tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post5075230940561568218..comments2023-10-29T10:24:23.730-04:00Comments on Things I Can't Say: Pour Your Heart Out: Things Even I Can't SayShellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comBlogger104125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-45135957674821213622011-09-26T07:26:29.914-04:002011-09-26T07:26:29.914-04:00I know how you feel. When we're hurting over ...I know how you feel. When we're hurting over someone else's situation the natural desire is to want to tell our blogging friends because this community really is tight-knit. But I don't do it either - not if it's not my story to tell. Also avoid blog wars. I checked out a tweep new follow and discovered her blog was all about trashing bloggers so I unfollowed right away.<br /><br />I don't post about sex because my husband wouldn't agree and I don't have to worry about money because no one has any illusion that I have any ( ha ha ).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12586581766383380976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-50389124434315161272011-09-23T15:53:14.173-04:002011-09-23T15:53:14.173-04:00This is exactly why I keep coming back to your blo...This is exactly why I keep coming back to your blog, for the past 20 mos.<br /><br />Because of your ethics.<br /><br />For me, if it would cause embarrassment to my children, I won't publish it.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00609629888008025050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-161628387884689642011-09-23T14:05:15.209-04:002011-09-23T14:05:15.209-04:00Sometimes it is SO hard for me to not talk about c...Sometimes it is SO hard for me to not talk about certain things that go on in my life but I know that nothing would be gained from me talking about it. Of course I do email and talk to some people about them which helsp.Babes Mamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07358199545037517298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-3811859910715685272011-09-23T11:11:06.190-04:002011-09-23T11:11:06.190-04:00telling others peoples story has got me in trouble...telling others peoples story has got me in trouble from time to time, and I've learned that if it doesn't have anything to do with me then its not my place. However, I have shared something the past few weeks that isnt necessarily my story to tell but it affects me and i havent went into detail about her but ive went into detail about how it makes me feel.. does that make sense?BNMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14865816022677082186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-11977811093261148582011-09-23T08:21:20.632-04:002011-09-23T08:21:20.632-04:00I completely agree, you have to have boundries. I...I completely agree, you have to have boundries. I know what you mean by "Not my story to tell". Sometimes I struggle with that, I want to tell stories that aren't mine.<br /><br />I don't blog about my husband. If I have something short and nice to say, I say it. Other then that I don't put my marriage on my blog. Mainly because my husband is such a private person, I don't want him to be upset or offended that I shared something, even something good.<br /><br />I don't blog about inlaws. Never. Not even good stuff. You never know what will set someone off. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09440764801030489008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-48879655447760413362011-09-23T07:09:11.805-04:002011-09-23T07:09:11.805-04:00Little slow this week on my reading. Great words o...Little slow this week on my reading. Great words of wisdom, I think.Leigh Powell Hineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271217245421014771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-34578000266259536032011-09-22T20:00:54.747-04:002011-09-22T20:00:54.747-04:00I hope everything works out for your family & ...I hope everything works out for your family & friend!!<br />I censor myself a lot... I have to keep in mind my parents (which I don't really censor for them.. they know me!), my in-laws.. I don't want to be TOO mean about Jerk Face! And then my very conservative grandparents read my blog.. plus other family and friends that have mentioned reading my blog..KSKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11606498455700699517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-7249581165226325282011-09-22T18:41:53.646-04:002011-09-22T18:41:53.646-04:00In the last few months I have really censored myse...In the last few months I have really censored myself. I realized a lot of people read my blog that I never knew they even knew I had one. There are so many things I would want to write about but dont.Tina @ Life Without Pinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10675430628036496317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-5792980141754272312011-09-22T17:47:00.332-04:002011-09-22T17:47:00.332-04:00Hope your family issue works out and your friend i...Hope your family issue works out and your friend is okay. <br /><br />I always start posts and then quit them. Well, maybe not always but alot.