tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post1898446095091470769..comments2023-10-29T10:24:23.730-04:00Comments on Things I Can't Say: Pour Your Heart Out: My Overwhelmed GlassShellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comBlogger102125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-2638744366050482622010-07-23T21:44:50.637-04:002010-07-23T21:44:50.637-04:00Oh Shell...
That is a TON of crap on your plate. I...Oh Shell...<br />That is a TON of crap on your plate. If I had to deal with even 1/2 of it I'd have crumbled, and I take pills every day as it is!<br /><br />Sweetie, your expectations of yourself are way too high. The heat this summer alone is enough to make me want to serve cold pasta salads every night. I hate using my oven in summer. I also think the heat makes the kids fight more.<br /><br />Screw the moms who were mean and the friend who lost you. Yes, she LOST you b/c you are worth a lot---and you're likely better off without her.<br /><br />As for hubs, he shouldn't have mentioned the present if he wasn't sure. not your fault/problem. And he shouldn't have added the pressure of the dinner for friends with the other sad news/issues you were already dealing with.<br /><br />You sound like a saint to me.<br /><br />How do I deal? I cry. I used to cut myself (which is much easier to write in your comments, though I have thought about blogging about it---but would freak people out). I used to have panic attacks. Now I try to call a friend. I try to go in the other room and close the door and take deep breaths. I also take medication.<br /><br />Sorry this is a novel. I hope you are feeling better. Hang in there, sweetie!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13214914707096410664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-21911702721673309332010-07-22T18:16:57.527-04:002010-07-22T18:16:57.527-04:00I, OF COURSE, voted for you... altho doesn't l...I, OF COURSE, voted for you... altho doesn't look like you need the vote, sistah. <br /><br />Wow, I am just in awe of how true to your feelings you are. By the way, NOT ONE Of them was I like, "Oh, pah-lease, that's not a big deal". ALL of them are big, alone. But combined, in 1 week, echkt. <br /><br />So, the friend who sold you out.. or whatever the hell she did. First off, I hate her. Secondly, can I guess she doesn't read this? <br /><br />Hugs from 2 hours away. You're the bomb.Kat @ www.TodaysCliche.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12963153282575535121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-33645476909312676492010-07-22T17:07:08.883-04:002010-07-22T17:07:08.883-04:00Yep! You're definitely not alone! I tend to le...Yep! You're definitely not alone! I tend to let it all pile up and then it just takes one stupid little inconsequential thing and everything comes tumbling back down!Beth Zimmermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07047047792782914757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-60130353887259348052010-07-22T15:22:50.863-04:002010-07-22T15:22:50.863-04:00So sorry you're having a tough time. I know h...So sorry you're having a tough time. I know how it can feel when the straw finally breaks the camel's back and all of the little things that would have been manageable on their own suddenly seem overwhelming. (Sarah in the previous comment stole what I was going to say, but . . . ) remember that this too shall pass. In the meantime, just do what you need to to take care of yourself and survive until things look brighter!Yellow House Knitshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06002829617133758326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-8453393329766416132010-07-22T02:16:37.493-04:002010-07-22T02:16:37.493-04:00Hey Shell! Hang in there! I know this is tough but...Hey Shell! Hang in there! I know this is tough but sometimes a whole bunch of little things are harder to handle than one big thing. I get overwhelmed too. Just remember that this too shall pass. I know that sounds like an easy answer and it's not but remember that we all love you & we're praying for you! :)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15143572218544904176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-38689110375238374402010-07-22T00:33:33.468-04:002010-07-22T00:33:33.468-04:00Aaaagghhhh, is today Wednesday??? I had a totally...Aaaagghhhh, is today Wednesday??? I had a totally good PYHO post that I wrote a couple weeks ago but totally forgot what day of the week it was!!! Okay, I'll remember it for next week.<br /><br />Anyway, so sorry you had a bad week. None of those things are silly...I could see myself getting just as upset over the most serious things (the illness) to even what may seem like the most mundane things (like the boys fighting with one another). You roll all that stuff up into a matter of just a few days and it's enough to make you want to cry for months.<br /><br />And sometimes a good cry can make everything better...or a chilled glass of wine or just some good old-fashioned sex. Everyone has their poison, right?<br /><br />You hang in there...the sun will shine again!