tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post1365704752981138225..comments2023-10-29T10:24:23.730-04:00Comments on Things I Can't Say: Pour Your Heart Out: Trust Your Gut, Not GossipShellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comBlogger95125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-83887592809941168552011-11-28T19:38:30.515-05:002011-11-28T19:38:30.515-05:00Somehow I missed this post, but it's pretty te...Somehow I missed this post, but it's pretty telling that today is the day I stumbled upon it. I've been having those days lately where it feels like people are turning their backs on me; where the queen bee has told her minions to exclude me; where my comments are being ignored and my tweets unanswered by a particular tight group of bloggers. I'm sure much of it is in my head, but it still stinks. Mostly I'm just annoyed I let the hypocrites get to me. There are a lot more awesome women out there: who needs the immature b*tches?Tracy @ stoopmamahttp://www.stoopmama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-3487441026360955972011-11-20T18:48:58.131-05:002011-11-20T18:48:58.131-05:00Sadly, it took me this long to figure out how to c...Sadly, it took me this long to figure out how to comment on this particular post. Luddite, I am. I have felt the cold shoulder of the well established blogging community because I am HONEST. Too honest, probably. I tell my life story, in slightly glossed over, yet still truthfully implicating, horror. I've found a handful of bloggers that appreciate the no BS approach I take. But I have also had women who I met through this blogosphere, to whom I spilled my gory heart and soul, ignore me, block me, tell their friends/ followers to do the same. This post sincerely struck a chord in me. Thank you for putting this harsh truth out there.Rachel @ Totally Ovar Ithttp://www.totallyovarit.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-64132892968728616112011-11-18T13:39:06.087-05:002011-11-18T13:39:06.087-05:00I wanted to link up but last night there was no &q...I wanted to link up but last night there was no "linky" to click on :( so I'll add the link to my blog post here in my comment. Raising an "only" is hard and frustrating....<br /><br />https://debbiesdays.wordpress.com/2011/11/17/only-the-lonely-kid/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-30666975976282633322011-11-18T12:21:48.293-05:002011-11-18T12:21:48.293-05:00I dont have a thing to add or contribute but this ...I dont have a thing to add or contribute but this is a great post! I have had some people stop speaking to me for talking with another blogger...I'm a grown woman not a middle schooler!Babes Mamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07358199545037517298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-16539581323420625802011-11-18T10:21:09.942-05:002011-11-18T10:21:09.942-05:00This is a perfect post, Shell -- I really don'...This is a perfect post, Shell -- I really don't have anything to add.<br /><br />I'm not sure if I know what prompted it, but it needed to be said.Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05805939293906938812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-35503123988511920592011-11-18T03:00:05.476-05:002011-11-18T03:00:05.476-05:00Just thought of that to-day. I call my fellow blo...Just thought of that to-day. I call my fellow bloggers, my virtual friends. It's an exciting way of making friends and developing friendship. I don't judge anyone. It's exhilarating because in real life, I'm very shy. In my virtual world, I'm a whole different person. Mouthy, daring and meeting so many great, loving and wonderful people such as yourself.SupermomTokihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11619625747256964815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-44555975417923238802011-11-17T23:14:29.385-05:002011-11-17T23:14:29.385-05:00This happens a lot!This happens a lot!Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04464669877082362921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-9288887172443674822011-11-17T18:57:43.361-05:002011-11-17T18:57:43.361-05:00I thought I had already commented on this, but may...I thought I had already commented on this, but maybe not. <br /><br />My mother always used to say, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" and I believe that applies here. We don't all have to be BFFs, but respect what your fellow bloggers are doing and remember, a little kindness goes a long way. <br /><br />Excellent post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-77008912490929190752011-11-17T18:37:32.279-05:002011-11-17T18:37:32.279-05:00Man Shell, this post rocks!!! This is oh so true....Man Shell, this post rocks!!! This is oh so true. It's hartd when something so simple can be misinterpreted and then when that happens, judgement gets passed! It hard to acknowledge someones words when you don't know their tone! And sometimes, things can be taken out of contexts, when it wasn't meant to be hurtful. Fantastic post!!<br /><br />LynnA Mother's Thoughtshttp://www.amothersthoughts.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-1038924095705882762011-11-17T18:16:41.733-05:002011-11-17T18:16:41.733-05:00You speak the truth girl!! Awesome post!You speak the truth girl!! Awesome post!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02269415067329919166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-22313198651854151962011-11-17T17:04:06.513-05:002011-11-17T17:04:06.513-05:00I loved this. Spread love and friendship, not hate...I loved this. Spread love and friendship, not hate, gossip or meanness :)Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16915480086196584901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-35290686719179253492011-11-17T14:43:14.744-05:002011-11-17T14:43:14.744-05:00Great advice Shell! It is so important to remembe...Great advice Shell! It is so important to remember if someone acts different or mad or seems off to reach out a hand to see if they need help instead of pushing them away/talking about them. Great message for all of us to remember.