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-33621503579623506442011-09-22T15:45:52.948-04:002011-09-22T15:45:52.948-04:00It's tough trying to figure out what to say an...It's tough trying to figure out what to say and what to leave out. I guess it's just a personal decision. There have been plenty of times I've wanted to write about things I couldn't, but that's just part of blogging.Healthy Mom Projecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06942618984642324679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-29113512983402702852011-09-22T14:10:15.567-04:002011-09-22T14:10:15.567-04:00Blogging & privacy will always be at the foref...Blogging & privacy will always be at the forefront of what I do. My blog used to be all about me, but as the storytelling became more about my kids, I took a step back. Once you hit publish, it's out there. Forever. And I never want my kids or someone else in my life to be upset about something I said. So, I remain as authentic as I can be - but with a filter, because privacy is the one thing I'm not willing to risk.Theta Momhttp://www.thetamom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-14048903866412326262011-09-22T14:04:22.633-04:002011-09-22T14:04:22.633-04:00I try to keep my blog positive for the most part. ...I try to keep my blog positive for the most part. I don't think people want to hear me complain all the time. That said, I still slip into a pity party once in a while. My sweetie wanted us to stay anonymous, but with my son's new-found fame consuming half my life, it's hard to keep that in line. I even got my first hate-call which was pretty disturbing. I don't fight with people and I don't slam on anybody. But that's how I try to live my life, so that isn't too hard. I so love having bloggy friends and knowing you are all out there and so supportive helps me stay happy.<br />SandyMom of 12https://www.blogger.com/profile/03622293584581118824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-6104690411299567392011-09-22T13:55:39.535-04:002011-09-22T13:55:39.535-04:00I censor myself quite a bit. For me, the biggest r...I censor myself quite a bit. For me, the biggest reason is my oldest and the fact that she could read my blog at any time. So if it is okay for her eyes then I post it.McKennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09299201553545817162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-86230306012477179842011-09-22T12:46:13.617-04:002011-09-22T12:46:13.617-04:00I try to focus on myself, husband and baby in my p...I try to focus on myself, husband and baby in my posts - my personal life. I don't write too much about what other people say or do that I don't like, because my blog would not be my sacred place anymore.Theodora Ofosuhimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03459901216965225700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-17982452601005010462011-09-22T07:33:44.009-04:002011-09-22T07:33:44.009-04:00I invent most of the stuff on my blog--it's al...I invent most of the stuff on my blog--it's all my hopes and dreams. If I wrote about reality, I doubt anyone would come over!The Blonde Duckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00085499120024055465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-40963577522846421432011-09-22T01:39:15.957-04:002011-09-22T01:39:15.957-04:00I, like you, believe in being honest in all of my ...I, like you, believe in being honest in all of my posts. I try to keep some things anonymous for the protection of my family and myself, therefore I, too, don't release the names of my husband, daughter, family, friends, etc... Because I believe in being completely honest, I post things that I am willing to own. I believe if you're going to say it (or post it) you should know that anyone can find out what you've said and you should be ready to own it. I am real. I try to keep it real on my blog. If I have to sugar coat, I don't post. If it's not my own story or experience, I don't post... unless I've been given permission. If I'm not ready to accept opposing viewpoints, I won't post. Really, if I'm not ready to own it, I don't post it.Melissa Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00662661904222843049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-28387831551140185352011-09-22T00:49:53.935-04:002011-09-22T00:49:53.935-04:00Yes to all of what you said. Except the city I liv...Yes to all of what you said. Except the city I live in. Seriously, I have like 3 people who actually read anything I write on a regular basis and they all know where I live anyway. <br />I don't have strict guidelines but an internal compass. Sometimes it points me true north but other times I end up with phone calls and serious conversations after a post. But I'll never rat anyone out or be mean or unflattering. Nothing good ever comes from acting like that -be in on the internets or IRL.Peeperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01707172260314720194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-89379278992632568752011-09-22T00:04:44.815-04:002011-09-22T00:04:44.815-04:00I usually use a delicate equation, always measurin...I usually use a delicate equation, always measuring how much of the story is mine and what my horoscope was in the local paper.Megan (Best of Fates)http://www.bestoffates.