<br /><br />I voted for you...way to go, you're in the lead!!!Helenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10743718606624231459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-38540460022498781752010-07-21T23:04:59.349-04:002010-07-21T23:04:59.349-04:00Well some of those things don't sound very lit...Well some of those things don't sound very little. I totally understand how you feel that little things compounded with big things can just make you feel weighed down and sometimes break you. I really hope things turn out with your family member. It's so hard when someone so young gets sick.<br />Hope you feel better too. :) {HUGS}Tylainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14211476019559402950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-27648230555765210602010-07-21T22:16:02.321-04:002010-07-21T22:16:02.321-04:00hen all the little things pile up...they turn into...hen all the little things pile up...they turn into a big deal. I hope you start to have some better days!Michelle @Flying Giggleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04679204142907645581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-57608227735500284752010-07-21T21:30:37.292-04:002010-07-21T21:30:37.292-04:00I don't think your list is at all silly. I cou...I don't think your list is at all silly. I could feel how overwhelming it all must have been as I kept reading. Like you said, it all just piles up. The big and the little things.<br /><br />I've linked up two posts - one I wrote specially for this linky... but after reading some of your list (feeling like you're fat?), I thought I'd encourage you with the other one I wrote on Tuesday. Is that greedy???<br /><br />Sending you a great big hug, Shell.<br />Luv from Simone<br />xxSimoneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09554122579485306611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-58199448991570072532010-07-21T20:41:58.687-04:002010-07-21T20:41:58.687-04:00I melt down - but not as much as I did when I was ...I melt down - but not as much as I did when I was younger. It seems to diminish as I age - much like my memory or my eyesight. <br /><br />When my children were little I could melt down with a sideways glance from a grocery-store-shelf-stocker or a piece of spinach stuck in my teeth.<br /><br />When my children were teenagers and hormonal, I was less prone to meltdown - maybe I was making way for them.<br /><br />When I was first empty nested, you would have thought I invented meltdowns. I was a drama queen but only for the weekend performances. Weekdays were handled by a younger under-study.<br /><br />Now I'm a grandmother and the meltdowns are as infrequent as my good hair days.<br /><br />Hang in there. Good female friends are our best resource during a meltdown. Make sure that someone nearby knows your favorite flavor of ice cream and never goes on an inconvenient diet.Sharon Cohenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00888969860359917900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-60030236435136517602010-07-21T20:22:59.013-04:002010-07-21T20:22:59.013-04:00I can relate to this post. I am so sorry you have ...I can relate to this post. I am so sorry you have such bad news about friends and family...I truly hope there is a solution/cure/hope!<br /><br />Thanks for sharing this...some of these seems small, but all piled up on top of each other it is stressful!<br /><br />Holly<br />ps-<br />We had stings/bites too and have no idea where they came form!Holly Lefevrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01682463489134875301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-66209170908950714122010-07-21T20:02:27.469-04:002010-07-21T20:02:27.469-04:00Oh honey, I'm so very sorry for the week.
Yes...Oh honey, I'm so very sorry for the week.<br /><br />Yes, that happens to me as well. It's like little drops of sewage that build and build until it's just completely toxic.<br /><br />Anyone who cannot identify with this is either a) lying, b) heartless, or c) heavily medicated.<br /><br />And you know how I feel about my DVR. You're family is in my thoughts.Ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16041241998702255016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-59638928230633293642010-07-21T19:21:29.920-04:002010-07-21T19:21:29.920-04:00Oh, Shell, sweetie. I'm telling you right this...Oh, Shell, sweetie. I'm telling you right this second--next time you feel like the world is crashing down and it's suffocating you?<br /><br />You call me. End of story. <br /><br />My heart hurts for you. I wish I could give you a hug or take you out for drinks.<br /><br />And I'm serious about the calling me thing, okay, honey? I love you way too much to see this much hurt and sadness.