tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post3767226732009584196..comments2023-10-29T10:24:23.730-04:00Comments on Things I Can't Say: Pour Your Heart OutShellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comBlogger82125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-32271068486874235722011-01-23T16:21:28.262-05:002011-01-23T16:21:28.262-05:00Wow! 300 Christian women in one room! That could h...Wow! 300 Christian women in one room! That could have felt really amazing. But that would be a hard way to foster real relationships and connect in the name of Christ. Small, intimate groups can be such a blessing. I hope the next study goes far better.✿https://www.blogger.com/profile/01044032159371976375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-70906222708065415642011-01-18T11:49:16.601-05:002011-01-18T11:49:16.601-05:00Awwww, Shell. I know what you mean. I hate feeling...Awwww, Shell. I know what you mean. I hate feeling like this myself and it can be discouraging so I understand why you wouldn't want to return... but you're making the right call. You are choosing the importance of your relationship with God over what these women think. Even still, I really hope you meet some supportive women in your Bible Study who make you feel welcomed. It's important and will help you build a sense of community which will encourage you to return :)mypixiebloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09135461083810124483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-47375277466531570262011-01-15T18:22:10.532-05:002011-01-15T18:22:10.532-05:00I honestly would have done the same thing. It is ...I honestly would have done the same thing. It is very intimating when you feel uncomfortable in that way. I had been putting off going to a homeschool playgroup because I was feeling intimidated. I thought everyone has been in the group and live near each other and I dont. and what if they are judgemental because my reasons for choosing homeschool may be different then theirs? You know what? I finally did it this past Monday and wished I had done it earlier. It went really well and everyone was very welcoming...and I realized that our differences didnt matter, we were all there for the purpose of our kidsshortmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18083148312260283511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-70378324961189524862011-01-15T13:35:22.189-05:002011-01-15T13:35:22.189-05:00Good for you! I totally have been there so many t...Good for you! I totally have been there so many times. It's hard. And it should be aboug community. Those ladies are missing out though if they don't befriend you!TheBabyMammaChronicleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17210832629299621129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-5006955954715248422011-01-14T13:11:09.760-05:002011-01-14T13:11:09.760-05:00This is a great post. I loved reading your though...This is a great post. I loved reading your thoughts, thank you for being so honest. I think so many of us feel this way but are too ashamed to admit it, or just don't want to relive the bad memory. <br /><br />Sounds silly, but this is how I felt the first few weeks of my sons' gymnastics class, you know the little My Gym places? And slowly I weasled my way into the group. Then, as each new mom joined I made it a point to welcome them, not tell little side stories and secrets that made them feel left out. I tried to remember what it was like to walk in as the "new mom" and ease their awkwardness. It felt good, really good. <br /><br />Good for you for going back! I look forward to hearing how it goes!MommyToTwoBoyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10221699039927615538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-12212941057697005162011-01-14T12:23:49.171-05:002011-01-14T12:23:49.171-05:00Oh, honey, we are one and the same. I would have d...Oh, honey, we are one and the same. I would have done the very same thing. How brave of you to take that lesson, apply it to your heart and attempt it again.<br /><br />I wish you all the luck in the world. <br /><br />And I'm holed up in my bedroom, trying to find a little peace from the senior citizens in my life, catching up on my blogs.Joann Mannixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11163491824085428085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-58941714036946118782011-01-14T09:31:40.603-05:002011-01-14T09:31:40.603-05:00Good for you Shell, for giving it another go. It ...Good for you Shell, for giving it another go. It is so easy to get wrapped up in all the things that bothered you and miss out on something incredible. I hope your experience this time around goes better. Sometimes it takes a time or two to get settled and maybe you can suggest the greeter and start a new AWESOME trend.For the Love of Naps - Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12694659976017646924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-16977181605854439262011-01-14T03:35:22.777-05:002011-01-14T03:35:22.777-05:00I'm so proud of you for trying again. That...I'm so proud of you for trying again. That's awesome and it does take courage.<br />I don't go to church on Wednesday nights because my husband works. My older kids could watch my little kids, plus they provide childcare. My church is very small and intimate. It's a pathetic excuse to not go; I'm lame, I know.