tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post3485237380842139307..comments2023-10-29T10:24:23.730-04:00Comments on Things I Can't Say: Anger: Mama's Going to ExplodeShellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comBlogger72125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-45859198982761545142010-08-09T19:27:03.531-04:002010-08-09T19:27:03.531-04:00You obviously are NOT A SCREAMER in normal life or...You obviously are NOT A SCREAMER in normal life or it would not bother you so much. We all have the tough days, but thankfully they come between lots of good ones!Brenda Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842228644349167297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-32258631463094831592010-08-09T05:45:41.090-04:002010-08-09T05:45:41.090-04:00You're absolutely right that we do get angry, ...You're absolutely right that we do get angry, and then I always feel so guilty and terrible after. But its healthy to acknowledge that you get angry, makes it worse if you bottle it up. You're also right about how to handle it. Sometimes you just have to walk away. Make sure they are safe, and hopefully have run out of paint and walk away.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03431751293876429570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-55660819846385809602010-05-10T11:15:27.015-04:002010-05-10T11:15:27.015-04:00I lose it all the time. And then I end up crying b...I lose it all the time. And then I end up crying because I don't want to be that mom either. Then I end up teaching my kids to tell when angry. :(✿https://www.blogger.com/profile/01044032159371976375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-50348704129401777872010-05-10T09:58:11.124-04:002010-05-10T09:58:11.124-04:00I've dealt with this issue a lot. It seems tha...I've dealt with this issue a lot. It seems that my kids don't respond to anything other than in-your-face yelling. But, that needs to stop. I hate it. I've tried other disciplinary measures, and they work for awhile... I just let my temper get the best of me too often. (Now, don't be calling child services, it's not THAT bad!) I just have to remember that they are young, and learning! Thanks for this post- it's something I thought a lot of this weekend.<br /><br />Congrats on your sits day!The Double Dipped Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01584628568719936546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-73219097882837490172010-01-22T23:25:24.662-05:002010-01-22T23:25:24.662-05:00i am leaving this link if you want to read it. you...i am leaving this link if you want to read it. you are definitely not alone.<br /><br />http://narolo.blogspot.com/2009/09/stone-foxs-terrible-horrible-no-good.htmlStone Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01141709907613987429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-60840728272066008992010-01-22T08:43:29.691-05:002010-01-22T08:43:29.691-05:00I'm totally late to the party on this one!
On...I'm totally late to the party on this one!<br /><br />One thing I think you've seen about me is that I am pretty dang honest about parenting and how hard it is and how hard the beahviors are and how I struggle.<br /><br />I get angry. I feel my blood boil and my blood pressure rise. I have made snap decisions that are not at all in line with how I want to parent my kids. <br /><br />But you know what else? I think it's ok for kids to see that moms and dads get angry- really angry- too. We want them to learn how to deal with their own anger and not be scared of those feelings, right? So seeing that the adults can feel angry, too, teaches them that. And yes, making the best choices when angry is HARD. I often apologize to my kids... The few times that I've spanked, I've apologized. If I've yelled and really scared my daughter, I apologize.<br /><br />So you just sound normal to me!Eternal Lizdomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12436844959718198383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-84240788543204935122010-01-21T22:14:53.971-05:002010-01-21T22:14:53.971-05:00You know from reading my blog that I absolutely ha...You know from reading my blog that I absolutely have my screamy days. Days that I hate. Days that I regret. We're moms and we're human. Some days are thankless. No one gets what we do unless they do it too and if they do - they have days like this too. I'm so glad today was a better day. As I've said, I think we're handed these days so that we appreciate the easy ones more. xx<br /><br />... not sure how I deleted the one above! Woops!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-57270132257584302622010-01-21T22:13:21.381-05:002010-01-21T22:13:21.381-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15616867595961283505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-74151015492073647392010-01-21T18:25:48.453-05:002010-01-21T18:25:48.453-05:00Wow. I don't even have kids and I threw my bla...Wow. I don't even have kids and I threw my blackberry through a wall today. Oy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-55932274101628992872010-01-21T16:31:38.446-05:002010-01-21T16:31:38.446-05:00Yup. Remember, I was there...over FAR less.
