tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post2891457348879782399..comments2023-10-29T10:24:23.730-04:00Comments on Things I Can't Say: Can Men and Women Be Friends?Shellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comBlogger83125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-43556832761658901902011-03-26T11:28:06.670-04:002011-03-26T11:28:06.670-04:00This is very true!
Stopping in from SITS!!!!This is very true!<br />Stopping in from SITS!!!!Savannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02524014137808508501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-27667304889668060192011-03-25T16:08:51.222-04:002011-03-25T16:08:51.222-04:00I have one guy friend. He was in my wedding and s...I have one guy friend. He was in my wedding and stood with my bridesmaids. It's not awkward when we want to hang out. But, can I be friends with other guys like that? NOPE. can't. can't do it. And when I hear that my husband is emailing his ex-girlfriend who has recently divorced? Not. Cool. <br />Suddenly my husband feels like property. I don't like it. But I'm a jealous girl. <br /><br />Love your blog. CHecking you out because PamelotH tweeted you some luv. Glad she did:)Wild Child Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18085099683294642471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-37652505752615625122011-03-24T10:23:54.182-04:002011-03-24T10:23:54.182-04:00Before marriage I had several guy friends, some o...Before marriage I had several guy friends, some of whom I'd been intimate with. Now the ones that are still around are friends with us as a couple. We live in a small town so it's kind of different, smaller social circles. But no, I don't think I would be cool with it if say my hubs' BFF was a girl. But I do really wish I had a gay guy BFF.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07589330892217693717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-36167371313448059102011-03-23T13:22:17.085-04:002011-03-23T13:22:17.085-04:00I love this post. It's a tough call. Many (pro...I love this post. It's a tough call. Many (probably most, actually) of my friends are guys, but they're also involved in relationships so it's never been much of an issue. I do have some guy friends and we've recently been treading that "should we/shouldn't we" fine line of crossing over to see what happens... but I think as long as two people can be mature about things, then YES. It is possible to be just friends :)mypixiebloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09135461083810124483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-37932888322790815322011-03-23T03:47:10.220-04:002011-03-23T03:47:10.220-04:00Too long and complicated to post. I agree with mos...Too long and complicated to post. I agree with most everything you said. I don't try to make friends with guys since I am married. I have aquaintances. Which are different than friends. Friends with guys after marriage could lead to emotional infidelity. So I just don't go there. Why do I have Billy Crystals voice going through my head?! Thanks for stopping by my site earlier!Caren with a "C"http://www.preservinghomebasics.com/familynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-83722133245241647852011-03-23T01:08:40.028-04:002011-03-23T01:08:40.028-04:00It's a hard subject. I think you can be frien...It's a hard subject. I think you can be friends on some level, but I would never be comfortable with my husband spending time with a female friend if I weren't there. It's just not something I could personally deal with. I had a lot of male friends at my former job, but I never hung out with them outside of work (except for company parties). And I will admit that there was often some light flirtation involved between us (and many of my other co-workers). With me, it wasn't inappropriate, but it was definitely there.Cyndy Bushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12617354883122757511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-45032375629744437852011-03-23T01:08:28.854-04:002011-03-23T01:08:28.854-04:00OK, read your last post too. Geez, meanboys suck. ...OK, read your last post too. Geez, meanboys suck. Im glad your little guy and Emily are back to being friends.<br /><br />I think men and women can be just friends. But not the kind of friends where you go out and do thingss all by yourselves. That just opens the door for doubt. ya know?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-17683054508291293222011-03-22T23:49:06.931-04:002011-03-22T23:49:06.931-04:00I hear ya, Shell. I've had a few very good guy...I hear ya, Shell. I've had a few very good guy friends over the years (they WERE easier!) but not so much after marriage. I do have one close male friend who is also a close friend of my hubs, so when we talk or chat online? I always just make sure I mention the conversation to hubs.<br /><br />But yeah, it's complicated.Sherrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13980063502482258767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-88562862462938335222011-03-22T22:05:36.881-04:002011-03-22T22:05:36.881-04:00While I do have male friends, I would never be wit...While I do have male friends, I would never be with them alone and out somewhere. That would be weird. I expect my husband to have the same respect for his friends that are girls. <br /><br />Great topic!tracyhttp://sellabitmum.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-14570866235556324202011-03-22T21:42:45.209-04:002011-03-22T21:42:45.209-04:00I think it depends if it is an old friend or a new...I think it depends if it is an old friend or a new friend. You shouldn't have to give up old friends because you got married, but I think if you are making new friends of the opposite sex then it gets sketchy.Making It Work Momhttp://www.makingitworkmom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-50197416622980217592011-03-22T20:42:12.657-04:002011-03-22T20:42:12.657-04:00I think that it's possible to be friends but i...I think that it's possible to be friends but it isn't always easy for the reasons you talked about. I have my guy friends I've had nearly my entire life but since I got married and had a baby they have been different, mainly because they are not married with babies. I don't know where I'm going with the comment but anyway...it can be done but not easily in my case!Babes Mamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07358199545037517298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-91480001749139256652011-03-22T20:21:44.382-04:002011-03-22T20:21:44.382-04:00IDK- I want to say yes, but I'm not sure.
