tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post1214423361878125445..comments2023-10-29T10:24:23.730-04:00Comments on Things I Can't Say: Can You Change Your Husband? Can You Change?Shellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comBlogger81125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-38588470480222403622010-06-17T09:55:25.453-04:002010-06-17T09:55:25.453-04:00This was such a great post I made my husband read ...This was such a great post I made my husband read it too. We agree so much that marriage is a choice. I'm not including extenuating circumstances or special details, but overall, being married and working on a strong, loving relationship is a choice and takes both people working together. Love is not the hard part- it's respecting and growing together that requires attention and dedication. <br /><br />Love this!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06957238407666666350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-10232077836046314072010-06-16T21:46:54.178-04:002010-06-16T21:46:54.178-04:00i love your honesty....i had same problem with hub...i love your honesty....i had same problem with hubby ..he was and always has been mr social....his out nights especially during sports season was the same....our turning point came after a DWI...and 6 mos loss of license for him....nataleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16999272522761149608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-60097818150027175512010-06-16T15:34:54.052-04:002010-06-16T15:34:54.052-04:00It is always a struggle though... things are alway...It is always a struggle though... things are always changing around us.MommyLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08288191448338432734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-9220311738400074602010-06-15T23:54:14.732-04:002010-06-15T23:54:14.732-04:00This is so true Shell. You said it perfectly.This is so true Shell. You said it perfectly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-9597536162660608552010-06-15T22:15:56.562-04:002010-06-15T22:15:56.562-04:00This is such an a amazing post, and so, so true. I...This is such an a amazing post, and so, so true. I agree with the other posters saying I was nodding along- you change all the time, so do the people around you. It's part of growing, evolving, etc. That doesn't mean some principles aren't the same, but you have to be willing to work together- both of you.<br /><br />I love this post!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06957238407666666350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-8286507187276084382010-06-15T12:01:30.155-04:002010-06-15T12:01:30.155-04:00This is SO well put.
I was nodding my head the wh...This is SO well put.<br /><br />I was nodding my head the whole time. I think marriage REQUIRES change and growth and compromise or I can guarantee it won't work. I think it's all about figuring out what things you can do to make everyone happier, without sacrificing too much of yourself. :)<br /><br />LOVED this.Claremont First Wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02529859630615522678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-73399206931943813872010-06-15T11:56:03.716-04:002010-06-15T11:56:03.716-04:00Good for you! Love that you said love is a decisi...Good for you! Love that you said love is a decision, you are so right. Too many people expect things to always be perfect and easy and then just give up when they aren't.. marriage is really hard at times, but the rewards are so worth it.Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-68877778247669214172010-06-15T11:14:38.010-04:002010-06-15T11:14:38.010-04:00I've always wondered about this, too. I'm...I've always wondered about this, too. I'm not married so I don't have much of a leg to stand on here, but I've heard many women talk about "fixing" or "changing" their guy.<br /><br />I tend to roll my eyes, but keep it to myself.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10258060786685150002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-45498170107993069312010-06-15T06:50:15.193-04:002010-06-15T06:50:15.193-04:00This was great, making the decision to love and st...This was great, making the decision to love and standing by it, accepting the other person and all that comes with them...it brings not only peace but a lasting love...thanks for posting this:-)rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15019015553206929698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-7134763268067924652010-06-15T03:08:01.584-04:002010-06-15T03:08:01.584-04:00Awesome post! We all change a little as we grow ol...Awesome post! We all change a little as we grow older and over time we have to make sacrifices for eachother. <br />Thanks so much for stopping by and commiserating with me on my Mommy Meltdown post. It's always nice to know that I'm not alone. Thanks again. Following you via Google Friend Connect! Have a great day.<br /><br />Kristi, Live and Love...Out Loud<br />@TweetingMamaKristi {at} Live and Love...Out Loudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03690301218425965735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-7801042650328188232010-06-15T01:47:02.769-04:002010-06-15T01:47:02.769-04:00SO TRUE! SO TRUE! My Hubster and I will be marrie...SO TRUE! SO TRUE! My Hubster and I will be married almost 4 years...and we recently talked about how much we've changed....FOR THE BETTER! (more accepting and slow to anger) It's so nice to see a relationship mature! And doesn't it feel so much better when you don't get angry over the small stuff (you gotta save that for when it means something! right? ;)BJ_Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11260831914072358712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-85277393616155373532010-06-15T00:11:24.387-04:002010-06-15T00:11:24.387-04:00Wow this is an awesome post. My hubs and I married...Wow this is an awesome post. My hubs and I married last year, after being together for almost 5 years, cohabitating for the last 2, so we knew what we were getting when we got married. I think there is an expectation of some change whether it really happens or not when that ring slides on your finger and you say I do. I knew his faults when I married him and married him anyway knowing he would probably never change.