Ugh...Yup. Remember, I was there...over FAR less. <br /><br />Ugh. I am my mother.MommyLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08288191448338432734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-30168138477566525342010-01-21T13:39:24.822-05:002010-01-21T13:39:24.822-05:00They even turned on the dishwasher?! lol. I don...They even turned on the dishwasher?! lol. I don't mean to laugh AT ALL but this post at least the description of the mess was funny. The emotions definitely are not! MAn, I yell so much it doesn't even effect my kids anymore. :( At least I did until my Celexa kicked in- it's really helping. It's hard to START the day feeling on edge BEFORE anything even happens. I try to remove the kids from the room without saying a word (try) and clean the mess myself. It's worse to have them underfoot apologizing and alot of my frustration gets taken out in the cleaning. And later I often do laugh about it- laughing keeps mommies sane!ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08101029966434969397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-14752643947138468742010-01-21T12:03:55.790-05:002010-01-21T12:03:55.790-05:00Dude, if my kids did that I would have LOST. MY. S...Dude, if my kids did that I would have LOST. MY. SHIT. like sent them away for a day. and then cried. I scream all the time and i HATE IT. my husbnad AND mom tell me that I'm scary when I scream. I hate it so much- you're totally not alone, and realitstically it's a good way for kids to realize that, well, that's just sometimes life. Don't feel bad.Kierahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16526365445989180090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-33578677896250495892010-01-21T09:08:02.529-05:002010-01-21T09:08:02.529-05:00I am a bit of screamer too. When they were little ...I am a bit of screamer too. When they were little I would feel bad, now they are older not so much. I tend to scream less anywayVodka Logichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13870805969416858519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-74098988867387390352010-01-21T08:11:03.781-05:002010-01-21T08:11:03.781-05:00I feel like I am hoarse from screaming so much-- I...I feel like I am hoarse from screaming so much-- I know I feel like I yell constantly. I am always checking what my tone. My fuse is short and I know I lose my temper way too much. I applaud you for just surviving that day! Please don't beat yourself up-- mommy guilt is the worst! We are with these little people 24 hrs a day(I don't have to tell you)Sometimes it gets to us--a lot more than we can admit.Conservative Knit Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14032606611494503397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-91969074751103661752010-01-21T07:46:59.063-05:002010-01-21T07:46:59.063-05:00have i ever felt like i was gonna lose it? defini...have i ever felt like i was gonna lose it? definitely. some days i just know it's coming. last time i lost it, i threw all the kids' toys down the stairs--well, only the ones they had left all over the family room and they hadn't cleaned up. boy, were they upset. they still talk about it. there's a good section in the no-cry discipline book about parents and anger and how it's everyone's dirty little secret. man. i wish i could remember what she says i'm supposed to do when i get super pissed off.danitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13385786863345002062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-31105719360015702312010-01-21T02:51:29.516-05:002010-01-21T02:51:29.516-05:00I have been there sooo many times! I always though...I have been there sooo many times! I always thought parenting would bring the best out of me when really it just brings out a more pissed off me, most of the time. I hate it. I have done the screaming, I have done the spanking, I even pushed my 5 year old the other day after she pushed the 2 year old and said, "Did you like that?? Neither did the one you pushed!!" Yeah, not my best moment but it seemed like a good idea at the time! EEK! It scares me some time! My mom has told me some of her doozies, too and we all made it ok! We're doing the best we can in a fantastic but incredibly hard situation!<br /><br />PS- after my long ramble-I gave you an award over at my blog :) See?? You can't be all that bad! hahahamintifreshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16984464366748683029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-66845246583574386612010-01-21T02:44:36.655-05:002010-01-21T02:44:36.655-05:00Your report of the incident with your boys makes m...Your report of the incident with your boys makes me want to scream! I am 63 years old, the mother of one grown up daughter and the daughter of a mother with 2 children. I grew up in the 1950s and 1960s. If there is one thing I wish I could pass along to every mother is that moms get MAD...kids act STUPID...moms yell, or scream, or screech....and sometimes, the kids get spanked. (I'm not talking about the abusers, the lunatics, or the clueless. I'm talking about moms like you and me!)<br /><br />It is all part of life. A 3yr old and a 5 yr old will NOT remember all the things they're not supposed to do. Its unreasonable to expect it. Their memories and attention spans are not capable of doing so. <br /><br />My mother would sometimes yell at me for some behavior. I occasionally got spanked (only for the big things I knew I wasn't supposed to do). I survived, I learned!! Mom survived, without guilt! She learned!! I did the same with my daughter. She survived, and she learned. <br /><br />It is so completely unrealistic for anyone to think that she is the only mom capable of getting angry. Everybody gets angry. Anyone who tells you they don't is either lying or on serious drugs! Do not feel guilty. A little yelling never hurt a kid if it is deserved. The trick is knowing when it is deserved. Do you yell at every little mishap or accident. Wrong, choose your battles when you can. But if you lose it and let go with a string of very unpleasant remarks, I guarantee you that as long as those children feel surrounded by your love (and there are a million ways to show love!) being disciplined by mom screaming at them for something naughty they did, will not seriously hurt them. I swear! Children need to learn that their actions affect other people and it is not okay to do something they know is wrong. This is why children have parents, if they could figure it out on their own, or take care of themselves, there would be no point in having two grown-ups a part of the process.