tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post1423691468320142754..comments2023-10-29T10:24:23.730-04:00Comments on Things I Can't Say: Fairness: I didn't learn it from my momShellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-46666132089862559302009-12-16T12:45:35.779-05:002009-12-16T12:45:35.779-05:00ARe they gone? I feel for you! Good job momma!ARe they gone? I feel for you! Good job momma!Hoity Toity Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17841059445008190667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-12096433743754930162009-12-07T10:47:38.686-05:002009-12-07T10:47:38.686-05:00WOW. If my parents acted like that it would be my...WOW. If my parents acted like that it would be my FOURTH bottle of wine by day two.<br /><br />Come to my blog today to vote for my daughter in a holiday photo contest - Voting only 12.7 - 12/8 at 9am central!!!MommyLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08288191448338432734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-38664402914685284012009-12-07T04:00:12.491-05:002009-12-07T04:00:12.491-05:00My mother in law sometimes breaks our rules too. A...My mother in law sometimes breaks our rules too. And she tells us it should be okay cause she's the grandma and its her job to spoil my kids. But thank goodness my husband can put her in check for me.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02988832299315668308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-51362479697670886422009-12-06T23:07:20.810-05:002009-12-06T23:07:20.810-05:00this sucks. i feel terrible that you have to put u...this sucks. i feel terrible that you have to put up with this. maybe you could talk to your husband about asking his parents to stay in a hotel next time. this is not just "a little favoritism", it is COMPLETELY OUT OF LINE.Stone Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01141709907613987429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-87909678218758017172009-12-06T18:14:30.683-05:002009-12-06T18:14:30.683-05:00My heart goes out to you. It's such a shame t...My heart goes out to you. It's such a shame that some family members can make things so unpleasant. <br /><br /><a href="http://www.FunnyPhotosContest.com" rel="nofollow">www.FunnyPhotosContest.com </a> Submit CUTE or FUNNY photos and tell friends to vote for them. <b>No entry fee.</b>Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11026598978273181885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-54002104663176633012009-12-06T16:32:13.289-05:002009-12-06T16:32:13.289-05:00I am proud of you for sticking up for your kiddo. ...I am proud of you for sticking up for your kiddo. I don't know why grandparents show such favoritism but we get that kind of stuff from my MIL all the time.Traciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10612857982151448455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-26110650029650397642009-12-06T01:12:37.751-05:002009-12-06T01:12:37.751-05:00I think grandparents gravitate towards those they ...I think grandparents gravitate towards those they relate with. It is a strange event, when it happens, and heart breaking for parents.<br /><br />My grandma consistently favored my older brother over my younger brother. She would constantly reprimand my younger brother, to the point that he did not want to be around her anymore. It was really rough. Now, she favors the younger brother! What?!?!<br /><br />You are one awesome mommy for sticking up for your little boys.amber_mtmchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17871256362646081536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-10591228255078757882009-12-05T18:19:43.848-05:002009-12-05T18:19:43.848-05:00My inlaws favor one over the other. It is so stra...My inlaws favor one over the other. It is so strange. What's really strange is my middle son was 18 months old when hubs and I married. My husband IS for all intensive purposes Daddy, even put his name on the birth certificate. BUT, he isn't his biological father. My stepson and my youngest are. Guess who they favor. Yep, the middle child. IT IS BIZARRE!adrienzgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00189335015566616247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-87341545477700131602009-12-05T17:25:03.954-05:002009-12-05T17:25:03.954-05:00Sorry that you have to go through this with your p...Sorry that you have to go through this with your parents. Do you have any clue why it is that they treat your children so differently? <br /><br />Have you ever had a discussion with them about their behavior? I would calmly explain the issues and then give them the opportunity to fix them. But I would also give them an ultimatum and tell them either they treat all Three of your children as equals, or they will not be spending time with any of their grandchildren.<br /><br />The older your boys become the more and more they are going to notice this behavior and they will get angry with you too for not putting a stop to it. They won't want their grandparents around. <br /><br />What a terrible situation for you to be in. I am so sorry they do this!! I'm not trying to tell you what to do, just offer some advice for you! Good luck in a terrible mess!beenomomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03063080049824661484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-36572593008457981702009-12-05T13:31:28.584-05:002009-12-05T13:31:28.584-05:00Wow. Just...wow. I can't even imagine the word...Wow. Just...wow. I can't even imagine the words that would fly out of my mouth (and possible objects out of my hands!) if my mom or mil did those things to my kids. Girl, I feel for you! Thank the Lord for wine!!! Hope you make it sanely through the rest of their stay!