<br /><br />You know what though? He is. He is growing up, becoming more family oriented (even though he still works too hard) and more. Life is interesting like that. I'm loving seeing the man he is becoming and envisioning us old and gray sitting in our respective places shouting at each other across the house so we can hear what the other is saying....(haha)The Drama Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11989820542966245871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-11578259141352064352010-06-15T00:06:16.469-04:002010-06-15T00:06:16.469-04:00It's amazing how much we change over time and ...It's amazing how much we change over time and sometimes don't even realize it. I think it's awesome that you decided to stick with it and compromise! That is inspiring to hear because so many couples don't make that choice anymore.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15143572218544904176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-90918516486241928412010-06-14T23:31:45.664-04:002010-06-14T23:31:45.664-04:00You are so right!! I wish I had learned to comprom...You are so right!! I wish I had learned to compromise more!Together We Savehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17294423259234525733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-51827787194640897372010-06-14T23:27:56.813-04:002010-06-14T23:27:56.813-04:00Great post Shell. It's true that in marriage p...Great post Shell. It's true that in marriage people change and grow, it's what makes it work. If you're not willing to give and take then it's never going to work. <br />Healthy growth. Love this.<br /><br />Your photo of your family is great, beautiful.Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493576726012326958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-28835677112742574392010-06-14T22:48:41.512-04:002010-06-14T22:48:41.512-04:00Thanks *smile*Thanks *smile*Duckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06195603673076986036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-5090180393503472222010-06-14T22:09:22.214-04:002010-06-14T22:09:22.214-04:00This is such a great post! I'm off to read th...This is such a great post! I'm off to read the love is a decision link next.<br /><br />I'm not married, but my relationship has definitely reached a patch. Thanks for the reminder that we need to choose to grow together, not apart.KristinFiluthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08393804049131406666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-84558405744802636232010-06-14T21:46:01.904-04:002010-06-14T21:46:01.904-04:00I get so uncomfortable talking about things like t...I get so uncomfortable talking about things like this, but I love the way you've chosen to approach it. I'm not married, but I do hope to be someday, and the thought of all the struggles scares me. But, it's what makes your relationship what it is. If you're together in the end, that's what counts, right? I hope so! :)Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07840547941371689473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-41499384341496916732010-06-14T20:56:00.231-04:002010-06-14T20:56:00.231-04:00I have changed my hubby and molded him like putty ...I have changed my hubby and molded him like putty in my hands. It took 18 years, but we married really young and he needed some serious direction... and I was willing to give it. BAHAHAHA! Truth be told, he may have changed me a tiny bit as well. ;) <br /><br />Loved this post and the pics of y'all.Brandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10552493178085989449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-88758357886233453092010-06-14T20:44:33.340-04:002010-06-14T20:44:33.340-04:00Amen sista!Amen sista!Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04774418412869032306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-79429243043426920682010-06-14T20:35:03.530-04:002010-06-14T20:35:03.530-04:00what an amazing post. It is really funny how thing...what an amazing post. It is really funny how things do change with your life. I am so glad I got a chance to read your changes. Marriage is a great part of my life even if we have our hard times and all. It is totally worth it..<br /><br />Have an amazing night..Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513249357085004389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-89736541694276932482010-06-14T20:20:20.181-04:002010-06-14T20:20:20.181-04:00I needed this reminder tonight Shell! Ughh... it ...I needed this reminder tonight Shell! Ughh... it is about making the decision- and respecting eachother. I have been trying to remind myself of that the last few days.... it is not always easy, but I have to believe that in the long run, it is all worth it. xoElena Sonninohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05379730157559930301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-35841215213284119582010-06-14T20:01:15.180-04:002010-06-14T20:01:15.180-04:00I'm glad my husband doesn't want me to cha...I'm glad my husband doesn't want me to change. He thinks my weirdness is amusing.AiringMyLaundryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11051140760624657630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-26437839765340951302010-06-14T19:48:15.879-04:002010-06-14T19:48:15.879-04:00Compromise and making room for each others success...Compromise and making room for each others success and failures is the name of the marriage game.<br /><br />Kudos to you for sticking to it and showing your boys how its done.Karin Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14516662405528660516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-67421388990353692872010-06-14T19:44:43.277-04:002010-06-14T19:44:43.277-04:00Compromise is really hard to do but it sounds like...Compromise is really hard to do but it sounds like you have it down pat.HeartsMakeFamilieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01083164042219429954noreply@blogger.com