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18157079109164214233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-7536843599736315262010-07-21T19:08:34.750-04:002010-07-21T19:08:34.750-04:00Yep, it's everything put together that makes i...Yep, it's everything put together that makes it all so unbearable! I sure hope your week is better this week!Liz Mayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13960276167677132860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-48872026621115318182010-07-21T18:12:21.054-04:002010-07-21T18:12:21.054-04:00Wow, you had one hell of a week, hon! I hope that...Wow, you had one hell of a week, hon! I hope that things start to turn around for you as it progresses. We all reach a breaking point where we can't take anymore...that's only natural!! Hang in there!The Mommyologisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957108098571392880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-8647225370898177572010-07-21T17:43:25.185-04:002010-07-21T17:43:25.185-04:00Oh girl, those are not little things. Each and eve...Oh girl, those are not little things. Each and every one of them would be a reason to cry. I am so sorry you had such a tough week. And whoever's being ugly to you, point me in their direction. <br /><br />And I'm sure you have a lot of friends shoulder's you can cry on, but I'm always here and my fingers can fly on the keyboard, straight to you and your sad heart. I'm sorry. I hope your week is a better one.Joann Mannixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11163491824085428085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-22251727291924841672010-07-21T17:18:01.648-04:002010-07-21T17:18:01.648-04:00How did you not snap sooner! That was a crap awfu...How did you not snap sooner! That was a crap awful week.<br /><br />I will personally b*tch slap all those moms if you want me to.<br /><br />As for your bil, oh no he didn't!Louriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05477223472789865063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-57816955754979355092010-07-21T16:20:57.162-04:002010-07-21T16:20:57.162-04:00I'm sorry you had a bad week. I can so relate....I'm sorry you had a bad week. I can so relate. My husband has no idea what to do when I just break down. I'm glad you are feeling better.<br /><br />Thank you for stopping by my blog and for your support. I am feeling better about things, I just have a lot of decisions to make. Also, thank you for telling me how to post the button.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-42657545017668214012010-07-21T16:02:48.314-04:002010-07-21T16:02:48.314-04:00I know exactly how you feel. I do the same thing! ...I know exactly how you feel. I do the same thing! I'm glad things are better :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-21025851785255045112010-07-21T15:58:30.767-04:002010-07-21T15:58:30.767-04:00Oh Shell I wish I lived close to give you a hug. ...Oh Shell I wish I lived close to give you a hug. I hope you are able to work through some of these things. Just take it one day or thing at a time.Karen Mortensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15991996620864410833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-68467019005349944912010-07-21T15:09:41.451-04:002010-07-21T15:09:41.451-04:00sorry all this happened last week! I have had a lo...sorry all this happened last week! I have had a lot of junk happen lately!I ,too tend to shut down but i am trying to change that.Having someone to talk/vent to really helps!I also go for a run and/or go to gym and blast it out!sometimes i just lay down and take a nap w my twinkies!It usually gets better soon but i have to make myself try!Twincerely,Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01467035860922139620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-90200359869946986762010-07-21T15:04:12.083-04:002010-07-21T15:04:12.083-04:00As you say, one or more of those incidents taken i...As you say, one or more of those incidents taken in isolation is usually water off a duck's back but the cumulative effect of so many little and not so little hurts, disappointments and news of those you love and care for being sick and a whole bunch of other things then yes, even the duck would be left helplessly swimming against the tide and would be lost in the rapids and over the edge for sure. Sorry you had such a rotten week and any time you need a virtual hug or ear to bend there is one here ready and waiting!One Photohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05793386254564806126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-21999439201775827472010-07-21T14:21:15.307-04:002010-07-21T14:21:15.307-04:00That is ALOT to handle all at once...hell, it'...That is ALOT to handle all at once...hell, it's alot even if you break it up into bits and pieces. Therefore, I give you credit for not doing more than just crying! You are ok...and you have people that support you and feel what you are feeling. Remember that. *hugs*Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06348850694822729179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-21831849793709972802010-07-21T14:09:11.617-04:002010-07-21T14:09:11.617-04:00Those things are not silly, as I read the list I k...Those things are not silly, as I read the list I kept feeling worse and worse for you. You have a lot! Those dunks are the worst. When I get in one I try and just let go and really play with my kids for a bit. Everything seems simple and okay in a child's eyes.Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-48896882800023559472010-07-21T13:59:22.405-04:002010-07-21T13:59:22.405-04:00I totally understand...its always the little thing...I totally understand...its always the little things that add up and break you down. You can get through it though...even the big things. My best friend moved all the way across the country about 2 months ago too...its very very sad and hard and I miss her everyday. Keep your head up and things will turn up...they always do!Mandy Fischlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16835037349915604455noreply@blogger.com