<br />Now you've got me thinking though!Cyndy Bushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12617354883122757511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-47679243147295387392011-01-14T00:22:02.692-05:002011-01-14T00:22:02.692-05:00I know how you feel. I've never felt comfortab...I know how you feel. I've never felt comfortable in a church. Perhaps I'll try again in a few years.AiringMyLaundryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11051140760624657630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-64249302301380086442011-01-14T00:20:51.594-05:002011-01-14T00:20:51.594-05:00You are not alone! I feel insecure quite often in ...You are not alone! I feel insecure quite often in social settings, especially where I don't really know anyone. And it's so hard to not think that way even though now we're adults, you know? I go through this with blogging, too.Loukiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03066879990007701379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-25037532642516003882011-01-13T23:02:53.381-05:002011-01-13T23:02:53.381-05:00That is a hard situation to be in. Being the new o...That is a hard situation to be in. Being the new one is rough, especially when no one makes you feel welcome. Way to go for giving it a try again! I am sure there will be other newbies you will hit it off with.Michelle @Flying Giggleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04679204142907645581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-52920435233182455592011-01-13T19:36:32.911-05:002011-01-13T19:36:32.911-05:00Do I ever relate to this! I'm part of a wonde...Do I ever relate to this! I'm part of a wonderful Bible study group but my community small group has been really tough for me. I'm the only single amongst married couples and a few of the couples just don't know how to relate to me because of it. It's frustrating and I find myself coming up with excuses not to go. In fact, I should be headed there right now but I'm not. I'm trying to persevere because I feel like this could be a good group in the end. And you're right, it's not about how other people view or treat me, it's about what God can teach me through it.HopefulLeighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08828629376878263116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-29285896337111489572011-01-13T18:47:47.535-05:002011-01-13T18:47:47.535-05:00Oh boy, have I been here before! lol I'm gla...Oh boy, have I been here before! lol I'm glad you're going back and I hope this time you'll find a place you can grow in and belong to! Good luck!Maggihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14418996821092160355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-91068298813473803972011-01-13T17:39:19.183-05:002011-01-13T17:39:19.183-05:00I'm so glad you shared this. I have a hard tim...I'm so glad you shared this. I have a hard time breaking into groups in social situations. I would have made the same judgements that you did if that had happened to me, and probably not gone back.<br /><br />It is so good to be reminded that as wonderful as it is for a Bible study to open up friendships, that is a bonus. The study and growth that you get is the point.Tracie Nallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908908021649000930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-1763150446678021252011-01-13T16:01:36.343-05:002011-01-13T16:01:36.343-05:00Thank you for sharing this. I go to a giant church...Thank you for sharing this. I go to a giant church, so there are a lot of times I have to walk into situations like that. If there's no one being that friendly person at the door, sometimes I'll fill that role---but not always. Depends on the group, so I guess I'm not as outgoing as I think. lol At least you know the feeling of being left out, so maybe <i>you'll</i> be the one willing to be friendly to others. Let God use you! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-83390013101325537342011-01-13T12:48:21.550-05:002011-01-13T12:48:21.550-05:00I haven't been to our church since before Hall...I haven't been to our church since before Halloween because of similar feelings about people in a group I was involved with. It's not so much caring what they think of me, but not enjoying my time with them. Somehow I think God understands that there are certain people we respect and love as sisters in Christ, but still don't want to spend our free time with.Joey Lynn Rescinitihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06219074986338894660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-42631612126613861082011-01-13T12:29:13.623-05:002011-01-13T12:29:13.623-05:00Shell,
Yours is the kind of heart that God wants ...Shell,<br /><br />Yours is the kind of heart that God wants to sit next to at a Bible study. <br /><br />That you are trying again - I think that's why God wants to sit next to you. :)<br /><br />God bless you Shell.Craighttp://deepintolove.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-89086729906091263232011-01-13T10:17:52.734-05:002011-01-13T10:17:52.734-05:00Your story reminded me of when I was a teenager an...Your story reminded me of when I was a teenager and my parents joined a new church. They decided that each of us kids would also go to Sunday School before service. I already had self esteem issues and walking into that class the first day was horrible. All the kids knew each other and when I walked into that room they stopped talking and stared at me. I found a seat in the back of the room and was so nervous that I wanted to throw up. I couldn't wait to get out of that room and can't even remember what the pastor talked about it that class. I never went back. <br />It's horrible that we allow that to happen to us and let that kind of thing get in the reason we are there. But we're human. I'm glad you are going back. Good for you. I'll be thinking about you.Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493576726012326958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-54254390722401182892011-01-13T10:14:14.582-05:002011-01-13T10:14:14.582-05:00I have been in that position a few times. There ar...I have been in that position a few times. There are times where I need to live more for what God think than what others do. I am a work in progressCaseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12807186235466954426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-44379395163790550642011-01-13T08:45:29.768-05:002011-01-13T08:45:29.768-05:00Oh yay! You went back!
