tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post4996859565201802236..comments2023-10-29T10:24:23.730-04:00Comments on Things I Can't Say: Pour Your Heart Out: What a Mom TeachesShellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comBlogger103125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-14196861814522168662011-05-06T13:21:14.882-04:002011-05-06T13:21:14.882-04:00I LOVE this post! You are so strong for being a p...I LOVE this post! You are so strong for being a positive role model and turning negatives into positives!!! hugs!kchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04840055950535979236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-4375456625762323542011-05-06T10:51:12.243-04:002011-05-06T10:51:12.243-04:00These words are so powerful, Shell, and I'm su...These words are so powerful, Shell, and I'm sure this was not an easy post to write. I'm very glad that you turned a negative situation around and are able to raise your children with the unconditional love you didn't received from your own momma. <br /><br />What a strong, remarkable woman you are.mypixiebloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09135461083810124483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-89394420690624707012011-05-05T23:19:20.644-04:002011-05-05T23:19:20.644-04:00We definitely just as much what NOT to do from our...We definitely just as much what NOT to do from our mothers as what we should do. <br /><br />I often say that some children become wonderful people IN SPITE of their parents & not BECAUSE of them. My husband is one of those stories.. and it sounds like so are you.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04959136986595394860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-7131650936591962672011-05-05T17:38:10.484-04:002011-05-05T17:38:10.484-04:00I know we have talked about your mother before. I ...I know we have talked about your mother before. I am glad that you learned some great lessons from her, even if you were only learning what not to do. You're a wonderful woman, an excellent friend, and a fantastic mommy!<br /><br />Love you!Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17788765112008092299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-3990979782672959792011-05-05T16:51:22.531-04:002011-05-05T16:51:22.531-04:00You are an amazing mother! Your boys are lucky to ...You are an amazing mother! Your boys are lucky to have you!A Mommy in the Cityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11899556376327311727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-45324352322249457712011-05-05T13:52:07.626-04:002011-05-05T13:52:07.626-04:00Oh, Shell! This is why I heart you!!!Oh, Shell! This is why I heart you!!!Lorihttp://Www.thepurposedrivenmom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-62890690007233007102011-05-05T08:01:50.755-04:002011-05-05T08:01:50.755-04:00It sucks that you had to grow up like that. At le...It sucks that you had to grow up like that. At least it has made you a better mother now. You are so amazingly brave for having survived and coming out a better person!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13311088408907148236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-46790595389352274052011-05-05T03:35:52.776-04:002011-05-05T03:35:52.776-04:00Wow, great post, I totally get where you are comin...Wow, great post, I totally get where you are coming from! My mom wasn't the greatest either, but through that I learned what I didn't want to be. I knew I wanted to be different, so I don't drink in front of my kids, I try not to fight in front of my kids (though it does happen sometimes, of course) and I try really hard to make life good and stable for them so they feel safe and secure and cared for. Because I didn't have those things growing up it made me want to break the cycle, and do a better job. And I feel like I have, and so have you. Good for you for being that strong person, brave enough to turn negativity into positivity and not letting her drag you down. What a great mommy!Keshyrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13753270540676067426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-92214443530383897612011-05-05T02:40:34.158-04:002011-05-05T02:40:34.158-04:00So glad you were able to take something negative a...So glad you were able to take something negative and turn it for yourself. Too often people have negative things happen in their life and they use those hardships as excuses for their actions and behaviors for the rest of their lives!shortmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18083148312260283511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-68218740134820800582011-05-05T00:13:34.941-04:002011-05-05T00:13:34.941-04:00I love your honesty in this post Shell!
