tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post442676341467963823..comments2023-10-29T10:24:23.730-04:00Comments on Things I Can't Say: Pour Your Heart Out: When Mom Doesn't Have the AnswersShellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-63022467698831663352011-07-25T23:58:31.958-04:002011-07-25T23:58:31.958-04:00I had family visiting me this week, too; so I'...I had family visiting me this week, too; so I've been dreadfully behind visiting blogs.<br /><br />Still.<br /><br />I felt I had to say something here.<br /><br />Because this is the part of motherhood that's so painful; and nothing anyone can say can make it better, really. <br /><br />You can be told that you're not alone. You can believe that yes, in the grand scheme of things, everything will end up okay. You can know that your love for your child will ultimately conquer any obstacles.<br /><br />But in the moment when you don't have the answers or control - and what you DO have is a sinking feeling that what you had planned is not going to work anymore?<br /><br />That is just painful. Plain and simple.<br /><br />So I offer no advice. Just a piece of my heart coming to you through the blogosphere.<br /><br />And a hug. You are a wonderful mother. Love to you and Bear.<br /><br />XOJuliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15244839430462103487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-2443979538176462422011-07-24T23:21:58.728-04:002011-07-24T23:21:58.728-04:00I think sometimes we think we have to have all the...I think sometimes we think we have to have all the answers and we want nothing more than to have all of the answers...but it just doesn't work that way.<br /><br />I'll be praying for you and Bear--and I have a feeling that because of how wonderful you are at wanting the best for him that the best will find him.<br /><br />xoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18157079109164214233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-14258565787831812292011-07-23T23:40:13.111-04:002011-07-23T23:40:13.111-04:00I know this may not necessarily make you feel bett...I know this may not necessarily make you feel better, but he WILL be OK. He will do amazing things.<br /><br />You might be surprised - maybe you'll walk in the first day and love his teacher and see that she will do everything to embrace him for all that he is! <br /><br />I think back to everything that made me want to get my teaching certification and it's for every single kid - even those like Bear that might be unique, need more attention, or have incredibly concerned parents like you. Most teachers do have the BEST in their heart for children - children of all kinds - and I'm certain that Bear's teacher will be nothing less than one of THOSE teachers. <br /><br />He will be loved!Jessica @ My Simply Complicatedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03319496051391955227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-6620577721543125072011-07-21T20:27:07.533-04:002011-07-21T20:27:07.533-04:00That sucks.
Im sure you have considered it... bu...That sucks. <br /><br />Im sure you have considered it... but what about homeschool?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-61916124462101752112011-07-21T18:32:09.261-04:002011-07-21T18:32:09.261-04:00I'm so sorry to hear about troubles with getti...I'm so sorry to hear about troubles with getting Bear into the school that you want for him. It's difficult when things don't work the way we want. I don't have any solutions for you but I do offer you my support.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169305509191258173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-68270281169280352322011-07-21T16:24:55.623-04:002011-07-21T16:24:55.623-04:00Shell, I feel you.
So many times this year I have ...Shell, I feel you.<br />So many times this year I have struggled with needing wisdom about what to do with my eldest son, who was scaring me.<br />A different situation, but the same feeling - lost, helpless, overwhelmed.<br />There was no blinding moment of an answer being magically presented to us but bit by bit we found our way, and that child who had scared the heck out of me has found his way at last.<br />So I have no answers for you, only empathy, and just a little reassurance that somehow you will muddle your way through to the right answer for you precious child, because you care so much about him, that anything else is not an option.<br />{PS I don't know if you're the praying type, but I don't think we would have made it without some serious prayer on our behalf from all kinds of people who helped us get our miracle}Simoneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09554122579485306611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-15908977278403713072011-07-21T13:36:50.353-04:002011-07-21T13:36:50.353-04:00So sorry you're dealing with this. I think yo...So sorry you're dealing with this. I think you have to listen to what you feel is right...it's just figuring that out that can be such a pain! Prayers for you and you little Bear.Grumpy Grateful Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18280877945184331361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-85607982640569599352011-07-21T13:25:41.893-04:002011-07-21T13:25:41.893-04:00Oh Shell- I just wish I could give you a big hug r...Oh Shell- I just wish I could give you a big hug right now.<br /><br /> I hope things work out for him, I hope it ends up being a wonderful experience that he thrives and does well. <br /><br />And no, it sucks that we don't always have the answers.Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-66439681288101599782011-07-21T01:03:03.939-04:002011-07-21T01:03:03.939-04:00Oh, I'm so sorry. Worst feeling ever. I unde...Oh, I'm so sorry. Worst feeling ever. I understand completely. Please know I'm thinking of you and if you ever want to talk, just drop me a line.Missy | Literal Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00662949489653215361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-30514062773511019942011-07-21T00:13:00.279-04:002011-07-21T00:13:00.279-04:00We're moms, we're only human. We don't...We're moms, we're only human. We don't have all the answers. Just know that somehow, someway, it will all work out. That perfect school will come along for Bear. Just try to hang in there, though I know it's hard.Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13034271381748240025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-30288886959283439102011-07-20T22:39:54.906-04:002011-07-20T22:39:54.906-04:00You're an amazing mom and a former teacher, so...You're an amazing mom and a former teacher, so I know you've done your homework here. If you're like me though, you're probably swimming in options and information. In situations like this, I do my best (though I'm not always good at it), to give it to God. If you're faithful, send up a prayer - which you may have already done. I find that things seem more stressful the more I try to control and decide all on my own. I know this is going to be difficult for you, but I also know that Bear will do great no matter where he ends up ... because he'll come home to you and an amazing family every single day. <br /><br />It's a bigger issue than that, I know, but hang in there ... and trust that things will play out the way they're meant to. :)Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11470990911634136164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-44999727984203679592011-07-20T22:29:58.881-04:002011-07-20T22:29:58.881-04:00I know you know this, but I will say it anyway.