It is hard, though, to be...Oh yay! You went back!<br /><br />It is hard, though, to be part of a church where you haven't found your niche (and I think an important part of every church is to make everyone feel like family).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12586581766383380976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-15509942259874988612011-01-13T08:42:34.546-05:002011-01-13T08:42:34.546-05:00What you write about above is why I never do Bible...What you write about above is why I never do Bible study. But the church I found that allowed me to finally have a relationship with God in a way that I felt comfortable was with the PNCC (Polish National Catholic Church). Something about the priest being allowed to be married and have children made it easier to find comfort and strength there every week.<br />I also finally came back to God after a particular experience when I was trying to conceive. A lady pointed me (out of nowhere) to a spot in the church where two miracles had occured, I prayed for the first time in years to God, for forgiveness and just told him I wanted a child but didn't know what to do anymore. Got pregnant that week. The second baby, I was cleaning the alter for Easter & looked up, smiled and said "I would like another baby, but I know it's in your hands". Again, pregnant that week! God works in mysterious ways.<br />I wanted to thank you for doing this "Pour Your Heart Out" post. When I wrote mine, I almost didn't submit it. I even went to bed fully anticipating hatred, insults, and I-don't-know-what in reaction to it. Thank you all for reading it, commenting your support, even those who never experienced that. You have no idea how much that meant!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12655147780375093626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-87928185885032488512011-01-13T07:20:09.974-05:002011-01-13T07:20:09.974-05:00It took me TEN YEARS to get over myself and finall...It took me TEN YEARS to get over myself and finally find a church that was about my relationship with God, not with others. <br /><br />And go figure, the human relationships came anyway. God is funny like that.Nancy Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313721217543578257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-24128437667688391072011-01-13T00:43:37.174-05:002011-01-13T00:43:37.174-05:00Good on you Shell.
I know how hard that can be.
I&...Good on you Shell.<br />I know how hard that can be.<br />I'm linking up again.<br />Here's hoping the snow holds off so you can get there :)<br />xxSimoneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09554122579485306611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-85581006171949193272011-01-12T23:17:40.835-05:002011-01-12T23:17:40.835-05:00Wow. Hard stuff! You are a brave woman! Praying fo...Wow. Hard stuff! You are a brave woman! Praying for you! <br /><br />Thanks for stopping by my blog and helping to make my SITS day a wonderful one!The Bama Gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02648115536258106736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-77295373816124189142011-01-12T22:51:38.689-05:002011-01-12T22:51:38.689-05:00Wow Shell, that is one big Bible study group! It w...Wow Shell, that is one big Bible study group! It would be intimidating for most anybody.<br />Good for you though for giving it a go once again.<br />I have to admit, I'm not Christian, but I go to my friend's Bible study with her because I enjoy the commaraderie. Those women are terrific. You'll find your place this time, I'm certain of it.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09894333322881236627noreply@blogger.com