<br /><br />Happy Sharefest Saturday!Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04571329756506708419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-66148501989091527482009-12-05T11:54:45.767-05:002009-12-05T11:54:45.767-05:00That made my blood boil just reading it! I think y...That made my blood boil just reading it! I think you did absolutely the right thing. I was thinking the same things as Foursons ... Would you be able to just tell her ... this is the way it is. If you don't treat them all fairly then you won't be allowed to give gifts for any. Sounds like she's not going to change unless you force her to. <br /><br />Okay, yes, I just butt in when you didn't ask my advice and you certainly know the situation far better than I do. Just wanting you to be able to alleviate that stress for yourself and the kids! ;0)Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01156194155140470909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-39205241174117317652009-12-05T11:38:25.496-05:002009-12-05T11:38:25.496-05:00I dont have kids, but I think you did the right th...I dont have kids, but I think you did the right thing...and may I say that Im impressed, only bottle number two in two days, I would so be like on number five by now;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-32095660326437137052009-12-05T11:06:22.846-05:002009-12-05T11:06:22.846-05:00You were absolutely right in this matter. Is ther...You were absolutely right in this matter. Is there anyway you can tell them they aren't welcome at your home unless they treat all the kids the same? Your younger boys are going to have some serious issues about their grandparents if this behavior continues. I feel so badly for them!Foursonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470306593323990269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-59829484577581576602009-12-05T09:25:21.042-05:002009-12-05T09:25:21.042-05:00You were totally fair. Poor Bear! And Monkey isn...You were totally fair. Poor Bear! And Monkey isn't old enough to totally understand...<br /><br />I have my own issues with Grandparents...like their complete inability and/or unwillingness to use the word "No" like, ever. <br /><br />Bottoms UP this holiday season! We're all gonna need a nip...or a booze helmet with two straws. whatev.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07936590434342279468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-63156822326923547072009-12-05T08:59:37.530-05:002009-12-05T08:59:37.530-05:00That sucks! How old are your kids? we don't ...That sucks! How old are your kids? we don't have favoritism within between our kids, but my inlaws definitely favor my BIL's daughter over our boys. They said they are cutting back this year. That means for us and not for BIL and daughter. Blah.Kmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05008496338777404036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-8030270717087967882009-12-05T08:55:09.112-05:002009-12-05T08:55:09.112-05:00Oh! That is so wrong!!I don't know if I would ...Oh! That is so wrong!!I don't know if I would have been as kind as you.My Mom used to do stuff like that.Just makes the kids feel so bad(the ones that aren't noticed)Whats wrong with people???<br /> Happy Sharefest Saturday!!Stop by anytimeTwincerely,Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01467035860922139620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-30212027151002788952009-12-05T08:37:45.214-05:002009-12-05T08:37:45.214-05:00oh my goodness...I wouldve have had a meltdown for...oh my goodness...I wouldve have had a meltdown for sure!!! Maybe you should sit them down and have a good talk!!!Some people need it!<br /><br />Happy SITS sharefest.<br /><br />PS Come enter the fun giveaways: <br />http://energizerbunnysmommyreports.blogspot.com/search/label/LinkyMarina@EBMRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03023004361644781714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-24198668675234851152009-12-05T07:54:19.374-05:002009-12-05T07:54:19.374-05:00Oh girl - you did just fine. Good for you for stic...Oh girl - you did just fine. Good for you for sticking up for Bear.<br /><br />Grammy should be ashamed of herself, but sadly, she probably just thinks you're too hard on Monkey.<br /><br />What is it with psycho grandparents?!Ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00084508582913500810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-81136767953532626902009-12-05T06:40:13.332-05:002009-12-05T06:40:13.332-05:00Grandparents can undo in a second hours/days/weeks...Grandparents can undo in a second hours/days/weeks of hard parenting work!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09091836421087538938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-65924924811164993212009-12-05T06:26:40.807-05:002009-12-05T06:26:40.807-05:00I feel for you. You did the right thing. You are t...I feel for you. You did the right thing. You are the only one being fair in this scenario!Poolside with the Girlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16898747616571945274noreply@blogger.com