E...I know you know this, but I will say it anyway.<br /><br />Even more important than the perfect school for Bear is the adults who advocate for him. As long as you keep your voice loud, your thoughts clear and logical, and your demeanor calm you will get Bear what he needs - I have no doubt.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09224711908880146896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-1356201858440567552011-07-20T22:09:10.497-04:002011-07-20T22:09:10.497-04:00Awwww, Shell. I'm sorry you're having the ...Awwww, Shell. I'm sorry you're having the inner turmoil about making choices for your child.<br /><br />It's not the same thing at all but I have recently felt that something is just "off" with my boys' daycare. I want to look for a new one and I've made some calls but I just don't know if I can put them through another transition (we just moved and switched daycares in May). It's nagging at me though. I don't know the right decision!mollyhttp://www.adayinmollywood.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-22148113763413575062011-07-20T21:32:23.558-04:002011-07-20T21:32:23.558-04:00It's so hard to feel helpless when it comes to...It's so hard to feel helpless when it comes to our babies.<br />I hope everything works out for the best for Bear (and mama!).Cyndy Bushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12617354883122757511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-76733032665196171052011-07-20T21:02:41.638-04:002011-07-20T21:02:41.638-04:00You are your child's best advocate! You know ...You are your child's best advocate! You know him the best and I have all the faith in you; you will get him what he needs. I'm feeling the same way right now about 2 of my 4.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06896260121396686017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-77938957889557586952011-07-20T20:52:14.357-04:002011-07-20T20:52:14.357-04:00when moms don't have the answers, we don't...when moms don't have the answers, we don't give up until we do.<br /><br />I know that doesn't make the stress or discomfort go away ((HUGS)) but I'm hoping it helps a little.diane renehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14278917038491110157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-82935403813604965082011-07-20T20:17:11.766-04:002011-07-20T20:17:11.766-04:00I'm a new reader, so I did a little searching ...I'm a new reader, so I did a little searching on your blog before posting. I'm assuming that Bear is the child with lead poisoning. <br />I know that it is more stressful to leave a child with any sort of special need at school, especially when you are not feeling secure that they will get the attention they need. My daughter had a speech impediment, which isn't the same thing, but still needed special attention. <br />My advice is to keep a constant bridge of contact open with the teachers, counselors and the school. Seriously...bug the H*ll out of them if you have to. It's your right as a parent. <br /><br />HUGS!JamieAnne of A Dash of Domestichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00686636976561467471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-27501599533848132532011-07-20T17:48:23.841-04:002011-07-20T17:48:23.841-04:00I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I rea...I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I really hope that something opens up for Bear. It's frustrating and heartbreaking to not be able to help your child.Rach (DonutsMama)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14029074046922966097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-17241419542420186442011-07-20T17:29:08.953-04:002011-07-20T17:29:08.953-04:00The smartest Mom and woman will tell you; she neve...The smartest Mom and woman will tell you; she never has all the answers! As soon as you learn the answer, they change the questions so you do as every other generation of Mother's has done ... one day and one battle at a time.<br /><br />As for your concerns with Bear and school: go with what your heart and gut are telling you. Does he have to start his particular school year or can you wait to get into the one you want?Cindihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08866867070769756055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-63258695652810740842011-07-20T16:40:58.830-04:002011-07-20T16:40:58.830-04:00So hard, my girl! I have been keeping up with you...So hard, my girl! I have been keeping up with your tweets today, so I know how frustrated you are with the public schools. My advice? You know your bear. FIGHT like a mama bear. FIGHT HARD! The public schools usually oil the loaud squeaky wheel . . . so be loud and be squeaky!<br />Hugs and prayers!Annie @ astonesthrowfrominsanityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14504935960139318171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-67119462175409341032011-07-20T16:20:33.853-04:002011-07-20T16:20:33.853-04:00I wish we had all the answers!I wish we had all the answers!Babes Mamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07358199545037517298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-74784715532074989172011-07-20T16:13:32.902-04:002011-07-20T16:13:32.902-04:00I hope you are able to find the perfect place for ...I hope you are able to find the perfect place for Bear soon AND to be able to make it happen. But God will have him in the place he is supposed to be. I hope you are able to let go of the worry soon...you are an awesome mom!Heather Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16057787714238622308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-15198479771123779882011-07-20T16:05:18.666-04:002011-07-20T16:05:18.666-04:00Okay, first things first.... *HUGS* You could use ...Okay, first things first.... *HUGS* You could use one. <br /><br />And also? Breathe. You are doing all that you can for your little Bear. That's how you're helping him. All the answers may not come to you overnight. But the fact that you're experiencing so much frustration and sadness means this is a decision you are clearly not taking very lightly.<br /><br />I hope this answer comes to you soon.mypixiebloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09135461083810124483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-63083465082575431972011-07-20T16:01:48.627-04:002011-07-20T16:01:48.627-04:00One of the toughest parts of parenting is not havi...One of the toughest parts of parenting is <i>not</i> having the answers. I am so sorry you're struggling and will pray for a solution - one that you are at peace with!Missy@Wonder, Friendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06953028014035929759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-20875469528627829172011-07-20T15:11:22.814-04:002011-07-20T15:11:22.814-04:00Oh, Shell. I'm sorry. I hate that "unsett...Oh, Shell. I'm sorry. I hate that "unsettled feeling"...but you should always go with your gut. I hope you're feeling more settled soon. XOJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17940118384108153753noreply@blogger.com