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-17940777724076592852011-09-21T22:48:12.652-04:002011-09-21T22:48:12.652-04:00Oh boy. I am very open with MY life and very taboo...Oh boy. I am very open with MY life and very taboo subjects on my blog. But I know my sisters feel uncomfortable being talked about and my husband doesn't want much stuff about our marriage on there. So I steer clear of those subjects.<br /><br />I also try not to get political. That's just not my bag, baby ;)mollyhttp://www.adayinmollywood.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-41211625134902900042011-09-21T22:42:19.134-04:002011-09-21T22:42:19.134-04:00I like to be honest on my blog, but at the same ti...I like to be honest on my blog, but at the same time, I do hold back a little about certain things like you do. I try not to talk specifics about my family (parents, siblings, in-laws). I feel like I don't want to drag them into my blog if that's not what they want--especially if it's not something nice. It's hard sometimes to know where to draw the line. I don't think everyone has to spill it all. But what they do tell, I like it to be authentic.Rach (DonutsMama)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14029074046922966097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-34643328317572408772011-09-21T22:35:47.068-04:002011-09-21T22:35:47.068-04:00After being gone from blog world for a while, I ha...After being gone from blog world for a while, I have had some time to reflect on blogging and why I do it.<br /><br />This post speaks to some of what I have struggled with recently as I found myself straying from my original purpose of blogging.<br /><br />Now, I think I am clearer. My blog is the story of us--things I hope my kids will one day look upon as our history. What I post should be something that matters to them, tells them something about their mommy, how much they were loved, etc...And, when it comes to writing about others, I always write assuming they may read it (or my boss might).championm2000https://www.blogger.com/profile/14867731446440889107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-79374698321584237912011-09-21T22:26:11.517-04:002011-09-21T22:26:11.517-04:00I don't get too controversial on my blog. I me...I don't get too controversial on my blog. I mention my faith and how it applies to my life, but I don't get preachy. I'm open about the city/state I live in, but I never mention the names of the kids' schools and I don't post pictures that show the names. <br /><br />As far as other things, if I have a twinge of a thought that the post might hurt someone, I get a second opinion. If I want to talk about something that's not my story to tell, I try to tell the part that is mine vaguely and focus on how it affects me. <br /><br />Interesting post. I'm giving a presentation on Monday about privacy and social media.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12547679169487196540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-30589061399658596702011-09-21T21:04:16.941-04:002011-09-21T21:04:16.941-04:00That is such a great question. I guess I write al...That is such a great question. I guess I write alot of "my opinions" on things. I rarely speak of someone in specific, and if it is someone in specific then I am ok with them seeing it. Non of my close friends or family know that I write, (except my inlaws, who don't read this anymore) and I like that. It makes my feel like I can be less sensored and yet, I try to talk about things that hopefully is not attacking anyone personal views. I look at my site more as a forum, and I hope that my readers feel the same!<br /><br />I hope that both of your situations, get worked out or eve better work themselves out! Nothing worse then baring the stress of problems that can't be fixed or solved without bringing other people into it! You are a great friend and I am sure that everything will work out!!<br /><br />LynnA Mother's Thoughtshttp://www.amothersthoughts.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-28148027274499339192011-09-21T20:46:32.165-04:002011-09-21T20:46:32.165-04:00That's a very good question. I just go by this...That's a very good question. I just go by this rule: is it affecting my life? is it inspiring me to write about it? then I'll go ahead. I might not -which I usually do- reveal their name, but I will make sure the story is told through my eyes as I see it. <br /><br />But I totally see your side of not doing so. I just don't know if I'll be able to keep it inside my head without affecting me.<br /><br />-mama and the cityMamáRegiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11892181063954290578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-18121854437269669672011-09-21T20:08:12.013-04:002011-09-21T20:08:12.013-04:00What an interesting post. I've drawn some lin...What an interesting post. I've drawn some lines for myself, but I think it's different for everyone. Like Lourie, sometimes I wish I was completely anonymous, so I could be open about whatever I wanted, though not in a mean way.Grumpy Grateful Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18280877945184331361noreply@blogger.com