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11664358098975211181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-379211696626048662011-11-17T12:08:38.637-05:002011-11-17T12:08:38.637-05:00I have absolutely no room or time in my life for h...I have absolutely no room or time in my life for hate or petty-ness. So not worth it.Kristy @Loveandblasphemyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02634987114195614214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-40411417687066045972011-11-17T11:49:44.471-05:002011-11-17T11:49:44.471-05:00I love this. Good job. It's a tough thing - ...I love this. Good job. It's a tough thing - to feel like you're getting to know some people but not others, wondering if you've made some people alienated with posts, etc. But I think trying to be as authentic as possible *should* help us feel like we belong to the degree that works for each of us. If that makes sense. <br /><br />And this is the second post I've read today about gossip and bad comments - it makes me wonder if something happened that I missed?Missy | Literal Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00662949489653215361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-49449959817084242582011-11-17T10:59:20.360-05:002011-11-17T10:59:20.360-05:00You're so great at seeing the good in everyone...You're so great at seeing the good in everyone.KristinFiluthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08393804049131406666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-51483837905236055862011-11-17T09:23:58.763-05:002011-11-17T09:23:58.763-05:00Great post!Great post!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13698613016204055122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-86201622204839012812011-11-17T09:14:45.491-05:002011-11-17T09:14:45.491-05:00I ride a roller coaster of confidence and insecuri...I ride a roller coaster of confidence and insecurity with my blog and commenting and online friendships. If I don't hear anything or get comments (especially when I feel exposed) I worry that I made EVERYONE in my life mad at me. Sometimes I wonder why I chance it. <br /><br />But the friendships and the community on here is so valuable too. <br /><br /><br />Great post. Always reading - just don't comment as much as I would like to.For the Love of Naps - Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12694659976017646924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-26998095366146101012011-11-17T08:26:38.640-05:002011-11-17T08:26:38.640-05:00This is excellent.
We can't really judge some...This is excellent.<br /><br />We can't really judge someone.<br /><br />I know I"ve been misjudged my entire life b/c of my shyness in real life.<br /><br />Online, I can be funny, outgoing, but in real life: I fall back and prefer to stay out of situations.<br /><br />I always feel judged, and that makes me quiet. I always think people are formulating an opinion about me, so I stay quiet.<br /><br />I am also sensitive and easily offended, which makes me move back to blend in.<br /><br />I get misjudged all the time. And people really love to spread gossip.<br /><br />I've never been good at figuring out the close knit of cliques, and how it seems people enjoy excluding.<br /><br />My close friends, in real life, know I'd do anything for them..but they also know I"m a loner, and let me have the alone time I need.<br /><br />Thanks for this post, Shell. It was wonderful. Every word.Alexandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00609629888008025050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-82120347122473351322011-11-17T07:02:02.045-05:002011-11-17T07:02:02.045-05:00Excellent post! The blogosphere offers this amazin...Excellent post! The blogosphere offers this amazing outlet where we can say what we want, whenever we want to say it. That can be dangerous. It's so important to keep our judgy pants off!! It could be us tomorrow.Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065409375913634202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-40871783208689005072011-11-17T02:33:10.581-05:002011-11-17T02:33:10.581-05:00Love love this! I try to give people the benefit ...Love love this! I try to give people the benefit of the doubt always. And I hope they do the same for me. <br /><br />Thankfully the majority of bloggers are very kind. :)Grumpy Grateful Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18280877945184331361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-50671346143108706792011-11-16T22:39:29.056-05:002011-11-16T22:39:29.056-05:00Oh you are so right!! Go with your gut, not the g...Oh you are so right!! Go with your gut, not the gossip! Just be nice grown ups:) Hugs, I feel blessed to have "met" so man beautiful people on line!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17218519474695662328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-76477050066997748652011-11-16T22:24:37.819-05:002011-11-16T22:24:37.819-05:00Well written, Shell. I've sort of held the Bl...Well written, Shell. I've sort of held the Blogosphere at arm's length for this very reason. I simply don't care to get caught up in any drama.<br /><br />Problem is? Bloggers are IRL people. And where there are people, drama is not too far in the distance.<br /><br />But we can hope. I certainly do. And I'm glad you do, too.Desperate Housemommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09513952335177773965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-90063879082782794722011-11-16T20:48:40.390-05:002011-11-16T20:48:40.390-05:00I'm going to remember that--go with your gut, ...I'm going to remember that--go with your gut, not gossip. Good to remember in all aspects of life.Rach (DonutsMama)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14029074046922966097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-88237268318159946212011-11-16T18:20:40.601-05:002011-11-16T18:20:40.601-05:00Very well said. I think sometimes, by virtue of be...Very well said. I think sometimes, by virtue of being a woman, we are a little more sensitive or catty than we need to be. Not sure what that is...but yes, I wish it stayed in jr high (funny that my boys look at me funny when I say "jr high"...how old does that make me??!!!)Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08354973669191454830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3027534132693377698.post-15053363846246508942011-11-16T18:14:30.647-05:002011-11-16T18:14:30.647-05:00Shell?
Your heart is so, so very good.
That is...Shell? <br /><br />Your heart is so, so very good. <br /><br />That is all. xoGalit Breenhttp://theselittlewaves.comnoreply@blogger.com