mom said...

I can't wait for his return.

November 17, 2010 at 3:55 PM  
Anonymous Making It Work Mom said...

I may have said this before, but I was engaged to my hubby after about 5 months of dating. I know that people thought we were crazy. Tomorrow we celebrate 12 years of marriage and three beautiful children. You have to follow your heart.

Oh by the way I would have commented earlier, but I have been so busy all week and I wanted to be able to enjoy your post so intentionally saved you for my Saturday night reading. You were my "date". Weird, maybe? But in a good way.

November 20, 2010 at 9:21 PM  
Blogger Adrienne said...

Oh man, not having family and friends support your relationship is tough. Especially when you're in the position of the waiter. It probably looked like you were crazy "waiting for this guy". I can just hear my family now (if this was me-which it's not, but I'm totally into it.) LOL

November 22, 2010 at 7:40 AM  

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