I too had...I love your honesty in this post Shell! <br />I too had a mom that quoted to me "Do as I say, not as I do." Loved it. I am thankful that my mom DID try. and I am thankful that she tried to raise me so right, she had issues.....<br /><br />But you? Sounds like you were made so much stronger from being under her care. You know? I've often wondered why people like you turn out so well and then someone else with the same kinda parent will turn out terrible? Maybe you had another adult that was a postive influence on your life when your mother wasn't.....no clue.....baffles me really. But I am glad you turned out so well!!Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16483641233177919179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-58704194837434678222011-05-04T23:08:01.026-04:002011-05-04T23:08:01.026-04:00good for you gorgeous! I love that you took the ne...good for you gorgeous! I love that you took the negative and turned it positive! :)BNMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14865816022677082186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-60928789698295652732011-05-04T23:02:44.863-04:002011-05-04T23:02:44.863-04:00Oh. I know. Not my mom but my dad. It is so hard. ...Oh. I know. Not my mom but my dad. It is so hard. Hugs momma. You are much better than she.Kimberlyhttp://makemommygosomethingsomething.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-74788217729024916262011-05-04T22:05:16.142-04:002011-05-04T22:05:16.142-04:00Wow! I felt my heart skip a beat. I'm sorry fo...Wow! I felt my heart skip a beat. I'm sorry for the pain. This was a brave post! Good for you for breaking that cycle for you and your boys!Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065409375913634202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-1750499189770117282011-05-04T21:44:38.772-04:002011-05-04T21:44:38.772-04:00I'm so sorry that you had to learn these lesso...I'm so sorry that you had to learn these lessons that way--that can't have been easy. But it's great that you learned something good from the experience.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-18792503074628246752011-05-04T21:27:11.447-04:002011-05-04T21:27:11.447-04:00Wow! This is flat out excellent writing.Wow! This is flat out excellent writing.Maude Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03669688074743095866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-3166785145738563772011-05-04T19:10:57.680-04:002011-05-04T19:10:57.680-04:00Good for you for looking at things positively! It...Good for you for looking at things positively! It makes you a better mom for it! Thank you for sharing your heart! <br /><br />I had to delete the comment before I was logged in as my hubby opps!We 2 Beeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16604690101674758871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-70399733721271177272011-05-04T18:16:23.945-04:002011-05-04T18:16:23.945-04:00Good for you. That would be a lot to overcome-and...Good for you. That would be a lot to overcome-and though I don't know you in real life, I truly believe you have.<br /><br />I love my mom but there are some things that I to have tried not to do.. but then there are other things, like her patience that I wish I had a tenth of what she does.Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-47184723863175873542011-05-04T17:12:13.774-04:002011-05-04T17:12:13.774-04:00Breaking the cycle is more than a lot of people ca...Breaking the cycle is more than a lot of people can do. Awesome!Liz Mayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13960276167677132860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-83573603594998445312011-05-04T17:10:00.713-04:002011-05-04T17:10:00.713-04:00Good for you! Some people would be repeaters and c...Good for you! Some people would be repeaters and cycle it on to their own kids! I love the PYHO days, I may have to write one and link up (I just have to get my brave pants on).Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17940118384108153753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-66246393959599604902011-05-04T16:52:04.627-04:002011-05-04T16:52:04.627-04:00I could have written almost the same post but am s...I could have written almost the same post but am so glad that there were lessons to be taken from my not so perfect Mom. I surely pray our kids will be better for what we've endured.<br /><br />Bless you for putting yourself out there, Shell.Mrs Montoyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01211817860547896809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-49827168048724723112011-05-04T16:35:50.624-04:002011-05-04T16:35:50.624-04:00I strive for this too - to learn from how I was ra...I strive for this too - to learn from how I was raised!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01564542013071462911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-35944631982232938962011-05-04T16:13:02.290-04:002011-05-04T16:13:02.290-04:00To be able to recognize the flaws in your own moth...To be able to recognize the flaws in your own mother and learn right from wrong inspite of her influence makes you an incredible person...and mother!Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11023363765029452006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-14761099684589488392011-05-04T16:03:44.570-04:002011-05-04T16:03:44.570-04:00Shell - That had to be so painful to share. Thank...Shell - That had to be so painful to share. Thanks for your courage. I'm sure more than one person can identify with your feelings today. I think you've taken what you've learned and become a great mom.Missyhttp://www.literalmom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-26883136111129186372011-05-04T15:23:36.489-04:002011-05-04T15:23:36.489-04:00It ain't easy being a momma. We do the best we...It ain't easy being a momma. We do the best we can with what we have and each day we try to do better than we did the day before. I've said many times that every day I fail as a mom and every day I win as a mom and every day it gets harder. <br /><br />Good for you for finding the positive way to learn from your own mother.Aunt Crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14797824011406383879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-40466670624213814162011-05-04T15:08:18.559-04:002011-05-04T15:08:18.559-04:00My current fella has a terrible relationship with ...My current fella has a terrible relationship with his mom and I used to tell him she is your mother you have to love her and then I realized giving birth to someone doesn't grant you automatic love... giving love and caring does... So to you Shell I say I am so happy there are people like you and my HB who don't let it rule your world even though it has to be hard ...You are such a good mom and I think you learned well what not to beAdriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05454910946255400710noreply@blogger.com