tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post694252973518507264..comments2023-10-29T10:24:23.730-04:00Comments on Things I Can't Say: Favoring MonkeyShellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-70324206183712194402009-10-19T13:39:33.509-04:002009-10-19T13:39:33.509-04:00I have the same thing with my kids and my in-laws....I have the same thing with my kids and my in-laws. It makes me so mad! My MIL also favors my oldest. The good thing is that she largely ignores all of us most of the time.Traciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10612857982151448455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-33958317735424104772009-10-19T10:53:48.640-04:002009-10-19T10:53:48.640-04:00YOU are LUCKY your MIL likes eve ONE of your kids!...YOU are LUCKY your MIL likes eve ONE of your kids!<br /><br />My MIL never sees any of our kids - my step-kids and the youngest in the family. She cannot be bothered to come to anything or ever see them. My daughter saw here SIX TIMES in her first year of life. My dad has seen more of my step-son's baseball games than my in-laws have ever seen baseball games, period.<br /><br />My parents treat all the kids equally. My steps and the two grandbabies they now have. <br /><br />My in-laws treat all the kids totally differently.MommyLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08288191448338432734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-78075216038848037872009-10-18T11:14:33.567-04:002009-10-18T11:14:33.567-04:00Poolside, thanks for giving me a lot to think abou...Poolside, thanks for giving me a lot to think about! <br /><br />Soon, it will be mil who is around and favoring Monkey. But, it's easier to ignore when it's her and not my own mom.Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-36678077859052457402009-10-17T19:16:40.770-04:002009-10-17T19:16:40.770-04:00Yikes. That's rough. My MIL totally favors my...Yikes. That's rough. My MIL totally favors my oldest (and actually told me once that she doesn't even understand why we had any more) but since it's my MIL and not my mom, I can just blow her off and forget about it. It's tougher when it's coming at you from all sides. A move to the beach though...man, I wouldn't pass that up either!!!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04065195610270532889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-18926872959647723662009-10-17T14:26:48.373-04:002009-10-17T14:26:48.373-04:00I have this issue! My mother in law favors the ol...I have this issue! My mother in law favors the oldest and ignores the youngest. We have to buy birthday presents for him from her so that he doesn't think she forgot!<br /><br />It is ridiculous and she will burn in hell for it (or so I hope)Chiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01666221134973458983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-61348945620995633972009-10-17T12:42:55.946-04:002009-10-17T12:42:55.946-04:00Oh gosh. That is wrong in so many ways!Oh gosh. That is wrong in so many ways!Foursonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470306593323990269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-872951924406570932009-10-17T12:04:51.071-04:002009-10-17T12:04:51.071-04:00Poolside, my mom actually has a younger sister. Bu...Poolside, my mom actually has a younger sister. But, everything is about how it will affect her. She has yet to support me in any major life decision that I have made(with the exception of moving back here) because she didn't like the way those would affect her. Nevermind that they were all decisions that were the best for me and my family. It's all about her.<br /><br />It is completely driving me insane that she will not support our move next month, just because she wants us to be nearby. And is being very vocal about it. To me and everyone else around us. Negative about every single freaking thing. <br /><br />It's even worse than the favortism.Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-42771103084548615752009-10-17T11:45:56.889-04:002009-10-17T11:45:56.889-04:00I heard your screams loud and clear...growing up m...I heard your screams loud and clear...growing up my older sis was the favored one, my other sis still has problems to this day with her because of it, very bad situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-8169981313114328972009-10-17T11:37:55.844-04:002009-10-17T11:37:55.844-04:00I can hear your screams. Can you hear mine? I have...I can hear your screams. Can you hear mine? I have similar issues. I have someone in my life like this and I've chalked it up to them being a narcisist. "oh, your house burned down, how is this going to effect ME????" It's always about them and how your situation effects THEM. They have little or no empathy for others. Unfortunately this is not something that they choose, it's sort of a character flaw. It seems abusive at times doesn't it?<br /> I can't tell you the disappointments that I have encountered because of this. It's awful. There are times when you think that you are the crazy one, but I assure you that you are not. By any chance was your Mom an only child? <br /><br />It's funny how the older people like this get the more OK they are with not hiding their favoritism and narcisism. They just can't keep it up appearances any longer so they just lay it out there. <br /><br />I hear you loud and clear and I applaud your decision to not let him go. <br /><br />Hang in there!Poolside with the Girlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16898747616571945274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-75174321243892587052009-10-17T09:40:00.112-04:002009-10-17T09:40:00.112-04:00My mil is like that with my daughter. She took he...My mil is like that with my daughter. She took her on her day off to give her a break from daycare. When my son came along and my daughter went to school, there was no offer to take him on her day off. And heaven forbid we ask her to babysit both kids. It's like pulling teeth. And my daughter always gets way cooler stuff (and more of it) than her brother.<br /><br />I feel your pain and I'll scream right along with you!Evonnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18053569885496919527noreply@blogger.com