M...IDK- I want to say yes, but I'm not sure. <br /><br />My ex husband had a couple of really good girl friends. He met one at work and in the end, it was not those girls I had to worry about. <br /><br />The Girl's godfather has been a good friend of mine since high school. He was also my ex's best friend for awhile, but I 'retained' him, through two of his own wives and my own marriage. We even followed each other around, inadvertently, with us both ending up living with our parents again at the same time. I thought we'd see each other a lot, but his new wife, while very nice, really kept her distance and so we've drifted apart. It makes me sad, because he really stuck by me through thick and thin. <br /><br />Anyone that knows me, knows that I'd never knowingly threaten a marriage, so it makes me sad when I really enjoy someone's company, male or female, but because I'm unattached, it somehow makes me a threat.Sorta Southern Single Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14349718837546442408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-53651185412042692142011-03-22T18:51:31.318-04:002011-03-22T18:51:31.318-04:00I'd be pissed if Wayne hung out with any woman...I'd be pissed if Wayne hung out with any woman who wasn't me. And I would never put him through the "What if's" <br /><br />So - I think if you want to put your relationship in jeopardy then yea... go ahead and be friends with the opposite sex.<br /><br />(couple friends don't count - even if you hang out with the guys instead of the girls... that is a totally different ball game.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-12626462374502313972011-03-22T18:36:00.064-04:002011-03-22T18:36:00.064-04:00I could go on forever on this.
I would never go s...I could go on forever on this.<br /><br />I would never go someplace with a man alone.<br /><br />I wouldn't.<br /><br />Because I wouldn't want my husband to do it.<br /><br />Old fashioned, I know, I know.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00609629888008025050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-26416902962667826702011-03-22T18:35:06.639-04:002011-03-22T18:35:06.639-04:00Absolutely men and women can be friends! My husba...Absolutely men and women can be friends! My husband has some amazing women friends, people I encourage him to get to know just because I know they challenge him to be a better man. And I have some amazing male friends who can help me figure out the intricacies of the male mind when my husband makes ABSOLUTELY NO SENSE! But there have to be boundaries. And trust.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17043585148664431337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-51052919177598605542011-03-22T17:54:25.891-04:002011-03-22T17:54:25.891-04:00LOVE this post......!!!!!!!!
( FLASHBACK>&g...LOVE this post......!!!!!!!! <br /><br /> ( FLASHBACK>> I LOVE THAT MOVIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!). <br /><br /> my guy friends now though are my "gay husbands".. and surely pose no threat to hubby.... trust me he has this .. friend from high school whose a girl (when she calls my hubby i flip.. i feel like there's an alternate motive..(I'm such a bitch)..lol<br /><br /><br />hugs my friendnataleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16999272522761149608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-34266736976367439602011-03-22T17:02:18.504-04:002011-03-22T17:02:18.504-04:00THis is absolutely a brilliant post...great topic!...THis is absolutely a brilliant post...great topic!! I can make friends with men easier than women...but I've learned to guard that. My best friend is hubby...that's how it should be. You definitely have to guard aspects of your heart, emotions, words with the opposite sex (girl, I could go on and on)! I had a group of very close friends...men and women...until 2 of them (both were married) were more than friends. It's a slippery slope.Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08354973669191454830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-42133653066073778272011-03-22T16:49:40.364-04:002011-03-22T16:49:40.364-04:00most of my closest friends are guys. i hate that i...most of my closest friends are guys. i hate that in a modern age like this people still look and talk about women who are friends with men. i had one of the worst possable things imaginable happen to a dear childhood friend because people cant accept women and men being friends. why cant we just all be equalsRhiannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01760401832844916748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-32125100177046948162011-03-22T16:48:06.440-04:002011-03-22T16:48:06.440-04:00SO much to say in response, but I do believe that ...SO much to say in response, but I do believe that YES. Men and women CAN be friends. Sadly it is often women who get in the way of that as they cannot trust in one another. But there's so much more to say there. For me, I think they can be, as I have two absolutely incredible and supportive male friends who I have just been friends with forever and a day. Again, way too much to say in just a comment. <br /><br />Oh, and I SO love that movie. I think I need to get the DVD. ;)Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06972798018825603047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-41026324207116711122011-03-22T16:34:06.771-04:002011-03-22T16:34:06.771-04:00LOVE that movie...one of my all-time favorites.