<br /><br />Please let your guilt and worry go live somewhere else. Love your children, help them learn, apologize when you're wrong, let them experience life. Don't try to protect them from everything. If they don't encounter real life, how will they ever learn to get through their own lives?Mellodeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07515414035373189099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-25045193298338211452010-01-21T01:07:23.782-05:002010-01-21T01:07:23.782-05:00Oh no! I so feel your pain - that sucks! I have ...Oh no! I so feel your pain - that sucks! I have totally blown up at my boys for much lesser things. After all, there is only so much that a mom can take! We are all human and anger with some yelling involved when we are VERY irritated is only natural. Even if we know that we have some small part in the reason behind the chaos. I can totally relate to you because I too have let the boys go downstairs before me, Disney Channel, milk and poptarts ready to go - just so I could sleep for just a little while longer before the baby woke up. I consider myself lucky that nothing this disastrous has ever happened to me. My heart goes out to you. {{{HUGS}}}Kimberly@PrettyPinkMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04807903540914922330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-51496360236555690192010-01-21T00:45:54.485-05:002010-01-21T00:45:54.485-05:00I can't even tell you with two ADD/ADHD boys h...I can't even tell you with two ADD/ADHD boys how many parental time outs I have had to take. There are too many to count, and too many to retell. For the safety of my children they are sent to their rooms and I cannot talk to them or look at them. <br /><br />Don't get me wrong, mostly they are pretty good, all things considered. But when they are bad? THEY ARE REALLY BAD.<br /><br />I think it is human nature to get overwhelmed. If there are mommies out there saying they are perfect and their children are perfect and everything is sunshine and rainbows, I have one word for you.<br /><br />LIARS!adrienzgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00189335015566616247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-57443055667073408222010-01-20T23:41:00.308-05:002010-01-20T23:41:00.308-05:00Hun, I am so.with.you.
Everyday I think that I am...Hun, I am so.with.you.<br /><br />Everyday I think that I am the only mom who blows up. My 2 year old is out of control most days. Screaming. Tantrums. Hitting. Pinching. I try SO hard. But it happens. We're human. We will raise our voices. We will spank.<br /><br />Being a Mom is hard. Harder than I ever imagined but at the same time? Teaches me so freaking much...<br /><br />Hugs to ya momma.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18157079109164214233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-43250860245867479542010-01-20T22:51:01.470-05:002010-01-20T22:51:01.470-05:00I was just talking to my sis-in-law AND a friend a...I was just talking to my sis-in-law AND a friend about this very topic today! What a wonderful post. Very timely for me. I dislike yelling, but it's what comes naturally when I'm being so blatantly ignored - "Can you not hear me? CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW?!" Dang it. Thanks for your words, sista-mama. :) I'll be dropping by your blog more often.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14048188060318770229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-26923590168962943272010-01-20T22:25:20.819-05:002010-01-20T22:25:20.819-05:00I do not know one single mom that hasn't felt ...I do not know one single mom that hasn't felt this way, not one. Myself included. Parenting is the hardest job ever, and though the anger may make us feel guilty in the end, it is still something that we choose to do.Desert Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01559969281914974681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-20470158862374024472010-01-20T22:24:58.163-05:002010-01-20T22:24:58.163-05:00I don't think you handled this badly, and I th...I don't think you handled this badly, and I think you are a great mom for even worrying about it. I definitely would have blown my lid over that one.Sarah at The Stroller Ballethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06942945594010830972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-32708760221453810002010-01-20T22:09:15.996-05:002010-01-20T22:09:15.996-05:00Oy! I feel like that for sure. Anger management he...Oy! I feel like that for sure. Anger management here I come.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-75901920019444013672010-01-20T21:59:09.857-05:002010-01-20T21:59:09.857-05:00So much to say...
First, G isn't really old e...So much to say...<br /><br />First, G isn't really old enough to willfully disobey like that, so I haven't had a lot of chances to lose my cool... yet. But I was "That mom" one particular Sunday at church, and it gave me a peek into the future.<br /><br />Second, I just saw a sign for MOPS at a local church, and I was thinking about signing up. I'm going to have to bend your ear about that topic on email.<br /><br />And third, I saw on Shandal's blog that you cut your gorgeous hair-- picture? I am so envious of your blonde locks, they're absolutely gorgeous!<br /><br />~Elizabeth<br /><a href="http://confessionsfromaworkingmom.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Confessions From A Working Mom</a>Confessions From A Work-At-Home Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17537552947779004296noreply@blogger.com