...LOVE that movie...one of my all-time favorites. <br /><br />I don't think I've ever had a true male friend who didn't eventually try to date/sleep with me!Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08209297120840809760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-85701527449195024802011-03-22T15:57:31.428-04:002011-03-22T15:57:31.428-04:00Now you've made me want to pop some popcorn, c...Now you've made me want to pop some popcorn, curl up on the couch and watch this movie.<br /><br />I agree that it is sometimes easier to be friends with men than with women. But now you have me reviewing every friendship I have and besides my husband, I have no close men friends. I have acquaintances, but not close friends.<br /><br />Hmm...why is that?Lanitahttp://amothershood.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-15421468073936310762011-03-22T15:38:29.383-04:002011-03-22T15:38:29.383-04:00I think it is possible...but it is extremely compl...I think it is possible...but it is extremely complicated. In order for it to work it has to be an open and honest relationship where everyone is involved. <br /><br />I had a BBF who refused to tell his wife and it ended badly with a whole lotta bad things that happened. I wanted him to be open and honest with her before they even got married about our friendship...he refused. They hit a rough patch and sex got in the way of our friendship and seriously harmed his marriage. <br /><br />In another friendship, the boy and I have been friends for a very long time, his wife knows and I am friends with her but not really. He is my friend and he talks to me about issues. We go to lunch. BUT, I also am the one to tell him he is a dork and babysit when I think they need a date night. I wouldn't be his friend if his wife was not really supportive of that relationship. She calls me sometimes and asks me to talk to him.<br /><br />Boy/Girl friendships need the support of the spouse. Without that support the friendship is doomed for failure and to cause tension in the marriage.kchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04840055950535979236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-72213671097797276252011-03-22T15:33:37.723-04:002011-03-22T15:33:37.723-04:00I ALWAYS have had more guy friends and just a coup...I ALWAYS have had more guy friends and just a couple of really amazing girl friends. In fact, as we became adults and got married and such, I turned into the "cool" wife. It always ended up, happy hour, my husband,his friends and me.<br />These days, due to having children and making play dates,I've began to form a lot more friendships with women. I like having the sisterhood with other women. AS far as the question if men and women can be friends, I used to think so. But EVERY male friend has explained to me that that is NOT the case and a man either wants in your pants, wanted in your pants, or has been in your pants if he is your "friend".So,I guess I don't know en at all:)Truthful Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13418118155979582823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-48647364360707533692011-03-22T15:28:31.549-04:002011-03-22T15:28:31.549-04:00Oye.
Complicated.
I think if your spouse is ther...Oye. <br />Complicated. <br />I think if your spouse is there fine but if not then you should not be actively seeking friendship with the opposite sexLeighannhttp://multitaskingmumma.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-69620305841284427962011-03-22T14:52:52.576-04:002011-03-22T14:52:52.576-04:00Growing up, all my friends were guys. Now? Yes, ...Growing up, all my friends were guys. Now? Yes, if it's long distance, but it's not like I'd go spend the weekend at their house or anything. I'm with you...I'd be pissed if Husband were going to dinner with a chick too...no matter how well I knew her.<br /><br />Oddly enough, he runs with one of my best friends and it doesn't bother me at all...probably because I'd rather he sucked someone else into his running conversations than me!Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14048243639634834643noreply@blogger.com